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 mrgoodtime
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 1
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My girlfriend of 2yrs recently shared her fantasy with me every since she was 16 shes wanted to be with 2 guys at once. Her ex flat out said no but im actually consiering it. am i opening a can of worms or what? I love her with all my heart. Thoughts?
 mrgoodtime
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 2
What would you think?
Posted: 9/22/2009 8:59:35 PM
I thought about offering getting a couple to doa swap but dont know if she will thats kinda a meet in middle . If i do hers does it make the relationship stronger or weaken it?
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 3
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Posted: 9/22/2009 9:00:02 PM
Its all up to you and whether you feel comfortable with it, or not.

BTW there's a 50/50 chance you could be opening up a can of worms.just a thought
 Two Tickets
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 9/22/2009 9:27:34 PM
How will you feel after? If you love her with all of your heart, it might get weird.
 Dantycoop
Joined: 8/30/2009
Msg: 5
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Posted: 9/22/2009 10:55:55 PM
Tell her she can have 2 guys if you can have 2 girls. Sounds fair to me.
 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 6
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Posted: 9/23/2009 6:49:56 AM

My girlfriend of 2yrs recently shared her fantasy with me every since she was 16 shes wanted to be with 2 guys at once. Her ex flat out said no but im actually consiering it. am i opening a can of worms or what? I love her with all my heart. Thoughts?


Would you be able to see her get "busy" with another man? If so, then go for it!

You're only opening a "can of worms", if you freak out when she's kissing, licking/sucking and being penetrated by another male and vice versa. Not many could tolerate this.

Tread lightly...........
 I-am-Rei
Joined: 9/11/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 9/23/2009 7:11:59 AM
There are fantasies that are best to be kept that way, just a fantasy. Acting on it will be a different matter. The fact that you are asking for other opinions, it means that you are not yet comfortable with it even when you say you are considering it. Better lay all the facts and see what you CAN and CAN NOT accept if you decided to act on her fantasy. IMO, you should do it not only because you want to please her but also because you are please with it yourself. If not, regrets will eat you up.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 9/23/2009 9:04:01 AM
I'm curious about your "let's swap, it's middle ground" statement. It seems both of you have some fantasies, eh? Involving OTHER sexual partners.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 9
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What would you think?
Posted: 9/23/2009 12:04:17 PM
every woman i know even the religious one have that fantasy, if you can handle it go to town, and be grateful you have a sexual woman as a girlfriend
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 9/23/2009 12:22:23 PM
Go rent the movie 'Chasing Amy'. Then, put yourself in Ben Affleck's place. Do you want to see your SO as 'fingercuffs'? You'll never get those images out of your mind, so you better be sure that you are both cool with it, as well as the man you agree to share her with, or you are going to ruin a good relationship.

Some fantasies are best kept as fantasies. Especially the ones that have to do with fidelity.

Just some honest advice.

Beth
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 9/23/2009 12:42:00 PM
If I loved a man and he expressed a fantasy wanting a 3 way with me and another woman...

I would buy a wig and a outfit and give him a freaking fantasy he would never forget.
We all have fantasies, some are just a bad idea to follow through.
Worms? No you are opening a can of d1cks .

If it is great, she won't stop at just one.

But then you are on pof..maybe you guys are just open like that, and if you are.....
Why ask strangers what they would do?
You have to live with this, not us.
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 12
What would you think?
Posted: 9/23/2009 12:54:53 PM


Msg: 1 -- My girlfriend of 2yrs recently shared her fantasy with me
every since she was 16 shes wanted to be with 2 guys at once. Her ex
flat out said no but im actually consiering it. am i opening a can of
worms or what? I love her with all my heart. Thoughts?


I have EVERY intention of LIVING out ALL of my fantasies. All of them
are genuine desires that I truly want in my real life. That said, I
project that on anyone I meet. If a woman expresses a given fantasy I
presume she wishes to REALIZE it. So, if she expresses a desire for a
threesome, that would have a severe NEGATIVE impact on me, since NONE
of my fantasies include any form of a threesome. Such an expression
would indicate a marked incompatibility, which would AUTOMATICALLY
cause the termination of what I would have considered to be a
Long-Term Relationship.

In short, if I were presented with your scenario, I would END the
relationship immediately and assuage my pain with some alcoholic
beverage until I passed out. Of course this would occur within the
privacy of my own home, since I am never inebriated in public.
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 9/23/2009 1:35:11 PM

^^^ has been reported.


You are so full of anger and hatred because of the two men who cheated on you. For your own sake, get some help. This past of yours is consuming you. It is VERY sad. You're a beautiful woman with lots of options, but your anger will only attract men who are totally unsuitable. I wish you well, and I won't attack your attitude anymore because I truly pitty you.
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 14
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Posted: 9/23/2009 2:01:56 PM
I don't condone cheating either. You have judged me, because I dared to argue against the idea that viewing pornography is cheating.


So I'm supposed to just shelve my values and upbringing and conform to some man's perspectives? No damn way!


Listen to yourself. Read your own statements. The anger and hatred in your words is incredible apparent. Recognise the real source of your anger - the two men who betrayed you. You feel like a fool because you trusted them, but they betrayed you. Now you are so fearful that you'll be betrayed again, a man can't look anywhere but at you or he is unfaithful.

Healthy people recognise that we are all ( men and women ) very sexual beings. All of us are looking around us. Actually, it is important that we do. If we can look around us and still return to our partner, this STRENGTHENS our relationship.

I'm in a long distance relationship. I know darn well my girlfriend is looking at other men. How could I blame her? Distance relationships are so frustrating - emotionally, sexually etc. But we choose to trust each other, despite the fact that we are both looking around us. I encourage her to look at other men. If she can look at other men and still return to me, this makes my relationship with her VERY strong.

You need to differentiate between the look, thought and the act. It isn't cheating until you take action with another person.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 9/23/2009 2:05:47 PM
well, I can't say what you are opening, but bringing people into a relationship would be a no-go with me. To me fantasies with other people mean they just want an excuse to have sex with somebody other than "you" I'm not telling you not to do it, but I say tread very lightly.
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 9/23/2009 3:34:28 PM

And careful now, I quite specifically *denied* that you were suffering from misandry


Not her. Her Mom. I'm certain her mom was betrayed by Honey's father. Honey has been living with the consequences ever since.

I've lived through this too. An ugly divorce can have a very negative impact on the future of their children's relationships. My three sisters suffered through several bad relationships - so did I.

I said before, and I'll say it again: I feel nothing but pitty for Honey. At this stage in her life she is entirely oblivious.
 Stumbled In
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 9/24/2009 10:14:27 AM
Seems we have two threads in one going here.
This is for the original.
I have no experience with this but judging by the replies so far, everyone falls somewhere on a wide continuum. "No problem" on one end and "Big problem" on the other. And the only people who know where you two would fall is you two. But seems to me there's been some really good points to consider from both ends of the spectrum. So I think the first thing you should do is get your girlfriend to read this whole thread (or at least the half that applies to your OP lol!) with you. Then go from there. If you decide to proceed, you might suggest the third party read it too. Good luck.
 Daves place 1
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/8/2010 2:11:40 PM
two dudes, probably not a good idea for the same reasons if it was two gals, it will ruin your relationship
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/8/2010 5:11:28 PM
It's a tough call. It is hot as hell..but I'm not sure I'd introduce it into a love relatsionship. Not worth the potential issues if you really love each other..You can always keep this alive and well in fantasy land though, plenty of ways to do that.
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