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 nexthyme
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Ohhh OP, there are a growing number of sites such as suger daddy/sugar babies, just to gloss a name of ONE of many... These sites are designed to hook hot chicks up with rich older men that kind of contract an arrangement were the man pays for the hot chicks wants, and ummm NEEDS, while he has a hot chick at his beck and call...

People of a "higher class" can weed out people that are in their "status group", just as they do in real life if they want...
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
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Posted: 11/20/2009 10:46:15 AM

rich middle-class men?

Isn't that an oxymoron?

I thought the idea behind the Sugar Daddy + Model type sites was to hook up over-priced "escorts" with guys posing as having the money to afford them.

IOW, I really don't see what class has to do with it. In theory, if the sites were what they appear to be (but likely aren't), her beauty power would match his success power, so in that sense they're equal and of the same class dating-wise.
Does class matter in online dating?
Posted: 11/20/2009 11:06:27 AM
it seems like most of the 'class' cues are still there. people will still have photos that show their possessions and tastes, and their narratives will still roughly reflect education level.
 nexthyme
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Posted: 11/20/2009 5:53:32 PM

Im just wondering whether the online world can possibly eliminate pre-judgements of class? If it could I think this could be a wonderful advantage of online dating as you get to know people for who they really are.


I personally chatted, even met some very upper end men... Meaning they came from a silver spoon, as well European men, that thought American women were exotic... These were guys that came from well to do families, or had big money of their own...

We all put out pants on one leg at a time, HOWEVER the silver spoon babies families were NOT meant to bring home a "peasant"... My life was that of an average lady, and trying to be someone to impress these silver spooners, just was not MY cup of tea... I admit they were interesting to get to know as people, had great tales to tell

At the end of the day, my take was gals who were looking for someone to provide them some sort of monetary glorious life style were impressed, me.... Nay, I like my simple life, I don't worry about impressing anyone, and I do still rub elbows with above middle waged classed people...

I know they are saying money doesn't make class, however it is funny to see someone flashing money draw in people who think that person HAS money....

So yes, some people can chat up the "upper class", if they are living an average class life, but unless you are a model, or parrot with tits it is fun for only so long... That is MY opinion
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
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Posted: 11/20/2009 7:36:11 PM
Does class matter within online dating?
Does internet dating liberate class barriers by enabling anonymity so nobody can immediately judge you prior to getting to know you?
Or does internet dating reinforce class barriers through sites such as sugardaddie.com, which glorify and encourage young girls to look for rich middle-class men?


I say it matters if it's in your set preferences I guess.
 Happily Ever...maybe
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 11/20/2009 7:51:59 PM
The only "class" that matters, whether it be online dating or in the real world, is whether someone has it or not. Don't get caught up in self-limiting and artificial barriers like socio-economic status.
 ileft
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Posted: 11/21/2009 8:35:32 AM
I personally think internet dating can make things harder it's almost like being a kid in the candy shop you're so spoiled for choice that you may not message people because you are expecting someone better to come along. At least this is what myself and some friends who online date find. If you bumped into someone on the street you're more likely to strike up a conversation with them than if someone sends you a small and uninviting message online.

There are some sites that eliminate the class thing but I don't think you're gonna find many people of a high class on a free dating site as many would be willing to pay for a subscription.
 spunkybum52
Joined: 9/8/2009
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Posted: 11/24/2009 7:33:31 PM
I think after you talk to the guy even on emails for awhile you should be able to tell what kind of class he is in. I can.
 lowmiles2
Joined: 6/5/2007
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Posted: 1/23/2013 10:53:15 AM
It matters to me.
 Green_Jello44
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Posted: 1/23/2013 11:16:20 AM
Class really does matter, as I found out on a date lately. I've always been working class, and earned everything I have...my date probably came from money, so I would imagine had more choices in life. Without too many details, all I can say is we disagreed on some really basic things in life, it was a real eye opener.....
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 1/23/2013 2:07:54 PM

Does internet dating liberate class barriers by enabling anonymity so nobody can immediately judge you prior to getting to know you?

That is a silly question. Of course not. People are on to meet -- not to 'date' online. They are online to find someone to meet -- where it makes no difference where it originated from as far as their tastes are concerned.
 LiterateHiker
Joined: 11/30/2012
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Posted: 1/23/2013 11:41:25 PM
I can tell a lot about a man's education and experience by the quality of his writing skills, and whether he uses proper spelling and grammar. Earlier I wrote to a man who selected me as a favorite, "Without a photo I assume you are married. It's a knee jerk reaction. However your winning essay contradicts that assumption." He responded:

"Thank you for your message and kind comments…. So much to say, so little time to say it…. We have more in common than I first realized when I read your profile…. I am jammed up today with the stuff of life, good stuff but, still, time consuming stuff…. I would like to respond when I have the time to do so in a more reflective manner.... But, I did want to acknowledge and thank you for your message…. "

"And, you’re correct to disregard your assumption…. I am not married but happily divorced…. I will explain later…. And, I will send some photos in due course which means shortly…. Btw, although you do look great in the hiking photos and I do like that you enjoy hiking…. But, it was not your photos that caught my eye, though the concept of “the little black dress” was apparently developed with you in mind; it was your prose….. "

I think he's the first man who ever wrote using the words, "reflective" and "prose." That tickled me.
 Space_Weaver
Joined: 11/27/2012
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Posted: 1/23/2013 11:44:08 PM
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 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
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Posted: 1/24/2013 6:12:26 AM
It does to some people. They won't date anyone that has a lower income or education level than they do.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
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Posted: 1/24/2013 8:08:38 AM
Definition of class.... A group of individuals ranked together as possessing common characteristics; as, the different classes of society; the educated class; the lower classes.

I'd say it does to some extent...I couldn't see myself in a room of people...all trying to out do each other on their vocabulary skills...couldn't think of anything more boring...imo.
In fact...that is probably where you just may see me drop a few "f" bombs.
I can't stand pretentious people....Yes....we would have different priorities....about life.
Different strokes...for different folks!

Commonalities are important...people relate to what they know.
On the other hand....It would be a pretty boring world...If everyone looked the same and thought the same...
Wouldn't it??
 curviest
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Posted: 1/24/2013 9:14:47 AM
I'm British and yes, class is extremely important when you are choosing a new boyfriend/girlfriend, though it does not matter if you only go on one date, or just meet up for sex.

If a man is much more upper class than me, I don't feel that I am good enough for him and that he'll find me inadequate in education, breeding, manners, or money. If a man is much below me in class/education/money, unless he is truly exceptional, I won't find him a good match, either. I cannot imagine I'd ever be happy with a neaderthal who writes to me in txt spk, for example.
 ClassyT81
Joined: 1/16/2013
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Posted: 3/6/2013 4:29:25 PM
Theoretically, class barriers, like any barrier defined by society, would give way to common interests and tastes (which are independent of class distinctions) in the online setting. The reality is usually quite the opposite - people (esp women) online tend to be more focused on class distinctions and are in some cases more likely to incorporate the perceived or assumed class of their potential suitors in their initial estimation of them.
 roadrunner2525
Joined: 2/12/2013
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Posted: 3/6/2013 6:37:15 PM
Sugar daddy. com doesn't care what class you are in. They don't care if you have the money to date once or date every week. If they find a man whom will buy them jewelry give them an apartment and whatever else they can get out of a man they won't even bother with the websites anymore. They usually only use one sugar daddy at a time and try their best not to disappoint him.The sugar daddy on the other hand can string along 6 women and keep them all honest.
 brinaalina
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Posted: 3/6/2013 8:46:41 PM
This is a ridiculous question.
How would you even know until you meet and IF they tell you?
There are SO many people who drive nice cars but live in a shack.
It's pathetic.

I learned from a very young age to not discuss money.

I also learned that those who go around saying how wealthy they are, usually aren't :)

But it KIND of does matter. Sometimes if I date someone that is from a completely different lifestyle than me, the differences are too great and it can be hard to overcome.
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