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 Write Time
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 9
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Well, I'm a writer, so I'm naturally biased ...

But that said: A profile or email is your advertisement to the dating world, and I'd like to think folks would want to put their best foot forward. Which to me means: Real words, complete sentences.

I mean, to write to a prospective date like you're texting home to your roommate to see if you need to stop at the store to pick up diapers and milk? How attractive is that?
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
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Posted: 11/18/2009 6:58:25 PM
I agree wholeheartedly. Spelling and grammar count. I won't even read through a profile that's poorly written, and I delete poorly written messages with no reply.
 Elmenreich
Joined: 9/23/2009
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Posted: 11/18/2009 7:31:03 PM

Is it me or does anyone else find it unattractive when a profile / email is written in text talk.
Once over 30 we are not kids, but adults.

I know I rant, but on principle I do not respond that start with
"luv ure profile, gr8t 2 meet up?"
I think it is childish.


You do know that a lot of the people who are on this website are communicating with their cell phones?
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 11/18/2009 11:48:58 PM
I don't like text talk. After more than 12 yrs of school, we can't spell. Looks (retarded)

In the words of Carlos Mencia DEE-DEE-DEE!!
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
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Posted: 11/19/2009 5:44:02 PM
I wouldn't have made it to a 5th date with someone who doesn't answer her phone and only texts.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/20/2009 3:46:49 AM
It's in my profile.

It appears lazy and childish.
I can't tell if someone is literate.

My 24 year old won't communicate with women who do this, so it is not because you are "old"

Why should you apologize? It is a turn off to many of all ages.
 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/20/2009 6:30:08 AM
OP: No, you're not being silly/snobby. I will delete emails written in that fashion. HATE IT!
 BombChelle
Joined: 8/31/2008
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Posted: 11/20/2009 10:50:42 AM
This thread was hilarious. I agree that it's quite annoying. If I take more than 2 mins to decipher what you were trying to write, then I just won't be bothered.

I really feel that a lot of people have no writing skills whatsoever. I'm finding it's not necessarily text talk, but just bad grammar and spelling all around. Quite frustrating.
 broccolina
Joined: 2/21/2009
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Posted: 11/20/2009 4:43:14 PM
I might be more forgiving if I suspect the person did not have a full keyboard available at the time. Otherwise, can't stand it unless in text.

And I love to text and will do so often if I can wait for the answer or don't have time for all the idle little chit-chat that has to occur when calling someone. I also had to get very creative because I have a limit of 160 characters so will be using the shortest words in any one of the 3 languages I have in common with the recipient.

PS: Apparently there were some studies done and the conclusion was that men hate text talk. The male posters in this thread sort of prove it.
 Jeeep4Fun
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/24/2009 6:50:49 AM
Actually, Marie, I find it childish over 25. You're out of college, supposed to be looking for a professional job, and you still typ lik dis?!? I know if I had your resume written like that, I sure as hell wouldn't hire you. Why would I want to (possibly) spend the rest of my life with you.

I actually even tend to delete emails written in text. Hell, my TEXT messages aren't even written in text, as we know longer pay by the character and most phones either have a sliding keyboard, a touchscreenone, or they're a PDA.
 Jeeep4Fun
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/24/2009 11:27:25 AM
Steff...don't forget to go to the shelter and adopt a bunch of cats!
 gapchgrl76
Joined: 12/22/2007
Msg: 47
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Posted: 11/29/2009 9:50:05 AM
I believe text talk should remain on the phone for a quick message, but not to carry out a full-blown conversation. I know some people that "hide" behind text messages (and emails) and it is annoying. Frankly, I have quit responding. As far as the email and text talk, I personally like correct grammar and spelling. I can understand an occasional misspelled word, but not the whole profile and/or email. It's a complete turn-off for me.
 Unfold
Joined: 4/22/2007
Msg: 49
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Posted: 12/2/2009 12:23:50 AM
I really don’t mind Text Talk in a Text Message so long as it is somewhat intelligible eventhough I hold myself to a higher standard wherein I make my best effort to use correct spelling, punctuation, & grammar.

However Text Talk in an email or POF message is extremely annoying!
 gynecomastia
Joined: 1/9/2010
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Posted: 1/26/2010 3:18:25 PM
I'm a little late to this discussion (new to the fish and just found the forums). Thank God I'm not the only one out there with this pet peeve. I text like crazy, and with my new phone, it pretty much won't let you text talk it's so flippin' smart, but text talk doesn't belong on a profile or email message, period. This puma doesn't drop below a certain age usually ESPECIALLY if a profile is riddled in text talk or ALL CAPS. Lyk u no who$ u r!!
 chrisrazorback
Joined: 1/21/2010
Msg: 57
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Posted: 1/26/2010 7:49:11 PM
I find texting in general to be childish why can't we talk anymore?
 VF102
Joined: 7/14/2009
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Posted: 1/28/2010 1:37:05 PM
No need to rush old age, it will come with time. Nothing more annoying than a Gen Xer trying to act older than their parents.

Jason the Fed
 lunatiqfrinjj
Joined: 7/1/2009
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Posted: 1/28/2010 7:06:39 PM
>I find texting in general to be childish why can't we talk anymore?

Because you have to make time in your day, they have to make time in theirs, and then you have a conversation.. Which is great, but not everyone can talk all the time, and people get annoyed or paranoid when they can't get said what they called out to say.. It's probably the cellphone's fault in the first place that we have adopted this "contactable anywhere anytime" philosophy, but with texting at least you can say something on your schedule, they can read it on theirs, keep it if it's sweet and you don't end up having a conversation, burning the cakes etc..

If you wanna talk it, why not combine both worlds; buy a suitably enabled phone (most recent Nokias work how I'm about to describe but any phone capable of multimedia messaging should be ok, apart from iPhones) and choose New Message.. Audio Message. Record up to 2.5 minutes (e.g. on a Nokia N95) audio and send it

You didnt have to put in any effort pushing buttons, they get to hear your voice, it's sent in a message (on your schedule) and they can listen to it when it's convenient. And keep it if necessary. Problem solved!
 johninsd
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 65
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Posted: 1/30/2010 9:48:22 AM

Is it me or does anyone else find it unattractive when a profile / email is written in text talk.
Once over 30 we are not kids, but adults.

I know I rant, but on principle I do not respond that start with
"luv ure profile, gr8t 2 meet up?"
I think it is childish.

Am I being silly / snobby?


No.

I completely agree with you. But even if I didn't... you find that to be annoying, so it is not "silly" for you to refuse to put up with it.

I'm sure there are people who think I'm stodgy and old-fashioned because I use capitalization and punctuation (hopefully correctly!) and try to use proper grammar when I write. If so, they're doing both of us a favor if they simply ignore me.
 Samantha5579
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 67
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Posted: 1/30/2010 11:26:18 AM
I agree with you. It's OK if you're actually texting, but on your profile, you should be trying to make a good impression, as you said. On that note, if you're not a good speller, use spell check, lol.
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
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Posted: 1/30/2010 9:21:57 PM
A smartphone isn't going to phase out textspeak, because people use it when they are using a real computer keyboard.
 hotmominfl09
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 3/2/2010 7:35:25 AM
I don't think you are being silly or snobby, that would be a major turn off for me as well. I want someone that can at least put enough effort into writing a complete sentence!
 Water75
Joined: 11/23/2009
Msg: 71
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Posted: 3/2/2010 12:52:07 PM
i think when we judge grammer are the way people dress is not right.sometimes just find out about that person you just might like him.its like the pretty girl in the club will always are most times go for the player instead of the plumber.and they wonder what happend.dont judge unless your closet is clean.thats my moto.i bet if you thought the guy was gorgouse you wouldnt care if he wrote in mandren,chineses.
 n0odles
Joined: 10/21/2009
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Posted: 5/1/2010 4:07:24 PM
It's a pretty surefire way of seperating the wheat from the chav... err I mean chaff.

 sirslayer
Joined: 4/8/2009
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Posted: 5/4/2010 11:09:21 AM
wow, I like to text and sometimes if your at work and you cant talk over your phone and need to reply back quickly, txtn n ths wy hlps and multitasking is a usual factor also. I think most people are not smart enough to read out the modern short hand of texting and maybe complex things are to hard for them.. i have met very good people that their profile was nothing but text type and more often then not the were the better dates.. Good grammer is important but to ingore or not to relate a message because of grammer issues can be bad for you.. like speaking to people from outside this country or a hadicapped person who is limited , you would be suprise what you will be missing out.. i heard this joke before when i attended at school.. ( i major in math) what did the english major say to a math wizz..... do you like fries with that!!! lol
 n0odles
Joined: 10/21/2009
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Posted: 5/6/2010 2:06:19 PM
Just saw the following on a profile and sums it all up really, using text speak when you're texting is one thing but when you're putting yourself in the shop window then you really have to make more of an effort. Profiles like this drive me nuts.

"i lov a laugh, wot u c is wot u get n if u dont like it then tough, i lov my kids n they always com first. Not looking 4 a relationship just friends for now...but ya neva no whats around the corner n dont wnt 2 be on my own 4 the rest of my life lol. Not interested in any1 whos after 1 thing, im not tha type of girl. Just want somone 4 gd company and 2 hav a laugh with.

First DateIf we met up it wud b 4 a quiet drink somwer...so we can hav a gd chat xx"

Yes I probably need to get out more.... thats why im here I guess.
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