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 bittersweetkiss
Joined: 12/10/2009
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Tell her that most Gynos actually recommend women shave, as it is cleaner and helps "air"things out. Having the hair there can actually cause smells and so forth because the hair traps it in. My gyno went through the health bennefits of it with me (even though I already was shaving because I just don't like the hair lol).

Wanting a clean shaven woman does not make you a pedophile and if that is what she thinks, then maybe she needs to talk to someone about her issues? To each their own I guess.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 12/23/2009 8:58:39 AM

Wanting a clean shaven woman does not make you a pedophile and if that is what she thinks, then maybe she needs to talk to someone about her issues? To each their own I guess.


I love a woman that is completely shaven. And let me tell you, I would not even date anybody that is under 21. That is as ridiculous as applying the same principles to blonds. Most natural blonds have their hair turn darker by the time they are 18, unless they are from the scandinavian countries. So does liking a blond means you want that? Not really.

So shave away.

 RickyGR
Joined: 10/9/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:02:16 AM
Most women I've been with shaved. I shave my balls.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:04:26 AM
Women who shave their kitties and talk about it, tell me they've been shaving since they got their first period through menopause and still feel the need to keep bare, feel cleaner, sexier, naughtier and much better when her man is going down on her (the guys probably feel better too about not having to floss with her ratty pubes too)
The skin irritation usually comes from using a dull razor, shaving against the grain or not giving your skin enough chance to get used to a blade.
-Show her a porno flick made after 1990 -you won't see a hair in the whole bunch.
Some religions throughout the world practice shaving the lower region, and have been practicing it since the dawn of civilization.
The fact that she's bring up pedophilia makes me wonder if she doesn't have molesting issues from the past. -i would certainly think most people (without issues or sexual hang ups) can discern the difference between a grown woman and a child. -anyone who thinks about children and sex needs professional help..

Try at least getting her to trim, landing strip etc. much better than dealing with a tumbleweed or messy landscape...
 AZWendySH
Joined: 6/23/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:06:14 AM
I don't shave because I like the way the hair feels. Besides, I'm lazy. It's a tough area to keep shaved, razor irritation and ingrown hairs are just plain nasty and I don't have a hygiene problem. Then again, mines pretty sparse so a light trim is all I generally bother with. While I don't think only pedophiles are attracted to shaved genitalia, I personally find shaved genitalia--on men or women--creepy, purely because they do look preadolescent at that point. For me it's an absolute turnoff. While I understand intellectually how/why it is a turn on for others, emotionally it just seems weird. Like watching someone eat over cooked okra. Yech!
 whopeedinyourcheerios
Joined: 11/10/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:09:21 AM
I won't go down on a woman if she doesn't shave. I hate picking hair out of my teeth. Besides, nothing better than the feeling of a smooth shaven woman.

Another thing.....if I expect my woman to shave then I do the same in return. Yep, I'm as smooth as a babies butt
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:13:31 AM
Mother nature knows best. Let it alone. I love the smell of a woman as she is. No soap either. Washing with water is enough; given the woman is healthy, there is no unpleasant odor at all.
 LongAfterDark
Joined: 5/17/2008
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:14:49 AM

Tell her that most Gynos actually recommend women shave, as it is cleaner and helps "air"things out.


I've heard the opposite actually.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:16:51 AM
I prefer a little patch left above. (A landing strip or a "V")

I have to admit, fully shaved is not a big turn-on for me. I sometimes think it makes a woman look less physically mature... Which is a turn-off. That's not always true though. Some can pull it off just fine.
 barbyanne2
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 13
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:19:23 AM
first of all the fact that you are looking for "arguments" is a huge red flag.
"but what arguments can I use for her to shave?"

Second flag, you don't accept her as is or neatly trimmed as a compromise.

I don't blame her though, and if she's smart she'll bolt.

I agree the total shave is a little pedo-porno, although I have done it. I wasn't "forced" to,

(I'm a swimmer and that's what it was about, mostly)
 My_Girll
Joined: 11/20/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:35:44 AM
I would be less worried about how to talk her into shaving, but more worried about her thoughts on you being a pedophile. Those are some pretty harsh words.
 NYCman530
Joined: 7/6/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:37:06 AM
I think there should at least be some compromise. It would be a turnoff to me to get with a woman who's shrubbery is so dense I'd need a machete to get anywhere(I already flossed this morning). She doesn't have to be totally shaved, although I wouldn't complain, but she should be neatly trimmed. On the flip side, I'm sure most women want the man to keep themselves trimmed as well.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:39:06 AM
Give her this example.... imagine licking an ice cream cone and finding a hair on your tongue..... what a gross out.... u can let her experience this by actually giving her a cone and placing a strand of celery fiber on it and let her lick it... see what she says
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:43:13 AM

first of all the fact that you are looking for "arguments" is a huge red flag.
"but what arguments can I use for her to shave?"


Man, you must be a barrel of laughs to be around.....nit picking a general term like that!
He is asking how to best state his case.....not how to start an arguement.
Talk about huge red flags!!

He also didn't state he wouldn't accept her as is......just seeing if he can get her to try it!


OP.....you can only tell her your preferences.....and ask if she is willing to compromise.....shave on bottom w/ a landing strip.
Tell her you can make it a sensual experience w/ you doing the shaving!!
If she refuses......you have to drop it.
Badgering her will make her think you don't find her appealing.....and that's a no win situation all the way around!

as for the pedophile reference......that's just ridiculous.
I'm shaved on the bottom......and I guarantee you I don't look anything like a little girl when I'm naked!
 WinstonDoubtfire
Joined: 7/29/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 9:46:42 AM
That's just oddball thinking.

I love a trim, and I'm not crazy about bald, but in no way has an unbearded clam ever given me pedo thoughts.

I buzzcut everything right down to stubble and complete shave the twins and have never had a complaint about it.
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:11:25 AM
if she doesnt want to shave then you shouldnt try to encourage her to. You will just end up frustrated in the end.

However I think she is being very immature about thinking or using the excuse that only pedophiles like it shaved.
She should just tell you she doesnt want to do it because she is uncomfortable with it and leave it at that.

Respect her feelings or move on....
 Zebracolors
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:19:54 AM
Yeah this could go either way. But like it has been said, I think you and your lady will need to have a talk. Nothing serious, but most of the time with misconceptions like this, it might stem from self esteem issues. Maybe the same way that a girl who is perfectly normal and ideal weight can still "see" herself as fat, even though to others she looks great. Of course I realize the false perception discussed here, is completly different.

From a mental viewpoint, clean shaven does not have to equate to having an unhealthy attraction to minors. You, the OP, know thats definitly not the case, but you need to be honest with her and find a way to convince her that that is not the case. I don't know what to tell you to do to achieve this, as I don't know the woman, none of us here do. But I think honesty is needed. Intimacy should be fun for both involved, so both should give towards that. Appologies for rambling on.
 AwP
Joined: 12/31/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:28:09 AM
Here's the angle I think you should take. Tell her that you don't like shaved because you like prepubescent girls, you like it because you like hot porn stars. Then tell her that a hot girl like her could totally fulfill your hot porn fantasies by shaving. You'll be flattering her and appealing to her vanity, which would likely come off much better than trying to trick or out-argue her.

edit to add: You should also offer to do something for her in return, relationships are built on compromise. If you're lucky she'll have you fulfill some kinky fantasy of hers, if you're not so lucky you'll be doing her laundry or something.
 BigDaddyJinx
Joined: 11/4/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:30:06 AM

The though had never occured to me, and I don't associate mature shaved women with pre-pubescent girls, but what arguments can I use for her to shave?

Ugh...

This is simple...if you don't like the fact she doesn't shave - LEAVE.

Trying to get people to change who they are and how they roll to suit YOU is just the height of selfish. You accept the whole package or you don't.

You change oil.

You change lightbulbs.

You change diapers.

You change the empty toilet paper roll.

You don't change people.

The end.
 derfofraleigh
Joined: 9/10/2007
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:35:08 AM
It sounds to me like she is a bit "old fashion" with the shaving thingy. And as for the pedophile statement, that sounds like one of those false statements our moms use to tell use growing up as in "you'll go blind if you masturbate". Some times, you may have to convience people that mama was wrong.

Bigdaddyjinx, that would look real good on the divorce papers. Leaving because she will not shave . "Unshaven differences" .

 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:48:32 AM
personally i do think shaving the pubic hair off is a fetish, one that the american porn industry has spread into society ,and it has nothing to do with personal care or being clean.... and has everything to do with the pre pubecent look, i think its an other indication of how sick our society has become, women, are loosing there individuality, there brainwashed into looking young.....it amazes me how things have changed, in the past 20 years,maybe i am finally showing my age lol
 bittersweetkiss
Joined: 12/10/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 10:58:48 AM
I don't shave for no one but myself. I don't do it to look young or anything else. I do it because it makes me feel CLEAN. That is my personal feelings of it, has nothing to do with porn or anything else. My pubic hair, lack there of, doesn't make any less of a person. I am still an individual. So why do you shave your face? You shouldn't shave your face, it makes you look too young. Damn society for making us shave unwanted hair *rolls her eyes*
 sylvir8605
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Posted: 12/23/2009 11:15:52 AM
I have to agree with the first poster who stated their Gyno said it helps keep things clean and aired out .... for some it may, for some it may not, it all depends on body chemistry ... I shave because it makes me feel clean ... whether or not it actually helps, I don't know, I don't care to know .... it makes me feel clean, therefore in my mind, I am clean...

For those that have been told not to shave because its healthier, those facts were proven before thongs, boycut undies, blue jeans, stretch denim, and the various other non-breathable fabrics we cover our crotches with .... common sense folks .... use your better judgement ...

OPie, if she doesn't want to shave, no matter what her reason, it won't happen ...
 indefatigabilis
Joined: 11/10/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 12/23/2009 11:21:48 AM
She's basing that assertion on something, and you should find out what. There is probably a whole universe of assumptions and prejudices she has for you to discover, that remaining ignorant of would cause you problems with her trying to relate well sexually. Get to know her mind better. Just who the hell is this woman, anyway? You're in the dark.

Shaving can be a way to make the snootchie resemble a younger version, but usually is not about that at all. Women shave mostly because they rightly fear getting gum stuck in those hairs, when the man has become too excited to remember to spit it out before he starts in. She should be able to understand that reason well enough, I hope.
 RobertT86
Joined: 11/15/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 12/23/2009 11:33:26 AM
If she had the appearance of a young girl and voice of one. Then, I could see the argument, but as she'd have to be a proportional "little person" I doubt that's the case.

I trim myself above and shave below. I figure if I don't want to choke on a hair or two, I'd give her the same courtesy.
She has to trim it a bit.

You could not maintain your area and ask her for oral. Then, make sure a hair gets in her way, as she reacts ask her if she wants you to trim/shave. If yes, bring up her pedophile thoughts.
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