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 Pfilly08
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 1
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Since becoming single, I have encountered a number of men challenged with ED. This is to say, they seek intimacy both emotional and physical. However, ED drugs have not helped them: they have tried them with no success. They are out in the dating world seeking romance. Many have every other positive attribute to offer Ms. Right and are very upfront about what they call "this ED problem since I turned 40, 45, 50, 55" etc.

For a single "over 40" physically active female seeking a physically active sex life, the considerations are many. My question is: from the experience of others here in the "over over 40" forum, how common is ED in men of this age group? Are those studies -- which assert that about half the male population in this age group cannot be helped to maintain an erection with any drugs on the market -- in your opinion valid ones? Question #2: is there hope for a couple fitting the above profile -- from your experience?
 smile9999
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 2
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 3:33:57 PM
wow, over half of men, I would never have guessed. and on top of that, men that the drugs don't work on. all my guy friends must be lying
 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 3
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 3:46:52 PM
I met a guy once -- we didn't date, but he told me had a form of ED where he couldn't cum. He was about 44 and a diabetic.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 4
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 4:15:38 PM

Does anyone know of a drug that has the opposite effect of Calis and Viagara?


The over 45 forums :P



Personally if every man or half the men I was interested in werent able to perform...I would look inward...

I have had men mention it to me but then it wasnt an issue...or not an issue with him and I, maybe your approach to the topic has caused some of the issues.
 SASSYN89178
Joined: 2/19/2007
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Posted: 11/23/2009 4:22:58 PM
I can't believe that Pitbull Pete didn't have anything nasty to say. lol
I saw on the Today show last week, that at least 30% of men in their 50's have this problem. The 40 age group is around 25%. Suprisingly enough for the men in their 70's it went down to 20%. I don't get that.
Anyway, the thing for us women then would be to date younger men, and not men our age.
This makes it (in my eyes) for the 50 and up men, to get a grip and stop chasing the 35 yr old women.
 clockwork lime
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 6
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 4:50:59 PM

Yep...pretty accurate...yes about half the men over 45 have this issue.


Well, I guess I'm just going to have to take the word of the ladies who have engaged in enough sexual activity to have compiled such accurate statistics.
 Uncle Grumpy
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 7
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 5:13:54 PM
I would say that the statistics may be somewhat accurate, but what they don't account for is the emotional problems between partners. When you are having problems in that department you go to the doc and get a pill, it may or may not work. If it doesn't work my opinion is that a lot of the time you just don't want to do it with the ol lady that is causing so much misery in your life or you have a serious medical problem. With a loving partner it can come back and be great with or without the pill. Cialis worked so well for me it overcame the mental block.
 clockwork lime
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/23/2009 6:20:09 PM

This makes it (in my eyes) for the 50 and up men, to get a grip and stop chasing the 35 yr old women.


Why would they want to give up chasing the younger women when the attitudes of women their own age can be seen by what's posted on these very threads.
After all, isn't it preferable to be single than to be in a miserable relationship?
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2009 6:42:52 PM
Ahappygal - msg 20

Everyone who gets older has some problem at some level.

Very true! As I get older, I have more problems with women (or meet more women with problems).
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/23/2009 6:54:54 PM
happygal: *read* the question. Read it slowly. Really get what he said.

Thanks
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2009 7:10:08 PM
^^^

I'm only interested in discussing what I like.

That's why the forum threads veer off sometimes into a wrong direction.
 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 12
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Posted: 11/23/2009 7:13:22 PM

can't believe that Pitbull Pete didn't have anything nasty to say. lol
I saw on the Today show last week, that at least 30% of men in their 50's have this problem. The 40 age group is around 25%. Suprisingly enough for the men in their 70's it went down to 20%. I don't get that.
Anyway, the thing for us women then would be to date younger men, and not men our age.
This makes it (in my eyes) for the 50 and up men, to get a grip and stop chasing the 35 yr old women


Maybe it's because they 70+ guys have given up. Sort of like the unemployment figures -- the rate seems lower when people just give up looking for jobs.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 13
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 7:16:46 PM
The reason it goes up at 70 + is cause the men who havent taken care of themselves and ended up with ED issues also have died from heart attacks, etc...

But tryagain is right, if we keep the threads about informative information vs taking jabs at the opposite sex cause we are miserable with ourselves they will make for better LONGER LASTING threads!
 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 14
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 7:18:38 PM
I think any man who is healthy and who has no need for antidepressants, HB medications or is diabetic would not have ED. It is possible to remain healthy if you take care of yourself which would mean not having to put on those medications in the first place. Besides, I hear that those ED meds like Viagra and Cialis don't work after awhile, if at all, for some men.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 15
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 7:42:32 PM
I am not bashing but would like to say that with the prevalency of ED, some guys may want to look within and learn to be become better people. For some, it could be karma...Just a thought.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2009 7:47:09 PM
ahapygal - msg 31

I don't think I lead this thread to any wrong direction.

Maybe not this one.
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 17
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 7:52:51 PM

Yep...pretty accurate...yes about half the men over 45 have this issue.


Let's just pick this apart a bit cause I'm not buying it.

First of all...over 45. What does that mean. If you are looking at an age range of 45 until death...that would mean ???percent are like over 75 or 80.

Also...ED is a very broad term. When polled...it doesn't ask if you have a permanent plumbing issue...only if you have experienced it. EVER.....even once.

Only one thing is for sure. 93.5% of all statistical percentages are made up.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2009 7:55:29 PM
Miss w - msg 33

I am not bashing but would like to say that with the prevalency of ED, some guys may want to look within and learn to be become better people.

I wish, I could contribute more to the topic (on second thought, maybe not), but my experiences just don't measure up to the expert opinions of the many female posters on the subject.

Also, I'm glad to know that all men without the ED problem are better people.
Better people than the men with ED or better than the women b1tching about men with ED?
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 19
ED over 45
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:10:27 PM
Realistically ladies, I think some men broach this topic early on because there are so many 40/50 something females who want to talk this topic to death. It could be that these men are more in fear of disappointing you, assuming you've been boning younger guys and you're going to compare.

As opposed to ED there are a high percentage of 40 something women who are not good at sex. With the younger guys......older women pass with flying colours, if you know what I mean. Older guys know that just because you're horny, that does not preclude you are good at sex. I've been disappointed many times.

Enjoy your cawk talk.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/23/2009 8:33:27 PM
What I am saying Message 36 is that some guys (women too) are jerks in their youth, and have treated others badly. ED can just be part of what comes around goes around as the Universe eventually gets you. It's just that simple, and just a thought and possibly a luck of the draw for I hear of some men who can go at it well into their 70's & 80's.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/23/2009 8:37:52 PM

I am not bashing but would like to say that with the prevalency of ED, some guys may want to look within and learn to be become better people. For some, it could be karma...Just a thought.


Wow I would hate to think what your opinion of people who have had cancer and its causes!

Ed, happens...the two men I knew that had it dealt with it in an great manner, they told me at the start that it might be an issue, with both of them it wasnt, BUT if it had been I wouldnt have cared, cause the person is always greater that any issue...two people working together can come up with a solution to any problem...two people working against each other will always BLAME the other party...so your choice is to be part of a solution or part of a problem...

The way I see it...ED isnt just HIS problem...its OUR problem.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 11/23/2009 8:40:59 PM

Does anyone know of a drug that has the opposite effect of Calis and Viagara?
Most anti-depressants and anti-hypertensives ... why do you ask?

LAMO @Pitbull ...

Sweetie ... if you're having problems with those AM "stand ups" ... you can come and visit me. I'll furnish the toothbrush ... just get your butt over here to Ohio.

OT ...
If there were no men having problems with ED ... they would not be making the ED drugs ... duh. Since men are mostly not eager to discuss this ... even with their best buds (Message 2) ... I seriously doubt that we'll ever really know how many men are affected by it.

Odd isn't it ... if a lady is having problems getting in the mood, a man is the first to want her to go get some help ... he needs his "nookie" and if she isn't up to it, she better get help or he's going after "strange".

But if the man can't seem to get the ole lead in the pencil any more ... it's just something she should accept and there is no way he is gonna talk about that ... not even with the doctor.

Often, the ED is a first indication to some serious underlying problems that need to also be checked out. Looking into it ... might add years to their life ... years to the relationship with their lady.

I hope any man with ED does get advice ... could just be an enlarged prostate and there are drugs for that as well ... doesn't have to mean the end of wonderful sex with his partner.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/23/2009 8:48:56 PM
"The way I see it...ED isnt just HIS problem...its OUR problem."

Once in a committed relationship I agree with the above statement.

However, if this is someone a women has just met, it isn't her problem. I know I wouldn't sign up to be in a relationship with a man I didn't know who had it. I wouldn't expect him to sign up for a relationship with me if I didn't want or couldn't have sex.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2009 8:52:17 PM
moraima - msg 42

I know I wouldn't sign up to be in a relationship with a man I didn't know who had it. I wouldn't expect him to sign up for a relationship with me if I didn't want or couldn't have sex.

Where do you sign up for a relationship with sex?
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/23/2009 8:55:15 PM
"Where do you sign up for a relationship with sex?"

I haven't for several years, because I can't see anyone without issues that I am attracted to. I would rather do without the relationship with sex, than have a bad relationship with sex like so many others seem to rush to sign up for.
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