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 leadpipe1958
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 4
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If there is a problem it is not yours.I might suggest a plastic bed cover and have fun. Be your self.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:32:20 AM
It's too bad you feel it has to be controlled. I've been with two women who were squirters,and not knowing when it was coming was half the fun.
 CharmedinKtown
Joined: 5/25/2009
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Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/6/2009 6:42:07 AM
There are ways to control it. It takes time and patience.... its far harder to control it than to cum that way to begin with.

With a toy or your partner, get to the edge of orgasm and then stop. Keep doing it until you recognize the feeling of the stoppage of an orgasm in the making. You will be able to control that. The flow, same thing.

I can gush or I can cum without the fluid. It has its uses (public sex or vehicle sex)... I say explore with someone you really enjoy, make a game of it. After getting to the edge of that orgasm a number of times, when you finally cum good god in heaven its a huge huge O.
 DAVE632
Joined: 6/17/2006
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Posted: 7/6/2009 8:00:04 AM
OP, when I started the TRY THIS thread

(http://forum.literotica.com:81/showthread.php?t=70892)

on LIT I wasn't able to find ANYTHING in the library, in Chapters or Indigo (book stores) ... ANYWHERE on proper G-Spot stimulation let alone the side effects of massive G-Gasms - FEMALE EJACULATION (the fluid was then "officially", urine it had to be. Where else would it come from? and other such ignorant conclusions). When people began to discover this for themselves it became obvious that for the majority of women the G (or A) spot stimulation was THE way to achieve the much envied SQUIRTS of the G-Gasms as portrayed so often these days in porn flicks.

Since then the thread is almost 50 / 50 G-Gasms discussion and SQUIRTING discussion. There have been a number of posts asking EXACTLY what you've asked and there are some posts where women posts that they can kind of "turn it off" if they really really clench at the point of orgasm but the result is a very swollen feeling with cramps and the like after. There is obviously a much larger reservoir of fluids in many women than the sexperts have ever been able to identify in NON-turned-on women in their labs!!

Most of the How DO I NOT SQUIRT now that I've started? messages are to me via IM and emails and they seem embarrassed to even ASK which is understandable considering how important they THOUGHT it was to their orgasm and over all state of arousal and release. What is shown in the porn vids gives many women the impression that they are missing out on at least 50% of their orgasm if they don't squirt. Despite repeated posts that according to most women it doesn nothing to actually enhance the orgasm - it just squirts - they insist on trying and trying and trying until it happens. Some of them report having 30 to 50 orgasms a night but feel like "failures" because the squirt thing ain't happening. Personally I find that attitude ludicrous considering how many women can't cum at all or so rarely they remember the last time as only a fading memory. To discover you are multi-multi orgasmic and then claim you're FAILING because you don't ejaculate is ... DUMB!!

When it does happen - the squirt response I mean - there is a huge sigh of relief and soon after the novelty wears off, the MESS becomes a nuisance and they PM me for advice on "HOW DO I STOP NOW" For the most part I tell them the truth. YOU PROBABLY CAN'T. Some women have managed to kind of squeeze it off but as mentioned they feel crappy afterward - kind of internal BLUE BALLS.

I think the ONLY way you can avoid the AMOUNT of fluid released is to have your G-Gasm very quickly and NOT be turned on before hand. It will bring on sexual satiation without time for the skenes to fill with fluid. Some women have tried this and report moderate success but like clenching, it has its down side. .... NO extended love making sessions. NO nights where you cum 30 or 50 times. This is certainly NOT the advice you want to hear if you love the all evening sessions with your lover - cuming over and over and over again. You can have a quickie in a relatives rec room without flooding the basement but even then - if you're turned on prior to then the skenes will do what you've trained and trained for them to do - namely fill with fluids and spew like hell whenever you're orgasming. You GOT what you wished for!!! It REALLY takes the spontaneity away from sex a lot of times. If it happens naturally then you learn to love and live with it. I have warned women for years to be careful WHAT YOU WISH FOR though. If you don't squirt just enjoy the orgasms and consider yourself lucky and normal. The ejaculation is something that most women have to work at - like working at better times when they're running a marathon. It is developed and improved on over time and with lots of practice.

There are guys who LOVE it but methinks it is based on a very short term love affair with the CONCEPT and a / or singlular event(s) - not the nightly preps, never any spontaneity and never being able to roll over, spoon and fall asleep together right after - not unless you're BOTH wearing life vests to bed.



 Got Trance
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 12
Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:08:10 AM

Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?

Please contact me immediately. I am going to start a group on how to control squirting.
Meetings will be the first Wed. of the month.
I will be teaching the class myself. I believe in a "hands on" approach and will be available for one on one lessons.
There is no charge for this class. It is a public service. Tell your friends.

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 e*Musing
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:21:53 AM

I would like some legitimate tips on control. Less fluid in less fluid out-true but I need more than that to work with. Sometimes we just don't have the inclination to tread water.

Ahhhhhh...I know this sounds radical...but...you could stop having orgasms. Shouldn't be too hard...about 80% of the adult male population is actually pretty good and not providing orgasms. ;(
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 15
Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:06:53 PM
There should be no effort on your part to control the flow of liquid
due to squirting. If you do, the process will also limit your
enjoyment of sex with your partner.

If you choose to worry, concern yourself with the flow PATH rather
than the flow VOLUME. The solution to the path problem can range from
simple to complex depending on the circumstances.

The simplest is to have sex in the shower. The flow can easily be
washed away.

Someone suggested lining the bed with a plastic cover; another very
simple solution.

Another very simple solution is to enjoy the sexual encounter outside
in a secluded wooded area, such as a forest or park.

These are THREE path control possibilities that come to mind at this
moment. I am sure you have a creative mind, so any other solutions
should be up to your pleasure.

Just remember that controlling the FLOW **INHIBITS** pleasure.
Controlling the PATH creatively **ENHANCES** pleasure.
 CharmedinKtown
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 16
Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:18:39 PM
Ohhh yes, in addition to my first post on this on how to stop... do know there is a painful side affect as someone mentioned. Female blue balls.... it can be in the form of cramping, or your clitoris may stay engorged, the heat and length of time hard can make the skin peel.

So I would suggest buying rubber sheets and relax and enjoy.
 pathwalker49
Joined: 4/6/2008
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Posted: 7/6/2009 2:06:59 PM
Love a good squirter baby, come on over.
 MIkeJ1904
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:43:48 PM
The OP isn't concerned during "normal" scheduled type sex.
What does she do if she shows up at his office while he is working late or he starts fondling her while she is cleaning off the kitchen table?
It would suck not to be able to be spontaneous
 angelonely
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 20
Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/6/2009 7:39:40 PM
Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?

Splash guards? Rubber sheets? Snorkel for your partner?
 DAVE632
Joined: 6/17/2006
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Posted: 7/6/2009 9:40:35 PM
Considering this is an ADVICE thread and the question is fairly specific - I think you forgot something. Something IMPORTANT!



So if we were in a situation where we didn't want to get 'messy', we would just avoid doing that specific thing.



WHAT?

What SPECIFIC THING do you AVOID doing so you don't ejaculate? Does it happen sometimes ANYWAY? As one poster said, Once the GSPot is activated it really doesn't matter WHAT you're doing the GSpot WILL likely trigger and once that happens S P U R T !!! So even if you AVOID doing THAT THANG that produces ejaculation can it / does it still happen anyway sometimes??

THE number one email I'm getting from my TRY THIS thread is HOW DO I NOT SPURT? If what you're suggesting is simply stick with clitoral orgasms if you don't want to make a mess that's fine but plse be specific so we know WHAT it is you're doing or NOT DOING to trigger an ejaculation OR NOT as the situation d!cktates.


 Sandew
Joined: 8/9/2008
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Any tips on how to effectively control squirting?
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:39:18 PM
The only way to control it, is not to enjoy the sex!
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