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 24DegreeAngel
Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 2
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Have you guys defined yourselves? She seems to consider you make out friends. It sounds like you like her more than a friend - does she know this? At her age it's possible to rejection of "more" (sex?) could mean to her you don't find her attractive. Women aren't used to being turned down for sexual activities and aren't nearly as cool about it as guys.

If you haven't defined yourself or talked about your interest in her you need to do so... or she'll move on and be gone forever. Maybe she secretly holds a flame? If you decide you are both just friends then you'll have to get used to the boy talk... that's what friends do. If you can't handle it, it's best for both if you do move on.
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:11:53 AM
Yes she is upset that she wasnt able to have her way with you,some women try to control(this seems like one of them) and if they dont get what they want, sort of like a spoiled kid, they will try to rub it your face. Ignore her, let her find someone without a back bone, problem is they usually tire of spineless men. Look for someone you like that treats you the way you treat them. Dont take crap from anyone. If you want to be treated well, you treat them well also.
 mysteriosa
Joined: 5/19/2006
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Posted: 11/5/2009 10:20:04 AM
It's good that you have morals, nothing wrong with that at all., but if she was doing what she thought you'd like and you turned her down, she may think you were judging her badly. I wonder how you communicated this to her. Did you make it clear you liked her and wanted to get to know her better before getting too involved physically? She might feel rejected otherwise.

It sounds like she's moved on now. If you're really keen, you may be able to change her mind but you'd have to be sincere. If you choose to try and get her to be your girlfriend, then you both need to be clear that this means something and isn't a game. Maybe you felt that she was just playing around in the past and you needed more commitment.
 Bassbob47
Joined: 3/2/2009
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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:44:51 PM
They all change mate
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