I was offered alot of jobs in Washigton DC and other places but I passed them all just to stay with her That was a decision that you made that YOU felt would be in YOUR best interests AT THE TIME. It was a decision you made, that she appeared to want. So.. you cannot base what YOU decided to do.. on her wishes. You did it because YOU wanted to.. If you stayed but wanted to go.. then that is your issue, not your g/friend's. Now.. she isn't breaking up with you.. she's asked you to go with her.. If you don't want to go, then don't. But don't blame her for not wanting you in her life.. she wants you there. Blame your ego which is coming through loud and clear when you say things like: "It proves that I'm not her first priority."
she is wonderful woman, very loyal and she took care of me ALOT
I wish you happiness and the insight to chose what will make you the most happy.