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 akdoc
Joined: 8/11/2008
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I have been married for 30 years. My wife began sleeping in another room years ago. We haven't been "intimate" or had sex in 12 years. She says it's her hormones and has no desire . Well, I DO! At what point (and I believe I've past it) is it enough...or in this case not any and something on the side would be okay. I know, cheating is never okay, but I can't so without any longer.
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 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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Posted: 9/13/2009 2:58:23 PM
Well... since you are divorced like your profile states........................
 setuid
Joined: 9/5/2008
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Posted: 9/13/2009 3:12:06 PM
I'm going on 4 years without any... (except for that one night last December that I'd really like to forget, thanks).

No open offers on the table, and frankly... I'm getting used to not missing it.
 war_angel
Joined: 9/7/2009
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Posted: 9/13/2009 3:18:07 PM
Drop her...it's one thing if she's NOT ABLE. But doesn't want to. She's getting it from somewhere else or really...ehh drop her. Makes no sense.
 Wylie_Coyote
Joined: 5/12/2007
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Posted: 9/13/2009 3:20:54 PM
OP,

This is an issue that needs to be discussed with your wife.

Between the two of you there may bea way to save your marriage. Beyond that do what ya gotta do.....

Good luck
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 setuid
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Posted: 9/13/2009 4:13:59 PM

"Setuid I find that hard to believe..."
What is hard to believe about it? I don't sleep around, and since I haven't found any serious relationships or partners, there's no other option. "Self-help" got boring fast, so I just focus my energy on other things.

That being said, I have been sexually "active", but not ACTUAL sex (see my previous thread about the woman who wanted everything but kisses and actual genital penetration on any orifice). She was a taker, not a giver.

Being sexually active and having sex are two very different worlds, however.
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