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 Commonsens
Joined: 4/6/2009
Msg: 2
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about can two people go back to a relationship after they break up.


because they are desperate birdbrain incapable to commit to memory the why it break up even after they tried everything and are to afraid to be faced alone to themselves?
 wileygy
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:20:20 PM
spoiled milk doesn't get unspoiled.it needs to be flushed down the drain.of course you can try to make something out of it ....but it sure won't be milk.
that's a moral.....or somesuch
 tam879
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:53:37 PM
It`s been almost 2 years come this Nov of my breakup. I was the dumpee but I was still hoping for a long time to try and get back. I keep thinking of the things she said in one her e-mails and she is right you can`t change who you are. Therefore I don`t think that I could get back together with her.
It still hurts to be dumped but her reasons were basically right on. Our breakup was not of a bad nature, she asked if I thought of moving in, I said no. I just couldn`t committ to that yet. I was hestitant and reluctant to do things. I am a cautious person. I wish we could get back together.
It seems like the majority are against getting back together. What is the failure rate after trying to get back together?
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 8/29/2009 5:32:02 PM
I will stay in a relationship until I am certain there is NO way to maintain it. At that point, I am DONE! Once I've reached that point, there is no going back. I will try to do whatever necessary to improve and make a relationship successful, but when it's of no avail, I know it's time for it to end. When that happens, there is no way I would reenter a romantic relationship with that person again. We might be able to be friends, or be cordial, but we will never again be in a relationship.
 Nancy54534
Joined: 1/30/2008
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Posted: 8/29/2009 9:27:17 PM
Ah sometimes the reconciliation is due to comfort zone, just used to one another's ways. You do have to work and put effort into recognizing what drove you apart in the first place. There has to be in some cases rebuilding of trust and learning to communicate. But if there was abuse of any kind stay the H___ away, that scenario will rarely change because their ego may think you couldn't find any alternatives other than themselves, so they think "GOTCHA" It does take a concerted effort to get the basics worked out, if both are earnest that forgiveness and trust can be restored that is a tremendous testament to both people.
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