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 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 3
Shaving = Pedophilia?Page 1 of 15    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15)

Wanting a clean shaven woman does not make you a pedophile and if that is what she thinks, then maybe she needs to talk to someone about her issues? To each their own I guess.


I love a woman that is completely shaven. And let me tell you, I would not even date anybody that is under 21. That is as ridiculous as applying the same principles to blonds. Most natural blonds have their hair turn darker by the time they are 18, unless they are from the scandinavian countries. So does liking a blond means you want that? Not really.

So shave away.

 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:13:31 AM
Mother nature knows best. Let it alone. I love the smell of a woman as she is. No soap either. Washing with water is enough; given the woman is healthy, there is no unpleasant odor at all.
 LongAfterDark
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:14:49 AM

Tell her that most Gynos actually recommend women shave, as it is cleaner and helps "air"things out.


I've heard the opposite actually.
 NYCman530
Joined: 7/6/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:37:06 AM
I think there should at least be some compromise. It would be a turnoff to me to get with a woman who's shrubbery is so dense I'd need a machete to get anywhere(I already flossed this morning). She doesn't have to be totally shaved, although I wouldn't complain, but she should be neatly trimmed. On the flip side, I'm sure most women want the man to keep themselves trimmed as well.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:39:06 AM
Give her this example.... imagine licking an ice cream cone and finding a hair on your tongue..... what a gross out.... u can let her experience this by actually giving her a cone and placing a strand of celery fiber on it and let her lick it... see what she says
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:43:13 AM

first of all the fact that you are looking for "arguments" is a huge red flag.
"but what arguments can I use for her to shave?"


Man, you must be a barrel of laughs to be around.....nit picking a general term like that!
He is asking how to best state his case.....not how to start an arguement.
Talk about huge red flags!!

He also didn't state he wouldn't accept her as is......just seeing if he can get her to try it!


OP.....you can only tell her your preferences.....and ask if she is willing to compromise.....shave on bottom w/ a landing strip.
Tell her you can make it a sensual experience w/ you doing the shaving!!
If she refuses......you have to drop it.
Badgering her will make her think you don't find her appealing.....and that's a no win situation all the way around!

as for the pedophile reference......that's just ridiculous.
I'm shaved on the bottom......and I guarantee you I don't look anything like a little girl when I'm naked!
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:11:25 AM
if she doesnt want to shave then you shouldnt try to encourage her to. You will just end up frustrated in the end.

However I think she is being very immature about thinking or using the excuse that only pedophiles like it shaved.
She should just tell you she doesnt want to do it because she is uncomfortable with it and leave it at that.

Respect her feelings or move on....
 AwP
Joined: 12/31/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:28:09 AM
Here's the angle I think you should take. Tell her that you don't like shaved because you like prepubescent girls, you like it because you like hot porn stars. Then tell her that a hot girl like her could totally fulfill your hot porn fantasies by shaving. You'll be flattering her and appealing to her vanity, which would likely come off much better than trying to trick or out-argue her.

edit to add: You should also offer to do something for her in return, relationships are built on compromise. If you're lucky she'll have you fulfill some kinky fantasy of hers, if you're not so lucky you'll be doing her laundry or something.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:48:32 AM
personally i do think shaving the pubic hair off is a fetish, one that the american porn industry has spread into society ,and it has nothing to do with personal care or being clean.... and has everything to do with the pre pubecent look, i think its an other indication of how sick our society has become, women, are loosing there individuality, there brainwashed into looking young.....it amazes me how things have changed, in the past 20 years,maybe i am finally showing my age lol
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 11:42:07 AM
20 years ago, heck 10 tears ago, women did not shave, and they where clean, some trimmed, a few had a landing strip, but very very few shaved, what has changed.... culture is youth obsessed , and the porn industry started promoting the shaved look, i am noy saying there is anything wrong with it, but the fact of the matter is its not natural, and it is done because it is supposed to emulate pre teens
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 2:23:36 PM
If I remove the hair on my vulva, I do it for no one but myself.

I am a red-head. Shaving irritates my skin. Everywhere. The only thing I shave is my pits... every 2-3 days, longer inbetween shaving in the winter. I've had partners shave me, and it's damned hot... became a ritual with one. The regrowth and ingrowns and what not are a real biotch to deal with, and far more painful then anything I would subject myself to willingly on a routine basis.

The hair is there for a reason. Yes, it traps scents. It's supposed to. The concentration of pheremones and the protection of the delicate mucous membranes, not to mention a cushion on the pubic bone for rigorous sex. The hair is like your eyebrows and eyelashes... helps to keep things out of your eyes.

I don't remove it all, unless it was a grand mistake at the hands of the sadist.. err.. esthetician. I do not like the look of completely bald on me. Makes me feel wierd. I like a little left behind, but most of it gone. I'm really lucky 'cause my guy doesn't care what I do with it.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 43
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Posted: 12/23/2009 2:34:11 PM
Women who shave thier legs and arm pits are just trying to look like little girls so they can entice child molesters, right?

If you don't want to shave your hoohah that's fine. It can be itchy, I know. But don't pull the pedo card.

Women I've been with will often vary the amount of hair down their. Sometimes go bald for a while, sometimes not. It's all good as far as I'm concerned. No need to read into it too much as to why guys like hair or don't.
 Malice From Wonderland
Joined: 11/20/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 12/23/2009 2:38:43 PM
hell I go get mine waxed every 4 weeks! I cannot stand hair and have been doing this for years. I would say suggest waxing to her but if she won't shave she probably won't go get it waxed. Just tell her why in the exact words you told us!! I wear a lot of skimpy bikinis in the summer and I just like the feel of it. I do it for me and no one else. :)
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 46
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Posted: 12/23/2009 3:04:05 PM
I've only had One GF shave and I hated it. She didn't keep it up daily and allowed stubble to form...man was that brutal on my johnson! It was like she had sand paper taped to her junk. I got a "burn" once that put me off stickin it to her for days. I was like"shave it daily or grow it out... no more stubble!". She was a lot more fastidious from then on but I still prefer "natural".
 LongAfterDark
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 47
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Posted: 12/23/2009 7:01:26 PM
Pubic hair is necessary it stops chafing during long periods of rough sex, which I happen to enjoy. If a girl wants to shave that's fine but she better be prepared for redness downstairs.
 tronvillain
Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 52
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:48:03 PM
The only argument I ever used was that I didn't like hair, especially when giving face. Oh, and that I was already shaved myself. *chuckle* Yes, the shaved look appeals to a preference for youth cues, but as long as there is also a preference for sexual maturity cues, it has nothing to do with pedophilia.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 62
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Posted: 12/24/2009 8:28:19 AM

let her know you'd love to use shaving as foreplay if she's ever up for it--then let it go.


This is one of the most erotic things there is. It's not only fun, but you can shape her like the little landing pad one time, a little triangle the next time, or completely off the next time.

 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 63
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Posted: 12/24/2009 8:29:24 AM

Sorry if your Gyno disagrees with my gyno. My Gyno told me that women should shave so I will listen to her advice. Thanks anyway ERP


This topic is about opinion, not facts. Just like the decision to circumcise boys or not, medical OPINIONS can be found to bolster an argument in either direction.
To shave or not to shave; it's personal preference and tastes that aren't subject to "facts".
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 65
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Posted: 12/24/2009 8:45:03 AM
This pedophilia thing discussion in kinda dumb ... there are other factors besides looking young that are involved in pedophilia .... its like guys when I were in school ...if you do this or if you do that .."your gay"...its all BS ...everybody wants to preserve their youth /look young ... everyone wants their partner to look younger ..don't mean they want to have sex with a child ... heck My wife use to put her hair up in the doggie ears thing and put on her old cheerleader uniform ...and we would make out for hours like we did when we were kids ...and then we would have sex ... do you really think that we did this because I wanted to have sex with a kid ...Hell no ... I knew she was a grown woman ...she knew she was a woman it was just a little roll play skit...in this fantasy yes she was a teenager but I was also .... but I have never seen the pubic hair thing as a pedophilia thingy for a woman ... I did for years think that having a forest down there somehow contributed to my manhood ... then I got kinky and tried the hairless thing ..wont ever go back ... me and my wife cut the hair just because it feels better
 8soldierfalcon8
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 66
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Posted: 12/24/2009 8:54:31 AM
I would have already dumped her, OP.

The fact that she is trying to guilt trip you about your preferences, much less trying to give you such an ignorant and outlandish guilt trip would be an immediate "bye bye" from me.

Then again, we are of very different generations and probably different social circles too.

Basic hygeine is just not a discussion point for me. She either is or isn't on the same page as me. If she doesn't get on the same page as me, then we are not compatible. Simple.

-8sf8
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 69
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Posted: 12/24/2009 11:22:51 AM

We're in the 20th century now.


Ah, pardon. If I am not mistaken we are in the 21 century now.
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 76
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Posted: 12/24/2009 11:44:56 PM

Just refuse to go down on her if she doesn't!


You all are making it too hard. If you aren't compatible in that way........it's not for you. Move on.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 86
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Posted: 12/27/2009 2:02:43 PM

if she is clean, and has no odor and no other problems, then you should be on your knees thanking God that you have a woman that is with you!!!


I hate to disagree with you but ...when a woman or man wont make compromises for their lover ..something is wrong ...actually I would be piss-ed if my woman even suggested that I had any pedophile tenancies..thats nothing to even joke about ... I see for many the woman gets a pass on refusal to compromise..I actually remember the thread where a woman complained that the guy wanted oral sex but had a forest growing down there ... the tone of that thread was quiet different ... I see one of those dreaded double standards emerging here ... i dont even mind a hairy coochie but I do believe that guys are expected to conform more than the women are expected to compromise
 berrysweetncgurl
Joined: 8/2/2004
Msg: 87
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Posted: 12/28/2009 6:56:07 PM
I had to bust out laughing when I read the very first post.....Guys are just excited to get some. They are not worrying about whether its shaved or not or looks "mature" Hairy or not they will still stick their magic stick in it
 HowRJ
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 90
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Posted: 12/28/2009 7:40:16 PM
I think a gift would be in order....to get her to shave......hmmm.....let's see.......how about a little plaid skirt?.......
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