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 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Recently I had an experience that carried with it a very odd sensation and aftermath. In an intimate moment with my SO, she began gently stroking my face while staring deep into my eyes. I felt as though she was literally sucking in my essence and making it part of herself. I felt totally powerless to "break" the connection. All at once I sensed what was happening. She was showing her own vulnerability to me in a way that made me feel as though I must protect it and guard it with my life. For the first time I sensed that there was no turning back...I was in it for real and possibly for good. It was amazing. Just when I thought that at my age I was becoming a bit jaded and that these kinds of feelings were for Romance novels only.

Would anyone else care to describe that "moment" when the state of the relationship passes that tipping point?
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 2
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Posted: 11/30/2009 10:24:50 AM

while staring deep into my eyes

She's a hypnotist!

No, seriously, I've had that sensation myself before. It's kinda like the Vulcan Mind Probe that Spock used to do on Star Trek. I have no idea how it happens, other than our brains are full of electrical impulses that maybe it's some kind of electrical link. You know what they say about only using a certain percentage of our brain's capabilities - this is like one time it decides to surprise you and show you what it's capable of. I can't say that it made me feel as though I needed to protect and guard it with my life though, even though it was an experience I won't forget. It was also during an intimate moment when a person is attempting to communicate non-verbally. It's strange, soothing and confusing all at the same time because it's not something that is "normally" experienced and you can't make it happen at will. A tantric experience.
 Genuine_Gentleman_For_You
Joined: 4/22/2009
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/30/2009 10:33:35 AM
Oh, no! I hope she's not a succubus! lol. Sorry about that.

Seriously though I would love to have that same feeling come over me. And hopefully I can find someone to share that with.

Anyway, I'm very happy to hear that it was an incredible experience for you. And I wish you all the best in your relationship.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/30/2009 11:01:08 AM
Yes, It is amazing damassteel and you almost ARE that person in those moments.
Like cloud above, mine did not last but I know what closeness can really be.


You did a pretty good job of describing it.

I found it spiritual..
I am very happy for you.
 bmore_goat
Joined: 4/8/2009
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Posted: 11/30/2009 11:18:03 AM

It's kinda like the Vulcan Mind Probe that Spock used to do on Star Trek.


That's so sexy when a woman makes a Star Trek reference!
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/30/2009 11:48:05 AM

That's so sexy when a woman makes a Star Trek reference!

Ya...I tend to throw out weird examples when I'm attempting to be descriptive...but this type of experience is as close to what I would imagine that "totally sucked in" feeling the OP was alluding to that many of us have experienced. It goes beyond the airy fairy romantic stuff that we "want" to feel and it does defy total description. You have to have felt it and experienced it in order to fully comprehend it. For me, all other senses slipped to the background and it was all about the mind.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/30/2009 1:31:52 PM



There always has to be a spoil sport school matron to chime in and tell us all to get back to our math home work! Pffftt


How true.

You can call it chemical and I do not care if it is chemicals stirring around my brain and hormones and what not, it is also spiritual and something if you have never had you won't get it.

Keep up those walls and believe in nothing you cant wrap a bow on or grow in a culture medium.

I have been there....I hope one day you get it.
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/30/2009 1:59:07 PM
Yes, having it totally sucked in is a wonderful sensation! Oh wait a minute, you're talking about love, oops, sorry.

I've only had that happen once in my life, and it was a face only picture of her. I was instantly sucked in by her eyes. Instant "love"! Haven't looked back since. The relationship has been going strong every since, until last week when sadly a little mishap occured. Still trying to decide how best to deal with the mishap.
 Malice From Wonderland
Joined: 11/20/2009
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/30/2009 2:08:49 PM
Mine was when I received the final papers in the mail that my divorce was final.
 *mandrake*
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/30/2009 2:10:28 PM
OP, what you experienced may not happen again for quite a while, and doesn't happen for too many people, so just take it all in and cherish it.
 Super_Eve
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/30/2009 2:18:18 PM

Would anyone else care to describe that "moment" when the state of the relationship passes that tipping point?


Lying there, in his arms, knowing that there was no other place on this earth, I would rather be...
 MysticalAngel429
Joined: 11/7/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 11/30/2009 2:18:49 PM
Beautiful OP I am so Happy for you!

I have looked within someone's eyes for the first time and felt my heart skip and the hairs at the nap of my neck stand. Yet, never have I been lucky enough to feel to the degree you speak of...One can only dream I guess!!
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/30/2009 3:18:07 PM
I also immediately thought of a succubus! Sick, sick, sick!

Seriously, I know exactly what you mean about that one moment when your souls seem to touch. Yes, it's an incredible, bonding experience when you KNOW that you are meant to be together.

I'm so happy you've found that person and the very best of luck to you both!
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 14
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Posted: 11/30/2009 3:38:18 PM
Recently I had an experience that carried with it a very odd sensation and aftermath. In an intimate moment with my SO, she began gently stroking my face while staring deep into my eyes. I felt as though she was literally sucking in my essence and making it part of herself. I felt totally powerless to "break" the connection. All at once I sensed what was happening. She was showing her own vulnerability to me in a way that made me feel as though I must protect it and guard it with my life. For the first time I sensed that there was no turning back...I was in it for real and possibly for good. It was amazing. Just when I thought that at my age I was becoming a bit jaded and that these kinds of feelings were for Romance novels only.

Would anyone else care to describe that "moment" when the state of the relationship passes that tipping point?


it's the point when you hear "Can you feel the love tonightTTTT!!!!
 tekky_girl
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 11/30/2009 4:40:22 PM
Recently, I saw a post asking when we knew we were in love with our SO. Mine was about 5 months in. I looked at him while I was cleaning up the kitchen while he was sitting on the couch watching TV. Instead of being annoyed, a quiet voice inside said, "I think I could live with this." Just knowing that he was there, with me, and I could always dry my hands and climb in his lap if I wanted to, was enough.

I agree, the "sucking in your essence" is a little creepy. I do know what you mean about connecting though. Again, recently, same bf, had that same experience a couple of different times. It was wonderful. Last week, we hit a rough patch, and I felt like I had been punched in the stomach, literally. That was awful.

Looking back, I don't recall ever having those kinds of emotions (much less moments) with my ex-husband. How sad considering we had 3 children together.

I'm not sure that it's an age thing, OP. Except that maybe we recognize it for the rarity that it is and appreciate it for all it's worth. Congrats and wish me luck as well. I think we're both in deeeeep!
 Challenge
Joined: 5/28/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/30/2009 6:34:30 PM
I experience the exact same sensation savouring Haagen Daaz Mayan Chocolate Ice Cream.......the relationship has since progressed to an addition of whipped cream and fudge sauce.......

Love is amazing !
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 12/1/2009 6:29:06 AM
Yes, the slower courtship thing is what went down; all from my side. This was a case of her being much farther into the relationship for a long time. We've been dating for two years now. When we met I had been dating in what was a rebound short term situation. My current SO approached me, but I was cautious as I had been through a couple of unsatisfying relationships since my wifes passing. This time I was determined to approach the situation in a way I felt was more the way a woman would; that is more rationally, not just letting brain chemistry take over and sweep me along for the ride. I took my time to find out whether or not she was really the one for me in all of the ways I needed a woman to be. And again like a woman might do things, I chose to concentrate on the more transcendent qualities as opposed to "looks". While she is attractive enough, my concerns were more about character issues; honesty, generosity,loyalty, work ethic, etc. Only after my finding her character suitable did I truly open myself to the possibility of submitting and committing to the love she offered and giving equally in return.
So, it wasn't just the rush of brain chemistry that moved me to where I am now.
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 12/1/2009 7:28:13 AM
Maybe that's the point. At my age the testosterone is dialed back a bit and things look and feel just a bit differently than they did even ten years ago; a new perspective and a new phase in life, I like it.
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 19
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Posted: 12/1/2009 7:44:01 AM
This is truly what it is all about.
It has been my experience that when you break those polar boundries the energy in both of them gets pulled into one big energy force.
If you have found someone that you feel comfortable enough to let go of your vulnerability than the real stuff can begin.
Logic has it's place in life but it is a bitter pill to swallow without the magic.

As far havinga succubus control my thoughts by pulling me into some mental romantic fantasy of the supernatural while I am dreaming......... Bring it on!
 tnt144
Joined: 10/22/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 12/5/2009 12:18:04 PM
TickleLicks, I would not throw the baby out with the bathwater... while it's important to find someone with a good attitude and who won't take you for granted and to maintain trust, respect, romance, and affection, you still need love... the truth is, you should be looking for both love and good relationship skills.

While there may be a short-lived honeymoon phase of a good relationship, I have seen people who still love each other very much for decades.
 Chitownguy40
Joined: 9/29/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 12/5/2009 1:12:01 PM
I think you need to stop reading so much New Age literature.
 2Irish1
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/5/2009 1:32:32 PM
I've had this particular experience...it wasn't anything that started with a physical touch or look...it was a final act that my wife had made...in that week before she passed...it was a decission I'd never have wished her to make...if I could have found any way around it for her I would have....she was forced, by her mother, to decide between her mother and me...and she chose me...it wasn't pretty...it wasn't a great poignant moment...it was really the absolutely crappy trenches of life...I wished it had never happened...and yet...I'm so happy for the gift.
 pandusvenator
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 23
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Posted: 12/6/2009 7:29:17 AM

A tantric experience.


Yes. Be careful. I do not create tantric experiences with a woman unless she is very stable. Be careful what level you allow yourself to be into. It can be an experience of a life time as well.
Actually being inside of a woman's body can have huge rewards. Orgasms that won't stop to other things and visa versa. If she has a 20 minute orgasm it can change your life but if you or her are pretty evil there can be some damage.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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Posted: 12/6/2009 7:38:48 AM
Dump her.



Dump her now.









Kidding, good to hear!

 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/6/2009 7:40:06 AM

This time I was determined to approach the situation in a way I felt was more the way a woman would; that is more rationally, not just letting brain chemistry take over and sweep me along for the ride. I took my time to find out whether or not she was really the one for me in all of the ways I needed a woman to be. And again like a woman might do things, I chose to concentrate on the more transcendent qualities as opposed to "looks". While she is attractive enough, my concerns were more about character issues; honesty, generosity,loyalty, work ethic, etc. Only after my finding her character suitable did I truly open myself to the possibility of submitting and committing to the love she offered and giving equally in return.
So, it wasn't just the rush of brain chemistry that moved me to where I am now.



I am so happy for your damasteel.. I think dating for two years you truly get to know the real person and by the sounds of it you found yourself a real gem.

thecatsmeoww
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