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Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 3
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So they are not a option for me I guess this will cost me sex sometimes oh well.

How about the lack of NOT using them will COST YOU YOUR LIFE?
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 5
Posted: 7/31/2009 10:27:33 AM
mchurch: How about getting you and your partner tested before having sex?.

How about I do!

mchurch: You cannot get an STD from someone if they don't have one to begin with...

No? Really?
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/31/2009 10:42:24 AM
Great advice church.......

If more people would take the time to talk to one another, and be tested, we would not have to even be talking about this.

Condoms are fine for casual sex, even if you still have multiple ways of catching things with one on, especially if you enjoy oral sex, so I prefer to just slow down and have both my partner and myself tested before we head down that path.

There are a few things that I believe should be available, reasonable with cost, and stigma eliminating, and testing for STD's is one of those things that I would hope more would not feel insulted by being asked or asking.

Just as we can go to the corner drug store for certain products, I believe we should be able to do the same for testing, and have the written results ready for our partner.

Will it eliminate all?.........No, but it certainly cuts down on the chances even more than the ever stated, over thought, yet misunderstood use of a condom.

Just my opinion.........
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:10:30 AM
There's a female condom available. If you can't wear a condom, this is an option.
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 11
Posted: 7/31/2009 12:06:47 PM
YesThisIsFake: Has everyone here been so brainwashed to think that you are going to die from sex? Seriously?

You can get tested and get results in 2-3 days. 2 days!

Brainwashed; no. Educated on protected sex and related topics; yes! You can get tested and get results quite quickly, but some conditions don't show symptoms until much longer (if at all).

If some condoms cause discomfort/irritation, some manufacturers are developing condoms to address this situation as there are many in the same "boat".

It is safe to say that not 1 method is going to be the absolute solution. I have seen what HIV/AIDS can do to a person. Therefore, I do not want to place myself in a compromising situation for a moment of passion.

To each his/her own, I'm not saying my way is "the way", but I will do what works best for me to keep myself healthy/alive & kicking!!!

We don't "die" from sex, we die from being uninformed and careless.
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 7/31/2009 2:11:38 PM

You can get tested and get results in 2-3 days. 2 days!

Because those of us who are educated on the facts know that while testing is a GOOD thing.. it only shows what is happening in your body at THE EXACT MOMENT the needle pierces your skin. Things like HIV can lie dormant and undetected for years.
Joined: 3/24/2009
Msg: 25
Posted: 7/31/2009 5:13:50 PM
Have your girl get a diaphragm. They are awesome!
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 26
Posted: 7/31/2009 5:36:37 PM
m_church: I was with my G/F when she wanted to donate blood... they told her that the Canadian Red Cross Clinics won't accept blood for 10 years if you have an HIV risk... (which she did) ... Is that normal for them do you know, or was the Red Cross lady out in left field...? Any idea?

I found this info for the US. I don't know if it differs in Canada, but it can't be all the much.(?)


-You have ever tested positive for HIV
-You have ever injected yourself with drugs or other substances not prescribed by a physician,
-You are a man and have had sex with another man, even once,
-You have hemophilia or another Blood clotting disorder and received clotting factor concentrate,
-You have engaged in sex for drugs or money since 1977,
-You have lived in western Europe since 1980,
-You have been held in a correctional facility (including jails, prisons and/or dete-ntion centers) for more than 72 hours in the last 12 months,
-You were born in, lived in or had sex with anyone who lived in, or received Blood products in Cameroon, Central African Republic, Chad, Congo, Equatorial Guinea, Gabon, Niger or Nigeria since 1977 (this list changes frequently; updates are very important) or,
-You are, or have been a sexual contact of someone in the above list.

NOTE: There is a special watch for potential donors who have visited or lived in England/United Kingdom from 1980 to 1999, and those who have lived and/or worked in Western Europe since 1980.


-Accident & Injury: can donate if otherwise healthy
-Aids: can not donate
-Allergies: can donate if there is no infection present and there is no treatment ongoing
-Anemia: defer donation until no symptoms exist
-Arthritis: can donate if mild and not on medication
-Asthma: those with severe asthma requiring regular treatment can not donate; can donate if there are no symptoms evident
-Babesiosis: can not donate
-Blood disorders or bleeding tendencies: can not donate
-Blood Pressure: acceptable range is 160/90 to 110/60. (see medication section below for medication restrictions.)
-Brain or spinal surgery that required a transplant of brain covering (dura mater): can not donate
-Bronchitis: defer donation until four weeks or after recovery
-CJD: When a Blood relative has been diagnosed with Creutzfeldt-Jakob Disease (CJD), or there is an increased family risk of CJD; can not donate
-Cancer: Basal cell, squamous cell skin cancers and keratosis; can not donate until removed and healed. Melanoma; can not donate. Malignant tumors; can donate five years after removal of early stage contained solid tumor, no chemotherapy, and in remission
-Chicken Pox: defer donation until four weeks after recovery
-Chlamydia: like all other venereal diseases; a minimum of a one year deferral is required
-Colds, fever, flu, sore throat: can not donate until symptoms (sore throat, cough, respiratory infection, headache) are completely gone
-Cold Sore, Fever Blister, Canker Sore: can donate
-Colitis: can not donate
-Colostomy: can not donate
-Dementia: can not donate
-Dengue: defer donation until four weeks after recovery
-Dermatitis: can donate if mild; defer donation if severe
-Diabetes: can donate if treatment is by diet control and condition is stable; defer donation if on medication
-Diarrhea: defer donation until three weeks after recovery
-Eczema: can donate if mild. defer donation if severe
-Emphysema: can not donate
-Filariasis: can not donate
-Food Poisoning: defer donation for one week after full recovery
-Gastroenteritis: defer donation for one week after full recovery
-Gall Stone: can donate if not on medication
-Gonorrhea/Syphilis: defer donation for one year after complete recovery
-Gout: can not donate
-Heart attack: can donate if greater than one year since, and no symptoms present, the attending Blood authority physician must carefully evaluate
-Heart surgery, Coronary artery bypass surgery (CABG) or angioplasty: can donate one year after surgery, if no history of heart attack, and the donor is on no medication for the heart (aspirin is okay)
-Hemochromatosis: can not donate
-Hepatitis: Hepatitis or undiagnosed jaundice after age ten; can not donate. Positive hepatitis test: can not donate. Can donate if the history of hepatitis is pertaining to mononucleosis or CMV infection
-Herpes (genital): can donate four weeks after lesions completely clear
-Leprosy: can not donate
-Malaria; had Malaria in last three years: defer donation for three years after full recovery (also see Travel and Residency Restrictions below)
-Pregnancy and Miscarriage: can donate after six weeks of full term normal delivery. Can donate six weeks after termination in third trimester. First or second trimester miscarriage can donate after stable
-Prostate: can not donate
-Sexually transmitted diseases - Genital herpes: can not donate until all lesions are completely clear
-Sickle Cell Trait: can not donate
-Seizures in the last five Years: can not donate
-Spondylosis: can donate if feeling well and not under any treatment at all
-Strokes: can not donate
-Surgery (all): can donate after healed and released from physician care.
-Syphilis: see Gonorrhea
-Thyroid: for Hypothyroid, can donate if feeling well and euthyroid on thyroxine for six months. For Hyperthyroid: can not donate until euthyroid for six months.
-Tuberculosis: can not donate until two years after complete cure
-Viral Infection: can donate after cure and off treatment
-Worms: can donate after complete cure


Ok, now that we high-jacked the condom discussion, back to our regularly scheduled discussion.
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 29
Posted: 7/31/2009 9:29:03 PM
Rule of thumb, or whatever part applicable, No glove, no love!

The exception to this is after you and your MONOGAMOUS partner have both been tested for everything, and that means a reasonable time for incubations for everything, and then one of you is either on the pill, tubes tied, vasectomy, IUD, shots, ring, or whatever.

If there is ever any doubt at to the faithfulness of your partner, insist on the use of condoms. This is your life, and your body you are dealing with. Don't take it lightly.
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/1/2009 11:34:12 AM

Have your girl get a diaphragm. They are awesome!

If you don't mind planning for sex in advance and like the taste of spermicide.

If you are in a committed relationship, are tested clean from disease, and know your partner isn't fooling around behind your back, diaphrams are great birthcontrol, but do nothing to prevent disease.

My bad on my previous post. That'll learn me to go posting on old information.

For the Canadians...
There's a quick list of eligibility requirements as well as temporary deferrals and the questionnaire they use.
Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 37
Posted: 11/26/2009 7:47:27 AM
Personally I hate condoms, but I have no problems using them if the woman I am with wish's me too, I do know that not using a condom increases the chance of the man getting off alot quicker, which kinda makes me think I should use them

Theres something about that flesh to flesh feeling that is so much more incredible, and most of the women I have been with (relationship wise) prefer no condoms as well, its funny how almost 80% if not more women on here claim they won't have sex unless the guy has a condom, how is it that I keep landed the ones who fall into the

Believe me I'm not an idiot I don't think its smart to go screwing random women without protection my views are based upon women You're actually in a relationship with.
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/26/2009 11:43:03 AM
I honestly don 't get that mentality at all. There are so many men out there who refuse to wear a condom and that's just BS to me. Any woman who lets a guy get with her and doesn't use one is an idiot in the first place. I always play it matter what!
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 42
Posted: 11/26/2009 1:35:23 PM
Very simple if you do not want to make love to a Glad bag !!!!!!! both of you get tested no big deal this way you both show each other your tests and you dont have to deal with it.
Joined: 11/12/2009
Msg: 45
Posted: 11/26/2009 10:46:05 PM
I am stuck between a rock and a hard place

I am always horny and I was created to please women, Many tell me to go into pornography
the problem is I'm hung like an infant.

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