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Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 1
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I have gotten a few of these and was wondering if anyone ever takes a women up on it. These are the straight up emails for only sex (yeah, like intimate encounter wasn't clear enough)...seems pretty out there to me and going to a bar where you can see the goods seems to make more sense...and seems a whole lot less risky.

If you did take her up on it, what happened? My mind jumps to waking up the next morning without a kidney and a note telling me to call 911.
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 2
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Posted: 12/22/2009 3:46:16 AM
Nope - they are usually 30-40 year old women that are pretty attractive but don't have overly seductive pics or anything...amusingly enough, they often have the screener of not wanting men looking for the same....

These are not the 22 year olds that have a girlfriend and are looking for some fun type - just seem like normal women with normal profiles for the most part.

Usually is it an email to grab a drink tonight or are a request to get together tonight sort of thing....but the meaning is pretty obvious. You'll have to trust me on that.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman just wanting some company for the night - so at least for me, no judgments or anything offered....just wondering if anyone here has taken a woman up on it.
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 3
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Posted: 12/22/2009 8:43:16 AM
One guy posted about how he threw down with some girl, in a similar situation.

After she basically said, "ok that was a freebie, the next time it's going to cost"

Oh snap!!!
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/22/2009 8:45:36 AM
I am not being clear enough - these are not specifically "intimate encounter" people - just normal women that are asking for some company for the night...have pics, present the same way as all the couldn't tell from the profile that they would do this.

So they are just being pretty direct. Again, I don't see anything wrong with that per se...but the anonymity is a bit off-putting I guess but damn, we are all using it for finding a relationship - at first blush, that seems even a little odder.
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 5
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Posted: 12/22/2009 12:57:37 PM
So what you are saying is that these women that are on PoF are asking you if you would like to go out on a date. You interpret this as them wanting to have an IE with you. Do you think that any woman that would ask a guy out just wants sex? Did you ever think that they might just want to go out on a date?
Joined: 7/25/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 12/23/2009 1:40:41 AM
I would not be surprised if 'escorts' were trolling PoF looking 'johns'. Free to join and an abundance of horny guys....
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/23/2009 2:02:51 AM
Thanks Reign Man - sort of what I thought - that it really isn't any different from meeting someone with a "dating" agenda that turns physical very quickly...

I dunno if that is for me though - I don't do rejecting well and am liking the ability to back off when I have a more vague agenda for the meet.

But food for thought.
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:14:19 AM
Thanks Barbyanne2 - something that needed to be said and better said by a woman I think...

But I do find some of the morals on this site pretty out of touch and out dated. Women enjoy sex as much (if not more so) than men. I don't see anything wrong with a woman asking for something she wants and, in turn, not being labeled for it.

A lot of misogyny running around here.
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:00:04 AM
"Women RARELY write with a "Hey baby, you're cute" "

Utter nonsense if the emails I get are any indicator. And I get a fair amount of mail from women. 90% of them are women just like the men here - they see my pic, like it, and give me a "Hey, you're cute" or something like that. Absolutely no awareness of my profile and have no concept of whether we would be good together or not. Absolutely none. I can barely read some of their profiles...they don't even try to read what I say about myself.

Reverse stereotypes are just as bad - get off of it - in this sort of environment, women are just like you and me - no better and no worse, they don't scrutinize profiles and make better decisions, they don't not want sex, and there is no secret book they get when they are 13 that tells them how to behave better than men - and they are just as vulnerable to the superficial....
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/4/2010 10:32:34 AM

Reverse stereotypes are just as bad - get off of it - in this sort of environment, women are just like you and me - no better and no worse, they don't scrutinize profiles and make better decisions, they don't not want sex, and there is no secret book they get when they are 13 that tells them how to behave better than men - and they are just as vulnerable to the superficial....

I think this was nicely-put, especially the part about 'the secret book'! lol

We are all imperfect creatures trying to make our way as best we can.
Joined: 1/3/2010
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/19/2010 8:19:14 AM
"Why would attractive women who truly have their STUFF together pick up random guys on the internet? "

Haven't you ever heard of swingers?

Some of the women with profiles up here in my area I am familiar with through other web sites, including Swinger web sites.
And yes, they are interested in intimate encounters.

Nothing wrong with that if you are a swinger.

Notice you can block people who are after an intimiate encounter from contacting you with a feature on here.

I have met all sorts of swingers over the years.
For every stereotypical low rent, trailer park skank of the type you guys have been insulting there are probably about a dozen intelligent, college educated, financially successful and healthy women in the swinger world.
Of the last three swinger women I physically met, one was a beautiful young businesswoman, one was a young girl who had an ordinary job but made more money than I do and one was an elderly grandmother with a rudimentary education.

Honestly, I would rather hook up with and date swinger women than date cheaters, bar flys or the thong queens who are often found in singles clubs.
I know more non-swingers who have contacted STDs than swingers too, by the way.
Not to mention the fact that most swingers are into GOOD HYGIENE.
I can't realy say that about the club rats who work a minimum wage job eight hours a day, get off work, go clubbing all night get up the next day and repeat the process, often without bathing for two or three days in a row.
Joined: 1/3/2010
Msg: 12
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Posted: 1/26/2010 2:04:23 PM
You have a better chance of hooking up with a criminal or disturbed person in a bar than you do online on either regular dating or swinging web sites.

I don't know of any cases where somebody hooked up with an axe killer off a swinging web site. I am sure that if there was, the Moral Majority types would hype it to the high heavens.

I do know of many cases where women hooked up with career felons in bars or on regular dating sites.

For one thing, most criminals are not intelligent enough to type well on an internet dating site.

Those movies and tv shows the lovely brunette lady mentions are entertainment, not reality. How many of those court shows do you see where a case drags through court over a year?

My ex fiance got me into swinging when we were together and while most of my experiences with ladies I met online are okay or exemplary, I have literally HORROR stories of hot young thong queens she picked up in bars.

She came home one night with a remarkably beautiful young woman she wanted to have a threesome with. When the girl stripped down, her crusty underwear was STUCK to her body. Her long hair was also tatty with hair spray. Turns out this girl had not had a bath in three or four days as she worked eight hours a day at the mall in a kiosk and then went clubbing all night and hadn't even been home in three days.
There are other examples I could give of ladies she picked up in bars that were even worse....
On the other hand, the swinger ladies she met online were nice, polite and CLEAN.

As for the possibility of STDs.
The worst case I can verify in the Lifestyle is of people being exposed to a senseless couple who did not tell them they had Hepatitis.
My ex probably slept with 90 different men and women never using condoms and never picked up anything. But she refused to sleep with drug users. Thats the key there.
On the other hand, my sweet, church going neice got HPV off the first boy she was with....whom she met at a nightclub.

Go talk to your local health department sanitarian. They will tell you how STDs really get spread, providing they go out and investigtate cases themselves.
Truckers and cheaters pick up hookers and pay extra to ride bareback. Inevitably they get the gift that keeps on giving. They share drugs with a thong queen in a bar and give it to her. She gives it to a cheater, who gives it to his wife. The wife finds out he was cheating and sleeps with the husbands sleazy buddy to get even. Who then gives it to another bar rat or thong queen and it keeps making the rounds....
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/8/2010 4:03:40 PM
OP- I used to hook buddies up back in the day with intimate encounters with girls I'd meet for them on the internet....

this was back in like 2000 or so...back when you could just search for someone or go into a chatroom, etc or anything....

i was in the Army at the time and would help out guys that had trouble closing the deal to get laid.

we'd talk via IM....I've never met a girl that would say "I wanna come over and screw your brains out"

neither have I ever had a woman I've met in a bar that wanted a one nighter (that I'd just met) say those words either...

YET- with these women, it is completely evident this is what they want...back then I would ask them what they looked like and then tell 'em my name (my buddy's name) and told her to come over to the barracks. I'd tell 'em I'm real shy and had only been with a few women...

I would say if she was not as she described (insert today- if you are not the girl in the pic) that I would turn her away and tell her to go home, unless she was better than described....

again- even IRL have I met a girl that I had a one-nighter with --

I still had to say "your place or mine?"

women still expect you to take the lead and IMO even tho they are (in their minds) giving you ever hint needed to say that they want a one night/intimate encounter.... they still need a guy to say the words...

after all- they could get rejected....

if you want to do it these days, be just as obvious and have them meet you somewhere in public and then head over to a hotel somewhere....neutral territory...

be wary though of a girl constantly texting as you two are headed to the hotel....she could be having her man follow yall to cause you trouble....and do not fall asleep if you really are that worried about it.

also communicate to someone who you are meeting with and can even communicate these words to her....

if you are truly concerned.... lol
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 14
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Posted: 10/8/2010 6:02:03 PM

Women who write first messages like that are either scammers or camgirls looking for more customers.

If only these cam girls were real, many men would be having lots of fun with them at their place. I wonder if the hotel near my home that people claim to be filled with prostitutes and hookers is really living up to its name.
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 15
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Posted: 10/9/2010 5:16:44 AM
I've seen a bunch of ladies' profiles that have the "block" on against messages seeking "an intimate encounter"- seems to me that just about every message that gets sent on here is more or less doing just that.
But then, it occurred to me that the "block" is couched in the singular, i.e., seeking just one such encounter, and cuz I'm not interested in once-and-dones either, I just freakin' put that "intimate encounter" message wall on my profile. So there!
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/9/2010 8:51:29 AM
Aside form all the dangers listed already, I have to point out that no one else's experiences can possibly help you decide for yourself. You are an individual, different even from an exact twin, due to your own life experiences. Whether or not you find a given meaningless tryst to be "worth it" or not will depend on where you are in your life development, where you WANT to go with such, and various other things.
So, I'd say, take precautions, and then TRY IT. That's the only way you'll find out about YOURSELF through this.
I myself had (in my youth) a few completely meaningless sexual encounters, and discovered that for me, at least, they were far more work than they were worth. That's just me, though, I'm one of those 'sensitive' types. I've known plenty of guys who GET OFF on how MANY women they've bedded (when they used beds, anyway).
And, it HAS happened, on the rare occasion, that someone has used that method successfully, to find a mate to stop and stay with.
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