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 scenicgirl1
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 1
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You are chatting to some one here that you find reasonably attractive and seems nice but not blowing you away, conversation is kinda dull, what you into bla blah blah. For me if they have dodgy taste in music i kinda make a judgement that we are going to be incompatible... I think taste in music can tell a lot about a person if they are into mainstream I reckon they are mainstream and I'm always interested in someone a little different with an interesting perspective and life experience. Am I being shallow? what are your deal breakers??
 winteragain
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 2
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Posted: 8/20/2009 2:48:10 AM
Nah... judging someone because they like a certain genre of music is totally not shallow. It's perfectly fine. My deal breaker happens to be about music as well! I don't like people that listen to Mozart or Beethoven or any classically arranged music because there's no words in them! Ha! People that listen to these guys are so lazy they would rather listen to instruments than listen to spoken lyrics and trying to figure out the hidden meaning behind the songs. If I listen to rap, the message is clear: rob people and have sex with black girls. If I listen to Mozart, the piano is not conveying any meaningful language vital in communication terms. If you're mad at someone are you going to tell them you're mad or are you going to play a piano at them? This is what I think about you without using words: F-sharp, E7 sus 4, D seventh, F-sharp diminished fifth, and to top it off G-minor sixth baby!
 MalaSam
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 8/20/2009 8:22:48 AM
Hhhmmm cant say that music is a deal breaker for myself, I have such a varied taste in music....like from PearlJam to 2pac to Take That, I know Ive just shot myself in the foot by all you music snobs (kidding)

Nah, a deal breaker for me is sexual inuendoes, asking for a msn/phone number/date too soon, or a negative attitude.

Also I get annoyed with guys who dont bother to read my profile, so if I know they havent read it I call them out ont it, I respect it when they can admit to just looking at the pic, but If not, thats a deal breaker.
 Minieme
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 5
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Posted: 8/21/2009 12:04:04 PM
Malasam:

Very same myself! Second, Third msg... My mobile is.... come on... it screams desperation if im honest!!

Then theres the questions that the answers are clearly on your profile

Where are the chatty men
 davlaa
Joined: 12/7/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 8/22/2009 10:29:47 AM
Smoking - does my tits right in! Musically I dont mind too much if someones interests are a little different to mine, it just means that the iPod dock will have to be shared! A passing interest in some sports is a must!
 Minieme
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 8/22/2009 2:43:03 PM
Smoking seems to be a huge thing alrite!!

 liklelolly
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/4/2009 4:42:28 AM
poor personal hygiene!!!!
 zendy
Joined: 8/30/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 10/4/2009 7:33:24 AM
I think scenicgirl and winteragain are nuts.What kind of world do we live in where people get judged by what kind of music they listen to?these are two closed minded individuals.
 Irish_Guy28
Joined: 9/18/2009
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/18/2009 12:35:39 PM
And you girl`s wonder why you are single...?
get real you will end up a sad and lonely women unless you discard such rediculous standards of judging people.
 justlittlestaryme
Joined: 11/27/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/18/2009 2:02:01 PM
Ridiculous standards?

Whats ridiculous? I dont see any major judgments being passed? Are you referring to a paticular post or just having a rant and tarring all women with the sad and lonely brush?
 DaVincibro
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/18/2009 2:40:58 PM

You are chatting to some one here that you find reasonably attractive and seems nice but not blowing you away, conversation is kinda dull, what you into bla blah blah. For me if they have dodgy taste in music i kinda make a judgement that we are going to be incompatible... I think taste in music can tell a lot about a person if they are into mainstream I reckon they are mainstream and I'm always interested in someone a little different with an interesting perspective and life experience. Am I being shallow? what are your deal breakers?


SGirl You're hitting the nail right on the head as usual. You might want to stop doing that. Men are threatened by intelligent women. The fact that someone may or may not be chatty using this medium may mean the opposite in real life. Text based written communication is like being able to draw. That someone can draw faces well does not tell you anything about how well you might get on with them sexually.
Music is just the same. If someone tells you they are into Jazz that doesn't tell you anything in itself. But it might mean they will take you somewhere you would not other wise have gone. They may be the very person you would get on with because it might be that they are open minded and listening to Jazz in order to find out what other people see in it. (I tried it and it's shite )

Someone that's only into mainstream music might also be a bit of a sheep who just goes with whats popular because they are afraid to think independently. That the kind of person might be the type that if you get on really well with socially and sexually will drop you because his mates don't like you.

If you do tend too much toward someone who has the exact same tastes as you then that can be a loss. A guy who likes what you like in music is never going to broaden your horizons. He's never going to bring you to an opera or a classical concert or open up any new avenues for you. He's never going to suprise you by steering you to a cafe in Colonge where, in the open air, a pianist is playing Beethovens Fifth on a grand piano or swish you off to see Carmina Burana in Earlsfort Terrace.
 navbabe
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/19/2009 3:49:59 PM
ok for me theres a couple of things....
these short emails...oh i love your profile...i really wanna get ot know you..heres my number blah blah blah
this kinda stuff is a bit tooooooo much so i wont reply cos to me they are prob just after a quick....you know what. and thats NOT going to happen

then you get the really really long emails...where you nearly know what he had fro breakfast lunch dinner and tea that day plus all about his family etc eetc etc heres my msn addy....eh no thanks...it sounds like a scam

then i have emails....oh i totally would....i made the mistake of replying to this once...wasnt caught like that again

the ones i like are

hi how you, i looked at your profile, why dont you check mine, i think we might get along, hope to hear from you
 scenicgirl1
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 14
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Posted: 10/20/2009 6:56:34 AM
DaVincibro
thanks for kind words. But I wont be playing it dumb to keep the boys happy! And i agree about your sheep comments. of course I didnt mean guys who have the same taste as me exactly, that would be so boring, just someone who has an eclectic range of musical tastes, even if I'm not keen on some its better than hearing a compilation of recent chart hits or old faves such as GnR and the like.
 scenicgirl1
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/20/2009 3:14:04 PM
ok the fact that you spent most of this post talking about your sons girlfriend is just weird.

But apart from that, you completely contradicted yourself, you state shared experience cultural and otherwise, memories and peer influence etc. is the reason why a lot of people develop similar tastes in music, are these not also good reasons why people are compatible for a relationship.
 scenicgirl1
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 18
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Posted: 10/20/2009 4:00:09 PM
jeeze i wish people didnt take themselves so seriously on these forums.
 maryj53
Joined: 3/21/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/20/2009 5:27:24 PM
I just want to say , if someone told me they loved Daniel O'Donnell i would run a mile . Nothing in the world would make me want to share time with them , just in case they put on a CD of that eejit.
 scenicgirl1
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 10/21/2009 2:35:02 PM
IrishBrennan, I seem to have hit a nerve. I am not insinuating anything, i just thought it was a little weird and made for uncomfortable reading for me. A grown man using a 16 year old girl and his possible compatibility, just to illustrate a point, is probably unwise.

But apart from that your argument is totally flawed, you say we are not born with taste in music, yet go on to describe how she got her taste from her father, ok not born with it, but near enough, she was probably litening to his music in the womb.

You also say it would be shallow to judge someone if they are into mainstream, yet you illustrate perfectly how good it feels to find someone with similar taste.

So you have actually proven my point.

And as for taking yourself seriously, if someone says something to offend or annoy me on these threads I usually just leave a short response, or ignore it. ie I dont take it too seriously, its some strangers opinion and I wont let it get to me.
 cinderfcknrella
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 10/21/2009 2:46:10 PM

But, whilst myself and my son's BFF at school may well have been compatible as an ever loving couple, I doubt anybody would have given us the green light to pursue a romantic relationship.


OMG, that is just so fooken wrong.................the fact that you even thought about it........says it all!!
 missx3
Joined: 9/21/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 10/25/2009 4:48:28 PM
Wow! It isn't always about words.. as a musician myself, it is so easy to write words, that's the easy way out .. now, composing a symphony? Hmm.. not so easy, is it? Try it sometime and see. Instrumental music creates pictures and images in the mind that lyrics do not. Not that I am into classical, it is rather boring to me but you have to admit has some crashingly good drama in the crescendos .. la la la!!!!!!!
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