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Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 4
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If I may take a stab at the armchair diagnoses:

HIM: bipolar disorder, or coke-fueled bender

YOU: spoiled and want what you can't have, or low self-esteem
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 10/1/2009 1:08:52 AM

HIM: bipolar disorder, or coke-fueled bender

Wow Idk how people in where ever it is you're from do it BUT men from the mid to Southern part of Florida flirt,& flatter lol.

All jokes aside, you're 21 and he's 4o something and saying all of this stuff in jest more than likely. For you to take every word some well paid, relatively young, NEW guy has told you makes you nieve and truly unready for a relationship. I think you were looking to be spoiled and it just spiraled into something you attached feelings to and now the beast in which you've fabricated is running around in your mind untamed. Good luck but don't and I mean DON'T make things awkward to the point where one of the two of you are in a position to loose your jobs. Nine times out of ten younger people(such as ourselves) are the one's to get axed before the degree holding individual oozing more experience in his specialized field than we have work experience as adults (ie four years ago).
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Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/1/2009 2:27:10 AM
All this from two days of phone calls and texting? Am I right that the two of you haven't actually been out together on a real date?

You're way ahead of yourself. Instead of trying to win back something you never had, you should be focused on whether this is a guy you actually want. Based on how he's treated you to this point, I don't know how you can be even the least bit encouraged, much less interested.

If you're serious about wanting a real chance, then you'll get out of the drive-thru lane and try to enter this relationship at a more realistic pace.
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/1/2009 4:43:32 AM
I'm sorry, but this whole story just made me laugh soooo hard!!!

There are SO many things wrong with this story... I'm not really sure to begin. Maybe making a list will help.

1. He claimed to be in love with you and want to marry you on the first night you talked to him.
2. For some odd reason, instead of being creeped out and blocking his ass ASAP, you ate it all up.
3. When, 2 days after this all happened, he started to disappear, you had the audacity to get pissed at him for "lying to you."
4. Oh, right, he's old enough to be your daddy, and then some.

Ahahahahahaha oh lord.... you just can't make this stuff up. Oh jesus.....
If I promise to marry you, will you fall in love with me too??? I mean, I'm only a couple years older than you, but the same lines should still work, right?? xD

Joined: 8/2/2004
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/1/2009 7:40:02 AM
Your kidding me right? Give her another one
Joined: 12/10/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 10/1/2009 10:58:42 AM
ms princess 09...You put the post here. You're in a public forum asking for advice and opinions (points of view)...Posters being rude?...Suck it up, girl...the guy is old enough to be your Dad...we may not know you, but what you have (or not) told us gives us the impression you are, young , niave and a gold digger.
Joined: 8/15/2009
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/1/2009 11:19:36 AM
believe me i have been there too. When it sounds too good to be true it normally is..i mean why would a guy give all that he has worked for(and anesthesiology is hard work) for a girl he just met, your beautiful but im sure this man comes into contact with beautiful women all the time. Guys know tha alot of women go googoo gaga when they mention marriage and if its very early in the relationship HEAD FOR THE HILLS...i tend to believe a man in his forties of high status and good looking/personality that is unmarried is probably a player, narcissitic, incapable of a relationship, workaholic, or just simply dosent want to be tied down...
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 10/1/2009 4:56:06 PM
jesus, miss princess, you are very gullible, you really would shack up with a dude who offers to take care of you and have babies with and never even went out once? I don't think he's crazy, but I think you may be suffering a little bit, "just a little" bit, of course he's going to feed you lies, no reasonable man I know is going to take care of a woman who he's never even been out on a date with. good luck with everything.
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