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 smartypants24
Joined: 8/3/2009
Msg: 3
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Agreed with the minimizing profile pics...if she does one face shot, and one body shot (if she wants one that is), say looking back over her shoulder at the camera, her boobs won't be in the pic, and people won't message her about them.
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 5
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Posted: 1/3/2010 7:17:29 PM
No...there's no way to deflect. BUT...as a woman with huge assets, it's one of those things that you learn to deal with.

I can assure you she doesn't HAVE to have a full body pic.

Plus...she needs to develop a thicker skin. There's this leeeeeeeeetle link called block on an email...tell her to use it...often.

Some guys are asses...they just are. But your friend doesn't have to give them ammunition.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/3/2010 8:59:04 PM
I am in agreement with the others.

A really nice face shot should suffice. I would not mention the size of her breasts, as it is no one else's business but her own.
 forumfishie
Joined: 9/17/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 1/3/2010 9:08:44 PM
There is a way to not show your assets, even if they are huge.
Black top, turtle neck.
Face shot only
Joking about them will only bring more unwanted attention to that body part.
 Padawan61
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 1/3/2010 9:21:46 PM
I don't want guys (that I've never met) doing WEIRD things while looking at my picture

Guys don't do *weird* things with a woman's picture, do they?? We admire your perfectly formed cheek bones, silky hair, nice teeth and degree in rocket propulsion ... but certainly not your "Huge .... Assets ....".
 WalksOnWater2
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/3/2010 9:27:05 PM
Does she have in her profile one of these "assault weapon boobage" pictures, with her upper self hanging out of her clothes?
A lot of women do, and then they complain about the "special interest" they incur....

 tjl2280
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 1/3/2010 11:40:52 PM
She can take pictures just like your main profile picture. It cuts off the chest completely. Have her do some cropping on her old pics or take some new ones for her. She can also put in her profile that if you really wan't to impress me start a conversation with me that doesn't involve my boobs. Theres alot more to me then that. Or something along those lines, she will then probably get guys mailing her when they read that just to f with her. I say hide those puppies, face pic.
 VacationGuy234
Joined: 8/1/2008
Msg: 15
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Posted: 1/4/2010 7:13:17 AM
Well, you need to put in a full body shot because in some cases because just a head and shoulder shot might not give the, "true" impression that you are thin, athletic or average.

What you mention in the post is fine, in fact she should check out some other female post as they are much more abrasive. However, I would suggest t he following, "While most guys are only interest in one of my features they are not the men I am looking for, there is a lot more to me than that".

This will at least keep some of the guys in line. Also, I do think she needs to have a thick skin, after all you'll get the same treatment on the street so she needs to understand that you can't completely stop it.
 BOIT
Joined: 11/21/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 1/4/2010 12:28:17 PM
....a face only pic should suffice.....that will keep all the "wise guys" from making comments......and if asked for more pics, then that's your choice....

BOIT
 Harley17701
Joined: 10/24/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 2/1/2010 4:57:12 PM
The problem is here .. just like anywhere .... ok so she has large assets but ... because of the constant reminder about the people that lie about their size and shape ... no matter the fact .... honesty is still the best policy .. when you see a womans face picture with a big of gently putting it ... chubbiness lol ... or that extra thick padded neck and yet claims to be average size ... who is to say she might be right might be , being honest but from a picture like that your going to assume she is a liar right from hello ... because it will appear she has lied .. and saying she is average or just a few extra ... this whole face picture is a bad thing ... too many people actually hiding the truth ..
 Delete_Me_Please
Joined: 11/10/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 2/1/2010 5:03:03 PM
I don't have a full body pic. I won't. Why? I don't want guys (that I've never met) doing WEIRD things while looking at my picture.


With all the porn stars and supermodels out there, I'd be flattered if some guy online wanted to whack it to the image of MY body. I'm more concerned with the stupid sh!t he'd have me saying in his fantasy. Besides, there are plenty of freaky scenarios a guy can conjure up with just a face pic.
 SBM4U2
Joined: 12/22/2009
Msg: 26
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Posted: 2/2/2010 12:47:54 PM
You are who you are regardless. Why try to hide it? Eventually they're going to see them anyway.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 27
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Posted: 2/2/2010 1:05:20 PM
Imposing a minimum character limit on first contacts cuts way down on the skeevy ones. I'd recommend trying that. It's made a huge difference in the quality of my incoming e-mail - a lot fewer blatant come-ons or too-personal remarks, and those that do still arrive at least usually have a little thought put into them, so they're often funny.

Since a lot of guys do want to see a full-body pic, and IMO understandably so, she could try having you or another friend take some where she's directly facing the camera - no side or side-angle silhouette - wearing something very modest, like a turtleneck. They'll still be clearly there, sure, but her face will stand out the most.

She's right that it isn't a good idea to put anything about it on her profile. It might be funny, but it would also just draw even more attention to her breasts! It doesn't so much come off as hostile, as it comes off like an indirect, "Hey, look at my boobs!"
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 2/2/2010 4:00:15 PM

I told her she should put some kind of warning on her profile, in a joking way like "i get it, my boobs are big, you don't need to tell me that". But she thinks that will come off as ****y?

it's not b|tchy, just pointless.

profile admonitions as a whole are useless, if not downright counterproductive. why would you tell someone what not to say? let em say it and show their true colors.

bottom line, none of us can control the behavior of others. if she doesn't like weeding through dead-end emails, she shouldn't be on a dating site. it's work for everyone and there's no way around that.
 oxmale
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 2/2/2010 4:38:42 PM
Never mind all that where's her profile?
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 2/3/2010 8:12:48 AM
I don't have a full body pic. I won't. Why? I don't want guys (that I've never met) doing WEIRD things while looking at my picture. Sometimes they whine, complain or ask for a full body photo. So what. TOO bad. The answer is NO.


These statements always confuse me.


You are aware that pics of naked women are but a google search away, right? I can picture people getting off to body shots of women fully clothed from a dating site. I wouldn't meet anyone ever again, without a recent full boy shot.

I like to know if I'm attracted to the person physically. Not to rub one out.


:facepalm:


As for the OP, there are lots of women with large assets here. Some rock clevage like there's no tomorrow, others cover up, and dress modestly. The two types probably get different types of attention.

 MetalVixxn
Joined: 4/4/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 2/4/2010 8:20:30 AM
She needs to think of it as an easy way to filter out the creeps. It's easier to delete an email then spend time getting to know someone only to find out they're not serious about dating or that they're a perv.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 2/4/2010 10:46:08 AM
From the files of I Wish I'd Thought of That:

She needs to think of it as an easy way to filter out the creeps. It's easier to delete an email then spend time getting to know someone only to find out they're not serious about dating or that they're a perv.

Excellent point!
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 33
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Posted: 2/4/2010 11:13:30 AM
From the looks of it, MetalVixxn is working with some 'huge' assets, as well.
Makes me wonder how often guys leave messages, commenting on her "tatas".
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 2/10/2010 11:56:39 PM
She can say anything she wants in the description..... the guys that are going to email her soley on the size of her chest in her pics, didnt read what she typed there anyways.

Besides, not all men are into boobs. I thought you meant ASSets as in lower, and those I prefer Pfeifer, not Kardashian ;)
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 2/12/2010 6:02:17 AM
Personally huge boobs are a serious detractor for me and I know a lot of my friends feel the same way...especially if they're fake.

It's like everything else some will like them some will not, some will be mature about it and some will not.
 bikeman1467
Joined: 9/22/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/12/2010 2:09:13 PM

I told her she should put some kind of warning on her profile, in a joking way like "i get it, my boobs are big, you don't need to tell me that".
I can't recommend anyone putting negative statements into their profile. More often than not it attracts the nutjobs that the message is intending to deflect.

Best thing she can do is if she's continually attracting boobie guys is for her to not to post any profile pics that draw attention to her girls.
 thegirl123
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 2/15/2010 7:46:30 PM
If she is showing any cleavage pics then its going to be commented on. I have had a large chest myself, and if i wore cleavage pics it is commented on. If i meet someone for a date and we talk and im not wearing cleavage shirts its not commented on.

The best thing she can do is write a disclaimer like if you mention my breasts you are going to be ignored....simple.
 HoldingHands27
Joined: 12/16/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 2/15/2010 11:06:27 PM
She's obviously looking for a "Gentleman" that would care more about her personality than her 'grap-u-larity'...
Have her crop her pics to ~Head-and-neck~ shots
Also...she should redirect attention to her Eyes...
A bit of makeup and shadow can do _Wonders_ with that..!!
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 2/16/2010 12:14:22 AM
SpecialTreasure80, I also have found that it's surprised people a little that I'm busty at all, once they know me well enough to feel comfortable saying so. And I do have a silhouette photo! But evidently they are "more so" in person.

I think you and I are suggesting more or less the same idea. Just, tone down the photos, especially the clothing worn in them, to the extent possible. It definitely makes a difference in how one gets treated.
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