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 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 3
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Work on yourself....then you don't have to worry anymore about trust.

"Trust issues" boil down to two things:

1) you don't respect yourself enough to date people who respect you. They'll tell you one thing, but you'll ignore their actions until you realize finally that you're being disrespected.

Learn to respect yourself, and all you'll ever want to have, are healthy relationships. You'll know you're being respected, just like you know your right arm is still connected to your body.

2) once you learn your strengths, your powers, you shall learn you can handle pain. After you learn that you won't die from heartbreak, that you can handle the pain in a healthy way...you won't have so much fear of it.

Heartbreak won't go away...you'll just learn you can handle it. Its a price you won't mind paying, to be happy in life by sharing your life with another healthy human being. Hence, you won't need to trust someone to not hurt you, b/c you've learned you can handle being hurt. Its nothing personal. It doesn't reflect on you. It doesn't affect how other people see your ability to be "successful". Its just an activity, like any other feeling.
 girlred228
Joined: 6/23/2008
Msg: 4
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How to trust someone ater they left and want back
Posted: 10/19/2009 2:02:59 PM
I think GTO said it best... it is about the respect you have for yourself and you exude.
I have faith in people, but after the trust is broken; It has to be earned again. Please don't be in a rush to jump back into the relationship..

Learn more about you and what you need and require from yourself and then a relationship. This will help you in most aspects of your life. Get to know yourself and allow yourself time to expand. Being healthy and happy with who you are is a rare comodity; wouldn't you like to be one of those?
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
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Posted: 10/19/2009 2:06:01 PM
Seek the assistance of a recommended marrage counclor
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 10/19/2009 2:46:30 PM
I don't know how you overreact to the extent that you end a 2.5 year relationship and not knowing your issues there is no way to suggest how trust is regained or if trust was even involved in the breakup.

If you two stomped on each other's feelings things are going to be hard but that doesn't really have to do with trust it has to do with has person A and person B changed, different thing entirely.
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