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Joined: 9/28/2005
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My problem, so to speak is that I live in such a rural community (up 14 miles from the
Canadian border in NE MT that the picking as so minimal. This is VERY rural and
getting women even interested in talking seems to be a problem. If a person wanted to go to a town with both a McDonald' and a Walmart you would have to travel a minimum of 135 miles. Oh yeah, there is that little problem that is sometimes get to be -35 without any wind chill.The Canadian women seem to put in their profiles "must be in Canada". I probably live closer to them than most men in Canada.
I am never married, no kids and 2 Boston Terriers. Retired US Navy. Most people think
that a bit strange, but there was a reason at one time.
Should I still be looking or is it time to just move into the "barn"
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 2
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 5:05:29 AM
Good gracious - your location sounds like Hell on Earth. Are you living there by choice or did you inherit the family farm?

Is it an option for you, since you're retired, to relocate to a warmer (and more populated) climate?
Joined: 11/14/2009
Msg: 3
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 5:32:55 AM
Distance has always been said to add to that. Although if your not planning to move, hang tight we never know what the future holds. I live in a big city and find it hard to meet up with men, it seems that the men on this site are the same that have been here for years, so its not just your situation. Good luck to you.
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 4
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 5:50:16 AM
as you have found're just killing time online....better than reruns on tv (sometimes)....better start thinking of puttin that bed in the barn
Joined: 10/29/2009
Msg: 5
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 6:00:52 AM
Should I still be looking or is it time to just move into the "barn"

I say keep looking, many people on datesites live in rural areas!
Or maybe try a mail order bride. There are several out there, I hear!
At least you would go to meet a woman 135 miles at the Walmart or McD's.
What I don't get is the many Men that put within 75 miles on their profiles
for meeting a woman. This tells me they are limited to how far they
are willing to travel even for a special lady! That to me is sad! (IMO)
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 6
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 7:30:21 AM

Should I still be looking or is it time to just move into the "barn"

I might consider selling the barn and moving to better quarters..

Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 7
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 7:58:21 AM

Should I still be looking or is it time to just move into the "barn"

Hmmm...perhaps you should start re-arranging the haystacks and bunker down in the barn.
Since you have chosen this destination to call "home".. ..I would say that you have isolated yourself to the point of becoming a product of your environment.
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 8
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64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 8:09:55 AM
I googled the community you live in and according to the statistics from July 2008, there are less than 900 people residing there. Goodness, I live in a city with a population of over a million and I could also say the picking is minimal. There are a few other frequent posters also from this location and I would suspect they are pretty much saying the same thing. Bottom line is you live in a community that has no potential for dating.

As for no Canadian women wanting to entertain the thoughts of cross-border dating, I would have to think that it is understandable. Just the mere fact that one would need a passport to even meet for coffee could be a deterent in itself. I have cross-border dated before but I have always made darn sure my dates lived in a warmer climate than I did.

You ask if you should still be looking or if you should just move into the barn and my response would be that if you are willing to move [and not into the barn] that you might want to entertain that thought. I'm afraid that if you don't entertain that thought, well............... you'd best be stocking up on those flannelette sheets for the bed in the barn 'cuz it'll get mighty cold out there all by yourself.
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 9
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 8:12:02 AM
Perhaps you might consider changing your primary residence to one in a more residential area and keep your present home as a vacation retreat. If you want to find have to be where the someones are...
Joined: 11/10/2009
Msg: 10
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 8:18:59 AM
Being so far from both a McDonald's and a Walmart, your choice of obese women wearing sweatpants must be severely limited. Somehow I am moved to congratulate you despite the loneliness of your situation. Have you thought about importing a companion from one of those extremely impoverished countries, like Mississippi?
Joined: 10/20/2009
Msg: 11
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 9:39:00 AM
I say never give up on love - Damn the torpedoes, etc. etc.

OUT of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

135 miles and 40 below - as they say in Jamaica - No Problem!
Passports are a different matter - lol

Proud to be Canadian!
 Frau Bl├╝cher
Joined: 8/27/2006
Msg: 12
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 10:35:00 AM

Should I still be looking or is it time to just move into the "barn"

Move into the barn? Dude, you need to rip up the manifesto, burn the shack, and move to civilization!
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 13
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 10:40:30 AM
Here's an idea...why don't you turn it into profit? Turn it into a "bed and breakfast" retreat for singles to mingle? Or a seniors getaway! I guess it depends on how big a place you have out there, but it's a thought.
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 14
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64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 10:47:57 AM
I'm in a warm southern climate, very rural, and the pickings are non-existent here, too. I've been told by a customer rep from another site that it's my fault for living where I do.
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 15
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 11:00:14 AM
Happy Birthday to you on the 12th and as far as I am concern you should never give up but you should think of more creative ways to be more involved. If you live there cause you like there...then you would have a problem with a person who likes city maybe an explanation of if you are willing to move or not.

I would go for a profile review and see if they can help you generate more attention to your profile.
Joined: 8/1/2007
Msg: 16
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 12:08:57 PM
...move to the barn...
it could be quite cosy...

(n.z. men were renown for surviving happily in the wilderness)...
Joined: 7/27/2009
Msg: 17
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 12:11:27 PM
Yes, happy birthday for the 12/12, OP. Like the Beatles song said: Will you still love me when I'm 64?
I think Mandrake's given you great advice, OP. A singles retreat - women galore at your back door (only in summer, though!).
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 18
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 12:11:50 PM
I dunno OP, my great-aunt lost my uncle a number of years ago, she is dating and from what she tells me, she's loving all that life has to offer at her age. I do believe she is quite a bit older than you are. Your location, well, that's a whole different thing I'm afraid. Unless you are willing to travel to date, you are likely going to have issues. My mother is your age, well, a year older, I think she dates and she has online dated for years. BUT, she's been willing to travel to do so because of her geographical location. Sounds to me like you have some decisions to make. To relocate, travel or to move into the barn. Good luck to ya.
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 19
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 12:16:31 PM
I guess it depends on how open you are. My last mate I found on a political site (actually, he found me). That lasted till his death -- of course I had to move to NYC, lol! Currently involved with a former Montanan who *wishes* to move here with me (he's a PoF fella). So I'd have to say the nets are very viable for finding mates, even if you're isolated.

So.............? Gotta say I don't see much about your profile to interest a lady, even if you lived in a big city. You might wanna work on that, eh?

Good luck!
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 20
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64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 12:35:59 PM
"The Canadian women seem to put in their profiles "must be in Canada".

Are you offering green cards?

Were you to move to Canada with a Canadian lady she would be finanically responsible for you and all your debts for 10 years, even if you dump her once you get here. Can't see getting many to be interested in that.

Many women couldn't be paid to go to MacDonald's or Walmart, so they wouldn't be to your liking. You have it tough OP.
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 21
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64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 1:48:05 PM
Mr. Happy, PE:

It is obvious that you have not spent much time in Montana, being happy or other wise. If you had, you would know that there is a world of difference, literally and figuratively, between Whitefish (NW) and Scobey (NE). Now if you were a huntin' antelope, you might have game.


dirsup, I hear ya' brother. That part of Montana is about as empty as my wallet. You know, you could always move to another more populous area like Two Dot, MT.

Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/30/2009 3:37:38 PM
Mr. Happy, PE:

You are so right, Montana is one LOOOOOOONG state. I use to think that driving across Texas took a while, and while TX still is a wide state (833 miles from Beaumont to El Paso) I've never lived there, yet.

However, t'aint nothin like driving across MT in a blizzard in 4wd when your only directionality is conferred by reflectors on the side of the road.

So, while I wasn't trying to buffalo you, I can't say there weren't any beefalo or bison. Course, folk round here sometimes have Moose for dinner and Mousse for dessert. Not to mention putting a little of mousse in their hair before stepping our for the ev'ning.

Something else that is similar, yet different, between Texas and Montana, we both have coyote. Course, ours walk on all fours and oft times get shot, thems down Texas way walk upright and sometimes get shot.

Geez, I'm bearly able to contain myself talkin bout MT. And while I will probably leave some day, I must say that I have come to treasure and hold MT deer.

 Shiny secret
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 23
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 6:09:32 PM
sounds like you are thinking about moving; but to the barn? Surely there is somewhere else.
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 24
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 6:15:55 PM
Take some single cruises/vacations during the chilly months. More than one person does it,,,and I'm sure more than one couple have found each other this way.
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 25
64 on 12/12
Posted: 11/30/2009 8:49:18 PM

I think taking a cruise is a good idea! It's one way to meet people before they realize how isolated you live.

Would you want to meet someone and then find out how isolated where they lived was? Might backfire big time ...I recommend taking the cruise but to be very honest about where and why he lives there...they might have the same feelings about isolation
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