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Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 13
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aw cheese! Here ya, lazy f'tards:

From the abstract:
"Comparing the responses of men and women, this paper examines attitudes about the importance of marriage and parenthood for men and women. Using data from the National Survey of Families and Households (1992-94), we show that according to these respondents, women 'need' children more than men do and men 'need' marriage more than women do."

So, YET AGAIN, a man (OP) is trying to paint women as somehow "bad" and "man-haters", implying that they don't "need" men, when this says nothing of the sort.
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 16
Do woman need family more than men?
Posted: 12/13/2009 10:22:21 AM
well...OP, by posting such an ambiguous question, certainly got us thinking!

To me, family is comprised of both blood and created relationships. Personally, I am closer to much of my "created" family than I am to my blood relatives for reasons both of proximity and of personality.

I consider both my living ex-husbands to be family, by the way.

Would I choose my kids over a man? Lets put it this way...everything doesn't have to always be sweetness and light because life doesn't work that way, but I can't be involved with a man unless there is some sort of non-antagonistic relationship between my kids and that man. In other words, I'm not going to be continually caught in the middle. Not fair to me, the kids, or my partner. Nor would I expect my partner to choose between me and his kids. It's just simply not an option.

If I did not have children, would I be interested in/stay in a good relationship with a man with whom having children was not an option? Yes.

So....I would not give up my extended or immediate family for a man, but I would have chosen a good relationship without the possibilty of ever having children of my own in that relationship.

Do men and women have an equal need for family? I believe so. All of the men I know find their family to be very important to them, whatever may be the composition of that family.
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 19
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Do woman need family more than men?
Posted: 12/13/2009 2:13:51 PM
I'm impressed with how much chat can be generated by a poorly worded, unsubstantiated claim about men and women, which uses poorly chosen words like "need," and undefined terms like "family." It certainly set a lot of people off.
My own response is: balderdash. "All things considered even?" What things? What does even mean? What does "need" mean?
And "what if the situation was forced?" What situation? Forced?
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 12/13/2009 7:32:55 PM
I think it depends on the woman. Some women I know have a man and no kids. Others have the reverse. Some women choose their new boyfriend over their kids. Some women would rather kick the boyfriend to the kerb.

But I gather than many women think the kids are more reliable in giving love, as they've been trained from birth. Doesn't always work out like that. But I feel sure that more men love their mothers than their ex-wives.
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/13/2009 9:35:09 PM
Well, commissioners & judges sure think so. No, imo they don't.

Did you know single men die younger? We play harder and eat worse without a family to help keep us in line.
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