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Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 2
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My dear friend, I can understand your bewildered state of the “not knowing what to do” state of mind. But now, if I was to ask you, “what is it that is causing to be so unsure?” what would you tell me? Of course you should run through all your responses and then ask yourself “Is that a r-e-a-l-i-s-t-i-c possibility or, is it not?”.

Once you’ve run through all of them, then simply feel what feels right for you to do and, do THAT!
Joined: 10/18/2007
Msg: 10
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Is it just wishful thinking .
Posted: 1/9/2010 6:01:15 AM

I need help with this one. I have this friend,

Yup, she's a friend.

And i hav'nt tryed anything because she always has guys trying stuff friends and people she just met , im the only guy who has'nt.

Well are you interested in her? An obvious question, but given that you didn't really mention anything in either of your posts really indicating how you feel, it's one that you need to ask yourself. Doesn't sound to me like you really are. You've listed off all sorts of thing you do, but those don't really indicate a level of interest from your end beyond friendship.

Once you asked yourself that question, and if the answer is a "yes" - make a move. Maybe she doesn't know your interested and thinks she's been friend-zoned.

Overall though I'd say your chances are slim of moving beyond friends, it's been too long since your relationship started for the roles to change.
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 16
Is it just wishful thinking .
Posted: 10/6/2010 9:02:12 PM
if you have had ZERO physical contact with this girl....

then you are IMO clearly 100% in the friends zone in her mind.
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 19
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Is it just wishful thinking .
Posted: 10/7/2010 9:55:27 PM
His profile says Not single/Not looking, so maybe it worked out.
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