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 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 3
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Ask yourself this as a man or woman: do I sleep with my male/female friends? Unless you're gay you don't. Therefore, a FRIEND is someone you NEVER fu.. that's it - simple. Since men and women can't be friends without there being some sort of story behind the friendship in the first place, there's always a chance that the friendship gets screwed up because A wants more than B.

I had a female friend last year and we slept next to each other in her bed but nothing ever happened. However, we had a story though when things DID happen... We don't hang out anymore. Being friends and nothing but friends with a woman you want to have more with, is nothing but torture.
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 5
do friends kiss you sleep with you and hug you ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 1:16:51 PM
NO I do not sleep with my friends! Ugh! I hug my friends, and suffer the peck on the cheeks from friends who are not from the States, but I will not give out friendly little pecks on the cheek or lips. NO NO NO! My lips are for a lover, and not just anyone.
 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 6
do friends kiss you sleep with you and hug you ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 1:27:58 PM
It depends on what type of kissing, and "sleeping" we are referring to. Yes, we can kiss a friend on the cheek, hug them and share a bed to rest (sleep).

However, if we are swapping spit, our chests are touching intimately as we hug, and we are getting our groove on when we share a bed. That's more than a platonic friend.


 Okietokie88
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/27/2009 1:48:08 PM
Damn dude what's up wit that lol.Seriously I don't see the logic behind all of that,if they are a "friend" I don't see much wrong with physical connections. As long as their is a mutual understanding and line in which either understand and acknowledge. I understand if you're in a room full of single women and you don't want to cme off as unavailable but I cuddle with ,kiss, hug and say I love you at times to a good amount of my female friends.
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 8
do friends kiss you sleep with you and hug you ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 2:04:04 PM
Just think if the OP is talking about same sex buddies.
 soupcan00
Joined: 5/2/2009
Msg: 10
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Posted: 7/27/2009 2:23:45 PM
I hug, kiss and sleep with ALL my friends... They ALL find it annoying as hell ...
 soupcan00
Joined: 5/2/2009
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Posted: 7/27/2009 2:55:31 PM
Friendships ALL i can offer you, sorry ... Dude
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/27/2009 8:19:14 PM
I hug and kiss all my friends, male or female.
I have slept w/ many of my girl friends.....and a few of my guy friends.....
I have skinny dipped w/ girl friends.....and guy friends.
I have watched porn w/ girl friends......and guy friends.
We're friends......we share good times.
That does not mean we have sex.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 16
do friends kiss you sleep with you and hug you ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 9:49:41 PM
I don't do that with people I date - lol so no, my friends don't do that.
 LuvsLaughs
Joined: 4/14/2009
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Posted: 7/27/2009 10:17:20 PM
I have hugged many friends... both female and male. I hug my kid and my parents too. A kiss on the cheek or forehead is an endearment. A kiss on the lips is usually way more than friends. I did share a bed with some friends once,because it was all we had to sleep on. We were all clothed.. if by sleep , you mean sex.... mmmmmmm.... I am 46 and in my life, I have had two occassions in which that occurred with a guy friend. In both cases... we cared deeply about eachother, but were not right enough for each other to head toward marriage and we were between relationships, felt lonely for touch and found solace in eachothers arms. That's ok as long as both parties agree to it and understood it for what it was. This is what is now called "friends with benefits". lol..... it is not what I seek... but it can happen when there is a level of complete comfort and openess occurring. Did that help any?
 winteragain
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 18
do friends kiss you sleep with you and hug you ?
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:32:20 PM
friends can definitely hug, kiss on the cheek, slip a weiner in the hole. accidents happen ya know.
 jonjon87
Joined: 10/25/2008
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Posted: 7/30/2009 1:30:04 PM
honestly I would never do this. i would hug and kiss friends who are girls on the check. but nothing more. thought it would ruin our relationship.
Till one night, one of my movie buddies who i would cuddle up with and watch movies and drink with came over. and guess what the movie night turned into. the whole time we both couldnt believe what we had done. and this was like a full out thing that was going on. oral and everything. after i wolk up the next day i was like did that really happen. and we are honestly cool about it. we dont speak about it, we just let it be and we carried on. im sure somewhere down the road it will happen again. not to say i want it to, but it wasnt bad sex. there were a few things in there i wasnt expecting here to do. but hey
 jonjon87
Joined: 10/25/2008
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Posted: 7/30/2009 1:35:08 PM
we're like Zack and Miri in "Zack and Miri make a Porno" (great movie) ... before they make the porno tho... its a rare friendship, but its the best...

didnt these two fall in love. from what it sound you are nothing like zack or miri sweetheart. they loved eachother more then friends lol. that made no sense. regroup yourself plz!!!
 BChamp1226
Joined: 5/4/2009
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Posted: 7/30/2009 2:05:14 PM

the more I read he replies in th forum the more I am confused,
Everyone has a good point, I still cant imagine myself kissing huging and sleeping with friends of the opposite sex, I think its wrong. But who am i to say i am right, right?


I think you make an important distinction here. There's probably some line where most people would say 'that's OK.' Not everybody, but the majority of people. But that range can be dramatically different in certain subsets (groups) within the population. If you have a particular situation that is making you uneasy, you may want to poll people in your area/social groups to see what they specifically think. I've lived in Detroit and Dallas, and the norms are very different between the two. Imagine when you start asking people from all over the world.

However, since folks are throwing out their standards, personally hugging is cool, kissing - sans tongue - is cool. Sleeping? Too weird, unless it's FWB, and is that really your garden variety 'friend?'
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 26
do friends kiss you sleep with you and hug you ?
Posted: 8/1/2009 1:50:01 PM
Well again, if you consider every friendship one in which both fuc_k each other then as a man for example, you have to screw your male friends in the butt, too, right? And it doesn't even matter if you're straight. So that's it: you don't sleep with your friends. That's why there's a word for that type of relationship in the first place. A man's nightmare is to be labeled "friend" by a woman.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 8/1/2009 2:06:19 PM
Hugging and a kiss in greeting or parting is normal for friends but not making out and sleeping with someone or familiarizing oneself with the family jewels during a hug.

Sounds like you are encountering people that want friends with benefits, all of the trappings of a relationship without getting too involved or needing to ever work on anything.

Maybe what you are also encountering are people that aren't attracted to you sexually or recognize that you are not compatible but they like you as a person, more like a brother and I could see it would be nice to have someone to hold and be held, but if the kissing you're talking about is making out, yup, weird.
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