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Nah dont worry about it...us guys just like to switch positions as we go along.And as long as you just slide down and grind hard in a steadily increasing tempo,youre purrfect(in my book anyway) a lil reach behind and tickle helps too
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 4
Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:09:56 AM
First off...

Stop worrying about it. If the man didn't want you on top, he wouldn't ask you to do it!

What are you doing wrong? Exactly what you said...being too self-conscious. Baby, men LOVE the boobs jiggling in their faces, seeing you "be happy" (lol) and all of it! I don't get why women get so freaking uptight about that. Oh and doggy...if they didn't want to do it they wouldn't.

Let yourself go and be in the moment...focus on how good things feel, not how your fat looks, or if your boobs are funny looking...unless you just want to doom yourself to vanilla sex forever.





PS...you might have the best O you've ever had if you allow yourself to just ride it and enjoy it...just saying!



(and no pervs of POF, that is not an invite to send me crap)
 ripley65
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 8
Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:55:42 AM
Yup... self conscious here too. It's uncomfy and my legs arent strong enough for all that bouncin around. lol Love the feeling of him being so deep inside in this position and moving my hips in circles to get it even deeper if i want, but as far as all that bouncing around stuff,,,i just cant do it.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 9
Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:14:42 AM

Too many men have complained about other women grinding it and how it hurts


Uhhh, very poor form to so much as mention prior lovers, much less lodge complaints about them to a new one.


Yup... self conscious here too. It's uncomfy and my legs arent strong enough for all that bouncin around. lol Love the feeling of him being so deep inside in this position and moving my hips in circles to get it even deeper if i want, but as far as all that bouncing around stuff,,,i just cant do it.


Awwwww, embarrassment has NO place in making love, imo. And I love to feel a woman grind on me. Last lover seemed to need hard pressure on her clit, and would focus her weight on her clit, where it pressed and rubbed against my pubic bone, and yeah, she circled, which thrilled my dyk, because it felt like I was at least touching, if not filling, every fold and crevice inside her. It, uhh, never hurt me; but it did make both of us cum, more than once, as her deserved good fortune had entitled her.
Bouncing is for teenagers.
Gotta say though that this all reminds me of a hilarious episode of Soap, where Jessica gave her reasons for never getting on top (because gravity pulled horribly at her tits and cheeks, lol).
I do lurvvv to fvck, just like everybody does, but it blows my mind just as much to be fvcked by her, and her on top is kinda like that. jmho
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 9/12/2009 9:30:56 AM
^^^^^^^^^^

Whytwater...lol...all I can do is shake my head.

But he is right...you don't BOUNCE on a dyk...what the hell??? Who said anything about bouncing?

Some of you ladies need to go find a porno where the woman's on top...seriously. It is not that hard, not that tiring (well...lol), and hella fun.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 9/12/2009 9:35:07 AM

Whytwater...lol...all I can do is shake my head.


LMAO!! You seem to do that alot at my posts. Long as you're laughing with me, and not at me, and keep your paddle at bay, we're cool.
You always did give great, uh, advice, imho. Lol
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/12/2009 11:00:39 AM
I've only had this position work for me in a few instances. My present SO loves this position. I, like some others mentioned, find it a bit too much sometimes as all of her force get transfered to my bladder and the root of my penis. I'm learning to raise my pelvis upwards when she really gets going. This gives us the kind of support neccesary to let her do her thing with total abandon. I can tell you, while this position doesn't do much for me, I just love watching her get completely absorbed in raw sex energy. And farceur is right, this doesn't have a chance of working out if my erection isn't strong to start out with, because as he states so well, the penis likes a sustained level of pleasure that hopefully will lead to climax to keep erect and her extreme movements kind of cancel out my stuff, so It's gotta start strong to be there for her till she's had her's.
So guys, if you're finding this a strenuous position, get that pelvis up so you stay fully inserted. This way she'll be less likely to hurt you by bending it.
 sub girl wanted
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Posted: 9/12/2009 11:08:04 AM
"One of my ex's told me that he "rarely" came when a girl was on top." After i read that...that goes for me as well.I love the girl on top..i can kinda relax and just enjoy it..and yeah turn around(reverse cowgirl)what a great visual for the guy! But yeah when im ready to get off i gotta flip the girl over and ram it home.Hmm never even really thought about that.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 9/12/2009 11:28:03 AM
Most men are visually stimulated, so having her on top is like a visual buffet for them. It gives them the chance to just sit back and FEEL what's happening.

It doesn't have to be hard to do. The trick is positioning your legs in such a way that you have a wide range of movement options available. IMO, frog legs (feet down, knees up.. a la porn) and bouncing will absolutely kill your legs in no time flat. If you can get your legs in the right position you can rock and grind and thrust and tip and glide your pelvis in so many ways. Don't be afraid of changing things up. Don't be a "one trick pony" and only do one thing when on top.

Sitting straight up and gliding/sliding along his length will drive his glans into your gspot. Do I really need to explain that one?

Leaning forward over him and resting on your hands will give him access to your breasts with his hands and mouth, plus allow you to really move on him. Can move slow and gentle, hard and fast, somewhere in the middle.

Laying down on top of him limits your movements significantly, but the full body sensation can be entoxicating.


But yeah when im ready to get off i gotta flip the girl over and ram it home.Hmm never even really thought about that.

That's where slamming into him can come in handy. It rarely fails to get my guy off when I'm on top... but part of that is that I'm able to get mine first, when and how that happens is totally up to me. I get lost in my head and literally he becomes an afterthought to me... it's just me and his penis at that time. Once I orgasm it's his turn and there are many times he warns me things are going too fast for him.
 lookn4goodtime
Joined: 8/17/2009
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Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/12/2009 11:46:01 AM
Yeah I do like a little grinding but not hard. I like the girl to grind slow but do enjoy when a girl is on top that she bounces up and down on my**** now thats hot! as far as they switching, yeah he just wants to do a new position. And if you haven't had a guy complain about u beingn on top, then ur fine. If he wants u to do something different while ur on top then just listen to him, that's all. hope that helps u.
 *buzz*
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Posted: 9/12/2009 12:55:23 PM
Bouncing is for teenagers.

whytwater, you seem to be on something here lol

IMHO, being on top is not about bouncing ... shall we say it's about profoundly exploring and one's 'forte' would turn another in 'a pronto'
But hey, who likes shortcuts?
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 24
Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/12/2009 3:49:08 PM
^^^^^^^^

Do you feel you got the answers you needed? Sometimes you have to ignore BJD...not sure where he goes when he goes somewhere...

In the end, the best tip is to relax!!! It's supposed to be fun and that's the biggest thing you're missing. You're making it seem like it's hard work but it ain't. Ask the guy you're with to guide you the way he'd like to have you on him...
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 26
Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:04:38 PM
arghhhghhhhhhhhh ,lol I answered twice =)
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 9/12/2009 4:09:19 PM
no, don't worry about it..this is supposed to be fun =) just relax..if you make it feel good for you, it will for them ,too..and keep this in mind..there is a type of orgasm you can have on top that you can't get in any other position (that I've found anyway =)
Nothing sexier than when a woman can enjoy this to that point of total loss of control (don't break him though ;-)

and sex...it's not about sucking or not sucking (well other than literally sucking)..it's supposed to be fun, and it is a mutual thing..don't put false pressure on it and you will enjoy much more

this is one of my very favorite positions..trust me, once you experience that special o, you'll wrestle his ass and roll him =) ..oh yeah..that reminds me ..lot of guys really dig it when you pin them...makes it so you are totally responsible for the pleasure (in a good way!) and since it's male instinct to always be in charge; blah,blah,blah..it's a nice switch...you won't be able to hit that orgasm from there (but you can still have one from the rubbing of the clitoris from here)..so eventually you will need to let go and sit up...

edit...lol, is it too late for me to say you're too young?? Okay, jk. Um, if for some reason , this is about body image at all as a previous poster said..Which actually kind of makes sense , you're a little vunerable / exposed in this position. I took a peek and you look really pretty, so hopefully this is not the case. Just remember , sexy comes from within and having confidence in yourself/knowing yourself is a very , very sexy thing to a man. Any man. I think it's mother nature's little ironic trick. When we're in our late teens and twenties and have that gorgeous , young body..most of us don't have the confidence. I can honestly say I really didn't get this/have this til well into my 30s. If you can get it earlier, it will be awesome. Many of us women are our own worst enemies when in fact , we should be our own best friends/strongest advocates.

(I'm my own best friend now and loving it)
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Posted: 9/12/2009 4:28:56 PM
"is it too late for me to say you're too young?? Okay, jk. Um, if for some reason , this is about body image at all as a previous poster said..Which actually kind of makes sense , you're a little vunerable / exposed in this position. I took a peek and you look really pretty, so hopefully this is not the case. Just remember , sexy comes from within and having confidence in yourself/knowing yourself is a very , very sexy thing to a man. Any man. I think it's mother nature's little ironic trick. When we're in our late teens and twenties and have that gorgeous , young body..most of us don't have the confidence. I can honestly say I really didn't get this/have this til well into my 30s. If you can get it earlier, it will be awesome. Many of us women are our own worst enemies when in fact , we should be our own best friends/strongest advocates."
Yeah shes kinda young but seems pretty sophisticated for her age.She just needs a bit more practice at this particular thing.Just let yourself go and have fun .Most guys that age are just as insecure.
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Posted: 9/12/2009 6:26:14 PM
"Give it a nice circular motion, it's fantastic."Ding Ding we have a winnah
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 9/12/2009 9:12:40 PM

She can deny it all she wants...kids her age ain't concerned about ability as much as appearance.


LOL...too true...too true.

And Gawd...do NOT remind me...I, for one, am DAMN glad that I'm old and jiggly and will er...get up on it.

OP--practice makes perfect darling...it really, really does (I need a she devil)...
 77Ryan
Joined: 8/4/2008
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Posted: 9/12/2009 9:24:48 PM
Just dont get so out of control that the guy pops out and bashes his business into your pelvic bone, that never ends well. Other than that, most guys love women to take initiative.
 Chrìs
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Posted: 9/13/2009 5:18:15 AM
hmm i will say this, that it is pretty weird when a girl gets on top and just sits there and looks at you and doesnt do anything lol. its like the light is on, but nobody is home. anyways motion is emotion. and im happy when the girl is on top and is having a good time of it and i can just lay back and watch bewbies bounce.
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 35
Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:38:33 AM
For me the girl on top position has always worked best while sitting in a chair or on the couch. It seems to work much better for her as well.
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 36
Self concious of being on top
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:47:01 AM

Bouncing is for teenagers.


I agree with this. Bouncing is going to do f*ckall for me, and I'm one of those "I only come on top" girls. I've never heard any protestations from a partner about the way I f*ck when I'm on top, and there's definitely grinding involved.

I decided when I first has sex that I was going to do what felt good in that department and not worry about it beyond that, and that's what I do. Just listen to your body, and if you're really enjoying yourself, he'll just have a great time watching you have so much hot delicious fun, and feeling the result of your movements. Basically: stop worrying. There is no "doing it right", there's only doing it the way that works for you. Play with it and figure out what that is.
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Posted: 9/13/2009 7:50:07 AM
Destinie hun, don't worry about it sugar. As you mature, you will see that being self conscious is silly. I agree with irishgirl524, the best is yet to come. Just enjoy the ride!
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
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Posted: 9/13/2009 4:16:22 PM

Okay, maybe most of them aren't. But I personally am the type who aims to please. Regardless of my age, I want the person I'm with to be completely satisfied.

I'm beginning to think you're simply replying to this thread to make assumtions and judge me based on my age?


I have a couple thoughts on this. First of all, at 18 you've probably not been sexually active a hugely long time, right? It takes most of us many years to really figure ourselves out sexually; I had my best sexual relationship (so far) at age 28.

Women tend to peak sexually around 30. This means, among other things, that a lot of us figure out what we really want sometime around then. I was very sexually charged in my early 20s, but I was far more concerned with pleasing my partner than I am now--which sounds weird, but I took that into account more than my own pleasure, and I'm now able to own my own pleasure in a way I never did when I was younger. From what I know about female sexuality, that's reasonably typical.

In that sense, your age really does matter, and chances are good that you won't truly come into your own sexuality for another ten years or so. The awesome part of that is that your sexual adventuring is just beginning, so don't take the age thing as a slight. Have fun exploring your growing sexuality, know there's ever so much more fun to come, and make sure you're owning your own pleasure and not just focusing on your partner (which is something that girls in particular as socialized to do--it's a hard habit to break). Also realize that any man worth your time in bed will find you taking ownership of your own sexual experience to be completely hot!
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