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 zephyrmoon
Joined: 5/30/2009
Msg: 4
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Wow, that sucks! At least he didn't leave you with the check.

Maybe you were gone too long and he was afraid you'd buzzed out the back window of the ladies' room? I've heard of that happening, too.

Edit: Just read what eschec mat posted before me. I've heard lots of those tales, too! Looks like women *might* even be a little more to blame for this kind of thing than men...dare I say it?
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 6
Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:21:14 PM
Wow! Another woman recently started a thread about the very same subject. This happened to her also. She didn't have a way home though, and had to call someone to come and pick her up. I cannot believe a grown man would treat a woman so badly. How difficult is it to say that you just don't think you are a match?

Was this the first time you met each other or had you met before? Next time, be sure you just meet for a brief period to see if both of you want to go on a real date.

Fortunately, the majority of men would never consider behaving in such a manner.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 9
Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:07:27 PM
Good golly, Miss Molly--I am speechless, and I am rarely speechless.

Unless the other party were incredibly rude, I have no idea how someone could do that. I also cannot imagine that you were incredibly rude.

Sigh.
 Write Time
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/6/2009 3:30:41 AM
Unfortunately, this is all too common -- from both genders. I've heard of people sneaking out of bathroom windows, walking away when the other person left the room, bolting at first sight ...

I guess it's just easier for some folks to be completely rude and inconsiderate than to politely say "Sorry, but this isn't going to work for me."

Sorry for your experience.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 20
Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 7/6/2009 7:24:00 AM
You got lucky. You quickly found out what type of man he was. He at least paid the tab.
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:57:05 AM
I was thinking, maybe he sat there, waiting for her to come out of the bathroom, and figured she had left him there????????????
 hellgremlin
Joined: 5/23/2009
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Posted: 7/6/2009 9:58:20 AM
I was thinking, maybe he sat there, waiting for her to come out of the bathroom, and figured she had left him there????????????


I was thinking the same thing. If a broad on a first date vanished into the crapper for 20+ minutes, I'd consider splitting too - but not before I paid for the meal.

On the flip side, if I was being a jerk, I'd have split and stiffed her with the bill.

OP, just how long were you in there - long enough to powder your nose, or long enough to squeeze out some Lincoln Logs on top of that?
 hellgremlin
Joined: 5/23/2009
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Posted: 7/6/2009 11:01:06 AM
Here here. About time we started standing up for our fellow fellows.

These forums are rife with shrieking man-hating harpies!
 needs no introduction
Joined: 5/2/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/6/2009 11:05:30 AM
i did that once but i didn't pay. he had a lot of tattoos and i hadn't read them all prior to the date.

my question is do you have any visible tattoos of a racist nature?
 Chiwrtr72
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Posted: 7/6/2009 12:09:11 PM

Atleast he was nice enough to have paid the tab. Give the guy a little credit.


I guess he gets a little credit but to bail without saying anything... *shakes head*

OP be glad that you got the truth of this guy early on and that it didn't cost you anything more than time.

At least you have a good story for next time...
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Posted: 7/6/2009 11:24:31 PM
{{{{{If a broad on a first date vanished into the crapper for 20+ minutes, I'd consider splitting too - but not before I paid for the meal.}}}}}}}

do we have to use the term "broad"? its such a disrespecful 70's term.
 radikal1
Joined: 7/4/2009
Msg: 43
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Posted: 7/7/2009 5:47:09 PM

If you don't answer my million questions, that is kewl, I really am just wondering how or why that keeps happening.


Here's a clue: People = a$$holes. That's why it keeps happening. A lot of guys today have no testicular fortitude and the same is true for many women (whatever the thing women have that's like testicular fortitude) so some people just can't be nice or do the right thing. Everything is disposable including people. They think this is how life is. The moment it's not going their way, they're up and out. That's why it keeps happening. People are cruel. Even if I didn't like the OP I'd be nice enough to say "Hey, it's not working." or something. No one has to be a butt munch, it's just not cool.

-Nate
 hellgremlin
Joined: 5/23/2009
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Posted: 7/8/2009 12:34:29 PM

do we have to use the term "broad"? its such a disrespecful 70's term.


Precisely why I use it, sweet cheeks.
 Icestorm
Joined: 1/15/2007
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Posted: 7/9/2009 3:52:50 PM
Mmmmm....maybe YOU were gone too long?
 bowlingfordates
Joined: 7/3/2008
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Posted: 8/15/2009 1:00:31 PM
The length of the restroom break may not be the whole issue. The timing could have played a role as well. What if she got up and went to the restroom just after the check arrived at the table? Then she proceeded to stay in there for quite awhile. He could have assumed she did this just so she didn't have to pay and became irritated and left.

I do not agree with bailing out on someone without giving them an explanation. If you give someone a ride you are obligated to make sure they get home.(hopefully in one peice)
 LuvsLaughs
Joined: 4/14/2009
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Posted: 8/15/2009 9:31:26 PM
Prior to going to the restroom, you weren't on your cell phone, were you? I heard it from a man that he left a woman sitting at the table because of that. I thought.. right on, dude.. you're on a date... and she isn't there... you may as well leave. (seen guys doing that too.) Otherwise.. don't know what to tell you... he should have just told you that you seem nice.. but he isn't feeling it. Nice to meet you... best of luck on your search. Smile.. seem sincere, even if she smells like dollar tree perfume. hahaha.
 Happily Ever...maybe
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 60
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Posted: 8/15/2009 9:58:40 PM
Its amazing what some people will do. It's such a childish thing, to just bail like that, with no regard for another person.

I had it happen to me too once, about 15 years ago. We had initially talked a few times, at length, on one of those phone dating lines (evidently I was a glutton for punishment then too!), and I went to pick her up on a Sat afternoon. We had decided to go to one of those outdoor clubs down by the river that were all the rage then, with sand volleyball, pig roasts, live bands etc. We sat there for over 3 hours, having a few drinks, laughing, listening to the music. She even went to the bathroom once, and I think I did too.

She excused herself to go to the ladies room again and I said OK. I'm sitting there, and I suddenly realize its been 20 minutes. They were having a tattoo exhibition inside, and she had mentioned she was interested in that, so I thought perhaps she was just window shopping on her way back. I went in and walked around looking for her, but no sign. So I went back outside to wait, and slowing having it dawn on me that she had bailed. I was replaying the day over in my head, wondering what had happened and where it went wrong, since it seemed like we were having a really good time. At that moment I feel someone tap me from behind, and I turn around to see a little person (I kid you not, it was like something out of a David Lynch movie!), and he tells me that so and so isn't coming back, and had asked him to tell me. Now I'm not sure if she knew this guy and was hanging out elsewhere in the crowd watching, or if he was just a stranger she had asked to relay a message. Either way, it was bizarre, and I was seriously pissed.

Here's where it gets even better! I walked outside to my car, only to find it had been towed! Where I had parked was a legal parking spot during the afternoon, but not later in the day, which of course I didn't know. I had to walk a mile and a half to the impound lot, and when I asked how much to get my car, they told me I had a few outstanding parking tickets from a few years before I needed to pay as well as the towing fee. It cost me almost $500, and as I drove home I could feel the steam coming out of my ears, and thought of all the names I was going to call this woman when I got home.

By the time I finally got there though I realized I was better off to have found out what kind of person she was sooner rather than later. I called and got her answering machine (big surprise), and I very calmly told her that what she had done was beneath contempt, and that I was sure karma would one day catch up with her and repay her in kind. It was actually a lot more satisfying leaving her that message almost dispassionately than the expletive-strewn tirade I had planned as I walked down the road to get my car.

The lesson for me...You live & you learn I guess. Some people just plain suck! But don't let them change your attitudes about all people.
 thwipp89
Joined: 3/3/2009
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Posted: 9/19/2009 11:14:52 PM
at least he showed up! i had a date set up, drove 25 miles in traffic and waited an hour past our agreed upon time and she never showed, so i split. she actually got mad when i told her how rude and inconsiderate she was and she said i should've waited longer- she said she showed but i doubt it. she never called and she had my number. what a *earmuffs*!

at least you got a free meal out of the deal. at least i saved myself buying a meal...
 javalover535
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 69
Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 9/20/2009 2:49:59 PM
That is exactly what I do for a first meet. Leave to go to the rest room after we have been talking about 20 minutes and I have finished a glass of merlot.

And clearly tell my date.....this is her opportunity to call her friends....the police....the manager... even leave.... Or she may order me another glass of merlot! When I return, from the rest room if she is there and my glass refilled....awesome. If she is gone...awesome. (I imagine it would hurt for a few seconds...but I'll get over it)

Everyone need a window to escape without pressure...... it seems he could not handle the pressure. Count your blessings!
 winteragain
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 9/20/2009 3:06:55 PM
pretty sure your cuteness was too much for him. i dunno man, i think it's kinda funny he paid for you and left. most mysteries are bad. it's always "who stole my car?" or "who threw that baby at me?" but now it's "who paid for my meal without asking anything in return?" thank yourself for being awesome Zoieflame
 open book
Joined: 11/6/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 9/20/2009 3:41:49 PM
You can never know what's going on in someone else's head. All early dating should be done with an open mind, a zen-like state of accepting what is without attachment to any particular scenario, no matter how normal. People find so many ways to be strange.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 10/18/2009 10:10:53 AM
Uh ! perhaps ,he saw someone that he knows,,,,, or bored/pissed of with your company, I have been tempted to do that to few of my dates but my breeding dictates me not to do it.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 79
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:44:45 AM
I think some people want to meet new people but really hate the conversation they have to have once they decide it's not a match, so they vanish instead.

What can ya do? You will meet all kinds of people online...at least he picked up the tab, he must have known it was the least he could do for chickening out.
 swampbuggy1
Joined: 8/29/2009
Msg: 80
Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 10/19/2009 3:05:50 PM
maybe try doin somthing else with your time
 radikal1
Joined: 7/4/2009
Msg: 83
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Posted: 10/19/2009 10:35:37 PM

And who could forget the nursing student who met me at Cracker Barrel for dinner, spending the entire ‘date’ coloring (yup, coloring…with Crayolas!) an anatomy book, talking about how much she hated men, and how her ex-husband committed suicide just a month earlier. Lucky **stard…


The chicks who hate guys, but date them, that's a walking dichotomy. Luckily I haven't had a bad POF experience. I even landed a testimonial, so yea, it's cool. As for the man hating chicks you can sit them straight real quick by saying, "Then why are we here?" Normally women who really hate men, want nothing to do with them. The others are just full of it.
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