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 DOYOULOVEDARK-Chocolate?
Joined: 6/22/2005
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Why do you think Be alone or settle for someone that is not Your type.
 lovsimplemen
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 3
Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 7:28:32 AM
alone....
I would rather be alone then with
someone that really isnt my type.
I have just come out of a relationship
just like that and it wasnt cute to say the least

 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 7/6/2005 7:51:15 AM
It's always better to be alone ... always.
 church guardian
Joined: 8/21/2004
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 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 6
Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 8:52:24 AM
I am the decenter ,

I married a woman that was not my type at all , she was overweight and very boring but she loved me, I was not in love with her , but fell in love about 2 years later , so crazy for her .

, I made her my type , she was no longer boring but quite crazy and bubbly , hard body and athletic. I did the same too as per her likings , people are eachother's lifetime gift , why not keep giving ?

You know people here may say I was shallow for changing her but she acepted and loved the change , people change during their lifetime anyhow , why not change for the better , especially for your spouse .

I miss her so much .

If I meet a great lady like that again , will do it again .
 Semper Verite
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/6/2005 9:02:07 AM
Been there, done that. Alone is definitely the lesser of the two evils.
 Frrosty
Joined: 3/21/2004
Msg: 9
Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 9:38:59 AM
Better with no positive then with a negative.


So I.... will choose:

"alone"

 SweetKristine
Joined: 8/26/2004
Msg: 10
Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 9:48:21 AM
I am chosing to be alone...b/c i am no longer going to settle just for the sake of having a man in my life........so until the right one comes along..im single..not alone :)
 Stephanos Primus
Joined: 7/6/2005
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Posted: 7/6/2005 9:57:17 AM
I love being alone... but hey, no one likes to be lonely. If you're really asking 'is it better to be lonely, or to settle?' I say it's better to be lonely. It's been a looong time since I felt lonely, but I still remember how much it hurt... but it ultimately hurts a whole lot more, on several levels sometimes, to be with someone we aren't in tune with.
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 12
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Posted: 7/6/2005 10:03:04 AM
niggles ,

You have to know about what real love to understand what I am talking about , the great majority of people do not know what real love , not being my type or any person talking about this is actually and physiical and personality atraction thing , the click , the clicking together , the concept of love is much more than that , love is not like spontaneous combustion or the heart beating suddenly when you see someone for the first time love at first site has happened to me so many times . Crazy in love doing ccrazy things , being in love is more of the me thing , me I want you , no one can have you not even your freinds , it is the animal attraction .

Love is actually created by two poeple that know how to love and give , two friends , two siblings , parent and child , love is a desicion, kind of like God and country thingy, mother and child is a mom decision , some make the desicion to dump the family or child , it is a decision not to love. Love does not die one desides to kill it , one or the other do it.

You may think I am weird but that is what I believe , I was taught in a special school and by my parents by my other family members by example , love is created by giving and if both give , the two people in question will rarely if ever have problems , if one does not know how to love , the one that knows can teach if willing , one has to deny themselves unselfishly for this .

Jesus denied his confort and saftey for us , he was not in love with us and di not teach us to be in love , he taught us to love , how to give and deny yourself a little or alot.

What I know how to do is when I have a best friend and female that is not my type , she is still a possible mate for me even if she is not my type and I love her like a sister only , as long as she is willing .

relationship like this to many think it is boring , it is what you want it to be becuase , it is up to both and the familiarity between eachother , sex can be crazy cuz what one wants will be given .

Well that is the way I am , you may not understand .
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 13
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Posted: 7/6/2005 10:05:38 AM
I guess most people here love to be alone , I wonder why they are here in the first place ? even if it is just for chatting , I hate being alone lived in the mountains alone for 4 years as a teen , not my cup of tea.
 Knight Rider
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 7/6/2005 10:18:33 AM
Well dude,where is she now,you're alone ain't ya,so your theory didn't work
now did it??

Of course I may have jumped the gun,and If I did dude,sorry!

I once debated that theory once,I was so tired of being alone,wanting so much to
feel the loving touch of a womans hand,to be held and be loved and fill that
loneliness deep inside!

Then I met this girl,she was ever so sweet,but she was too dang quick,she was willing
to move to my town and move in with me feeding me lines like "I'll never leave you,
you'll never feel alone again ..." and so on!

As sweet as she was,she wasn't my type,and she really went off the deep end when
she said she loved me after only 3months!

And this was a girl who claimed she been so hurt in the past by men and other things I won't mention here!

I thaught that to be odd,'cause i got hurt too,and ain't no way I'll fall in love that quick!

So I decided to stay alone,rather be alone then to be with someone who ain't my type!

As much as it sucks not having a woman next to me,rather be alone then feel alone with
someone who i don't love!

Knight Rider!
 Knight Rider
Joined: 4/10/2005
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Posted: 7/6/2005 10:32:13 AM
maybe we should all hang out at the beach and have a party squeak!!!
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 18
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Posted: 7/6/2005 10:35:59 AM
knight rider ... she died
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 19
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Posted: 7/6/2005 10:38:30 AM
knight rider , that girl did not know how to love she was desperatly in love with being in love, she did not know the difference , that is so stressfull , to be clinged on so hard too quickly
 Knight Rider
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 7/6/2005 10:43:53 AM
Sorry sddude,I knew I was gona put my foot in my mouth and I feel so
awfull for saying that!

I understand what you mean,but I sure rather be alone,can't handle a relationship
right now!Once again sddude,I'm sorry if I overstepped my bounderies!

Knight Rider!
 greeneyes2243
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 21
Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 10:52:40 AM
I'll never settle. I would rather be alone, then be with someone that is not my type. Theres someone out there for everyone, I truly believe that. You just have to be patient. It'll happen
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 22
Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 11:08:32 AM
That is okay knight rider , it has been two years , a little far now .

What I seem to hear here , is that most people have had very bad experiences with relationships that were on going and prefer to be alone , fighting and stress , evil deeds abounded and added to unhappiness and disatisfaction ,

sorry , I cannot relate to any kind of tumultuous relationship , my pearents never had any fights or problems that I have known.

sorry for not understanding your delimas , maybe I am a virgin at fighting or serious anger .

Maybe I am too much of an "angel" to understand how you guys feel . I have been treated badly by women , ALOT but not in a relationship setting , when I was treated badly I never ever mean or angry just , respectful and feel hurt inside .

I would rather be with someone because I KNOW how to make things work , maybe I am an odd or weird . I am kind of the type of guy that can make a happy marriage out of an arrnged marriage with alien from another planet , hahaha
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 23
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Posted: 7/6/2005 12:20:45 PM
I am not saying , getting to love garbage that has no soul . both people have to have the same outlook both people have to know how to love , know how to give , it is not about quality but about both knowing how to love , deny themselves , be for the other like the other be for you ,

I never did sports but my wife anted a well built guy that did sports even though she was overweigfht and loved to do nothing , I got into surfing and alot of stuff cuz she wanted it , it became me , I love surfin and extreme sports , I was always the guy kids teased and beat up after school cuz I was a geeky weekling , she changed me for ever , for the better , I did the same for her , I wanted her and motivated her to do things with me , participate in may car show stuff , she even painted and upolstered, I helped her with her fashion show stuff that I motivated her into cuz I love women who are flashy into fashion , there so pretty , it became her . She even let me into the models big dressing room cuz she new I liked to see pretty naked ladies apart to get me reved up for sex in an odd place in there.

It is about helping people find themselves , get better every year , every year being fabulous for yourself and the one you choose to love ,

Sexual attraction at first was quite boring , like having sex with a best friend or a sister type , we learn to give and take so much that people thought we were deprived or perverted
becuase we were so curious and creative , we even did it on the plane several times , what guy would not want a woman that does EVERYthing in the porno movies he chooses in exchange for her own fantasies ?

To have a relationship is not static and down hill like most of you seemed to have had it is having a crazy fun life , that gets interesting day by day .

Ever had a best friend that you never ever had a fight with and every moment was cool and enjoyable but you felt they were not your type for any relationship ? that is the way I felt at first ...

I think you people limit yourself and want the person to already be made for you at exactly your specifications , when a person is giving and forsakes some of their wants or the lack of they can be as maleable as you yourself want to ,

selfishness and inflexibility is a sign of immaturity in my book at least in my world , maybe that is why relationships fail , people want it al lfor them selves one or both do , they claim they do not want or need to change but they always do , why change worse and worse as times pass , worse foryourself , family and your spouse. Instead of moving foreward in a relationship , it moves backward . Must strive to be better and better everyday , without becomming a slave to it , it is like striving for sainthood but withing the relationship , if both do it is is a great thing , if one does it only , it becomes slavery for one , if no one does it it just becomes a boring or conflictive relationship. That is why most people take vacations to rekindle the relationship , because they did not go foreward , they want to forget who they are for a little while to pretend they are someone else other than a couple , a little fantasy ,

What if everyday it were like a honeymoon , something new or something funny or even stupid , never a dull moment ... I guess I am a dreammer that actually lived the dream and wants another one . I have so far have two friends that are candidates I have not told them but they are interested in me , I resist still because it is still a scary thing , that is why I ant to know more women and have some dates , the more I know the more I can have fun now and see what more is out ther , this year so far , no dates.
 Lusty Kitty2
Joined: 5/23/2005
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Posted: 7/7/2005 5:47:56 PM
Alone. Why settle? It just makes both people miserable AND it is unfair to the other person
 mytruthhurts
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/7/2005 6:34:06 PM
That depends on how compatible you are, even with having not much in common. I've known many couples who don't have much in common, but they're great together.....and seeing as they're technically not each other's "type", they have some good debates that provoke some thought. I think if someone is too much of your own type, it's easy to be co-dependent and have them support everything that you want them to. So it depends entirely on the person. If a woman is not my type, but challenges me to expand my intellect and way of thinking, i'm all for it. Sometimes you don't want to preach too much to the converted, 'ya know?
 mytruthhurts
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/7/2005 6:37:32 PM
That's a honorable admission there, rocker. At least you realized what you did wrong--most never do!
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 32
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Posted: 7/7/2005 6:37:36 PM
off Well and you do have ME to play with, right?
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/7/2005 7:24:22 PM
off Lighten up, dear you know it was just a tease and I like to have fun. Don't be so down on yourself, I enjoy you being here okay?
 BuzWeaver
Joined: 6/25/2005
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/7/2005 7:34:29 PM

Why do you think Be alone or settle for someone that is not Your type.


I don’t think it’s a good idea simply to settle.
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