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 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 8
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OP, if you really wanted to know what a hand job from a stranger is like, just sit on your hand for five minutes until it gets numb, then masturbate. It'll feel like its not even you doing it!
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 10
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 12:07:01 PM
YOu are in a foreign country, meaning you could have bought the real thing for some extra cash. But instead you just went for cheap, for a hand job. Probably the shake and bake with a discount, right? May as well get yourself a shoe polisher and stick your d ick there.


So dude you get what you deserve.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 12
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 12:37:27 PM
A hand can be warm and wet with a little KY. Trust me, handjobs from someone else can be very pleasureable.
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 12:55:12 PM
In the off chance that the OP is serious, it’s not so much the act that is extremely gratifying as the connection and intimacy with whom you are involved. Sex is a mechanical act, add fondness, attraction, love and passion and then it truly becomes explosive… it touches you to your core.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 16
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 12:58:52 PM
Actually you can give yourself a better handjob because you know just when to slow down or speed up as required. All someone else is going to do is jerk you off until you come. It can be pretty impersonal. Hope that helps.

Now I have to ask:if you paid for a handjob why the he ll didn't you just pay to get laid and get your virginity out of the way?
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 17
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 12:59:42 PM

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. So don't let people freak you with it "Omg! Why are you a virgin??" and such.


it is NOT really normal for a guy to be a virgin at 33

"normal" people have sex drives, usually quite strong ones

I think this can be a sign of mental illness, likely afraid of people, being close to women ?

sounds paranoid, schizophrenic maybe
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 18
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 1:14:04 PM

I think this can be a sign of mental illness, likely afraid of people, being close to women ?

sounds paranoid, schizophrenic maybe
Give me a break. The guy makes a personal choice to remain celibate and he's got to be mentally unstable?

Gotta love the PoF forums...
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 19
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 1:19:52 PM

why is a mouth or vagina infinitely better? Aren't those all body parts too? Or is it all in the mind?


If you have to ask this, you don't deserve to know.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 20
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 1:22:45 PM
Being a 30+ y/o virgin is a bit abnormal. But it doesn't mean you have hang ups or mental illness. And "abnormal" doesn't imply anything bad. It just means its not the norm. It could very well be that their appearance prevents them from finding a mate, as is the case for a couple guys I know.
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 24
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 4:54:23 PM
this guy apparently seems to think it is a problem enough to ask about it here..




People put so much importance on sex these days...


yes, and on food, water, shelter and other basic biological needs/urges..

why do people obsess over food water & shelter so much??

Maslow's Hieracrchy of Needs?

if you're not eating, have shelter, and getting some (sex) , you can't move up the ladder to love and other higher levels..

I just know if I was still a virgin at 33 (or even 23.. or even 18) I'd have to be consigned to an insane asylum, but different people have different testosterone levels and different sex drives I suppose.




Someday, you may find a person you want to connect with emotionally and then will be the time to experience sexuality at it's best. Until then, just be happy that you are satisfied with masturbation.


if you haven't found one single person in that category by age 33, it's unlikely you will by 63 or 73 or 83..

why do you think most people do at 1/2 your age or so? have you ever felt attraction to a girl? do you think maybe you are secretly gay and just can't or won't admit it to yourself?

what's going to change all of a sudden? no-one you've ever met is 'good enough ' for you to have sex with? or even a relationship? have you ever dated?

were there girls in your junior high or high school? none good enough? do you ever meet people, or have you made yourself a hermit?
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 27
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 5:06:24 PM

So calling him stupid for trying it while he is out of the US, which again is cheaper, is stupid in itself.


well, depending on age, legality etc. many countries have much harsher penalties for these things than does the US.

and if it was in a "Sex tourist" place like Thailand, the Philippines, etc. where under-age girls often ply the trace..be aware that the US, Canada, UK and other countries can and do prosecute for these actions taking place outside the home jurisdiction.

also people going to pros might get robbed, mugged, etc.

so it depends on the circumstances ..stupid is as stupid does.worth it for a hand job?


sort of a do-it-yourself project, no?
 god_of_rock
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 30
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 5:15:51 PM

Sex is not a necessity, no matter how much YOU crave it.


yes I know that .

"love" and "friends" are not a "necessities" either but most people would find life quite empty without either.

one can 'survive' without them for an entire life but probably not very happily

for that matter very few things are 'necessities' , that many people consider to be:

e.g. cars, more than one change of clothing, shelter bigger than 6' X 6', etc.

most of us want to have a little bit more than the bare necessities of life though
 Casper66
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 31
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 5:16:48 PM
Sex with someone you respect, love or have sexual chemistry with beats masturbation anyday. Having a stranger give you a handjob or blowjob probably is not going to be much different and sex is just asmuch in the mind as the body. Get out and meet women, do some dating and find someone you want to be intimate with, this can make all the difference.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/1/2009 5:25:07 PM

Is it just me...or does 15 years or so of masterbating seem like a long time before you would get bored with it?


I've been masturbating for 16 years without anything else.

Sure i'd love to have more, but wackin it does not bore me.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 12/1/2009 6:47:53 PM
Next time request a "rusty trombone"


LoL


 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 35
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/2/2009 3:20:19 AM
Most of the replies here are insensitive to the person asking the question.
Some of the good replies here are from the following posters:
The best is from "LintSpotter" and also Casper 66, and Coveredinpain123.
Basically when you find someone and who has mutual feelings for you and perhaps will tell you what turns them on and the rest might flow just right. You also should consult an Astrologer so you can tell if the mate you are going to be with might be right, then perhaps it may all work.
To the question asker: It is good, that mastubation is getting boring for you, because I have known men who prefer to masturbate than have real sex and these men were not really capable of real sex. Masturbation becomming boring for you is a good thing. This means you are ready to find something more. In a real relationship this should be much better than a hand job at a Massage place or meaningless sex with a prostitute, or meaningless sex with anyone, I do know. An escort service lady and I will call them ladies, might be more understanding of you. But that is not a good answer,either. I have not enjoyed sex since I have not been in a relationship. I used to be addicted to sex. Now, even the best sexually technical men leave me cold and unturned on because their is no relationship involved.
My advice is to find sex in a relationship with a partner who will instruct you. Sex outside a real relationship is VERY COLD and VERY UNFULFILLING. I know, because I have been there. Lately, I have not had sex for 2 months. The last time was with a 22 year old boy and suddently his technical ability improved and actually became was very good, but he did not turn me on. Why? Because there was no hope of a mutual relationship or affection. Sex in a caring , loving, sane relationship is the best sex, I do recall from my memory of over 4 and a half years ago when I had all that except for the sane part. My ex was not really sane, which is definely why he left.
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 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 39
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/2/2009 10:50:25 AM

Trust me, handjobs from someone else can be very pleasureable.

Certainly adds a new dimension to sitting on the couch watching television, mutual masturbation with a gorgeous earthy woman.
 MIkeJ1904
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 41
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/2/2009 3:36:33 PM
It's not what the woman does to you that makes sex so much better than masturbation or a hand job, it's what you do to/for her.
Her breasts feel much better in your hands than your member does.
It's the smell and taste of her vagina.
It's the ability to send her into orgasms and have her squirm beneath you.
These are the things that will make your wood harder than oak and will make you explode like you never knew possible.
When is the last time you flopped on the bed covered in sweat after masturbating?
I wouldn't rank a BJ any higher than a hand job unless you are returning the favor at the same time. That isn't going to happen with a pro.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 12/2/2009 4:55:03 PM
Being a 30 year old virgin doesn't make you gay.

And if it does...I guess I should stock up on lube for the next 4 years.

He might have some social issues.

I'm not good with people, espically crowds.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 47
30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/7/2009 11:21:40 PM

I am 30+ year old virgin and decided masturbating was getting too boring

At 30 you figured this out, huh? ;) Actually, it should never get boring -- but it should get boring (and then some) as your ONLY sexual outlet after 21.

I went to a massage parlor and got a hand job. To be honest they did not feel much different than masturbation.

Yeah, because they're doing the same thing. Actually, probably not as well as you, either...

I was expecting alot more explosion of feeling down there, but there was hardly anything till I got close to climax.

First, getting a -good- handjob is better than masturbation, if all you've done is wax your own carrot for god-knows-how-long, even if your own "batting stance" is better. She was a professional, so I'm sure she did a decent job at least. BUT being a virgin and having to pay a professional lady to wack you off probably counter-acted all that.

Having a prostitute is and should be a different psychological (thus an altering sexual) experience than from a woman you picked up at a bar or from dating.

By this time, you have to know you're in the abnormal range. Really. Not bashing you, and it's nothing that can't be undone over some time, but if you don't accept/recognize that, then everything will be confusing to you. Yes, a blowjob or actual sex would be better than a handjob (you already have self-experience in that), but getting it from a professional is "fake" and that ruins the experience to some degree, so don't base "this is what sex/blowjob is like" based on that if you do so. Your sexual experience will vary between situations.

Go out there and find a real girl... and don't focus on how sex will feel like. Just roll with things and relax, and you'll slide into normal reality. :)
 LongAfterDark
Joined: 5/17/2008
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/8/2009 11:03:34 AM
there's a lot of old virgins here. what's up with that.
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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30+ year old virgin tries a hand job and not impressed
Posted: 12/8/2018 4:28:53 AM
LOL.....congrats on waiting that long....any feelings would be better if you had feelings for the other person....that's when the so-called better feelings come in....specially if they were versed in giving.....I have dated for some time and am hetero but during dating have been with women who had no idea what they were doing or what they liked....hard to believe right?....while I applaud those who [save] themselves we aren't in the horse and buggy age any more....I would suggest just experimenting and dating women who might be as inquisitive as yourself....at your age there's a ton who aren't versed and are used to some dope jumping on and jumping off leaving them with this what just happened thing....lol...I've never been that way and always loved to tease and massage my way to her climax....for lack of better terms made her physic my temple....experiment and by all means use protection until you know what it is your looking for!...good luck!
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