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 ICMUD
Joined: 11/2/2009
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14 guys? IS THAT ALL???

dude how many times have u beaten off with your hand? more than 14 times?
all then time i bet u wished u had a girl rather than use your hand..
most kids these days have had sex by 10 years old, so if shes 28 and had 14 guys,
all my advice is gonna be is, go see a doctor and have tests done and if shes clean and you are to, then bonk like rabbits (with protection) and stop ****in and get more busy!
 nipoleon
Joined: 12/27/2005
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Posted: 1/21/2010 3:11:28 AM
Your 28 and still asking these questions ?

Mans lesson #1: Never be surprised at the sexual proclivity of any woman. No matter what you see, think, or hear every woman has had more sex partners than it seems she should have.
Every man has had fewer than he would like you to believe.

So, get over the body count.


Also she didn't jump into bed the first night we met - she did with
others therefore she must not have liked me as much as the others on
our first night which doesn't bode well for our future?[

Only if it means that much to you.
As David Letterman says, " Remember, this is an exhibition, not a competition. "
 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 1/21/2010 3:18:46 AM

'Rabian Angel, you've been around, also here on this forum. How does this guy's question compare to the pillow-talk question in the other thread? You know, the 'what are you thinking about?'


I haven't seen the other thread.

If you can handle the truth than by all means ask what you please, but be prepared to accept it for what it is. The OP obviously has some issues, if he can't get over her reply. I don't think he can handle the truth to be honest.

Hugo, out of curiosity how many sexual partners have you had prior to meeting this girl?
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 1/21/2010 3:21:22 AM
HUGO you are very stupid, and lack maturity ,my advice is for you to stop trying to have sex , become a monk or a catholic priest, she sounds like a very nice girl, who has not had a lot of men, you sound like the type of man that can really hurt a nice woman and make her bitter towards men in general..... just go away you self serving egomaniac, you should just evaporate lol
 Tammy the cat
Joined: 10/17/2008
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Posted: 1/21/2010 3:30:25 AM
OP/do not be a HIPPOCRITE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You have a past an so does she.You asked for honesty ,she was honest,so live with it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HAS SHE BEEN FAITHFUL TO YOU<WHILST YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER?????????????Go,the pair of you an both get tested for stds,put any doubts to bed.If she is more knowledgeable,put it to good use,explore an learn from one another.Should help to embrase a better closeness of you both,you learn how to better fulfil each other.You need to grow up,there are very few virgins these days.Your past is your past,here,is hers.Where you always a good person growing up as a teenager an young adult(i dont just mean sexually,overall).What counts a lot is how has she been whilst being with you overall in a relationship.Maybe she just didnt view you as a one nightr stand an didnt want to cheapen your relationship by just jumping into bed with you the first night.Maybe she finally grew up an started to view things in a more mature fashion.She wanted your relationship to be good an respectable.OBviously she must really care an trust you to take the chance of dropping that bomb shell.At least you heard it from her lips(worts an all)than hearing tales down the track via old aquaintances or partners.At least you know she can be honest.Give yourself time to digest an come to terms with her past.If,over time you cant,then reconsider your options.Give her a chance for being honest.The pill is not always failproof,at least she is responsible for unwanted pregnacies,so keep up the condoms.Get yourselves checked out though.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 1/21/2010 4:09:50 AM

10 in total altogether

Please leave this woman alone so she can find another grown-up.

What's important is that she is with you but you are evidently uber insecure so sure, glom onto this as something you can't let go. Start buying cats.
 Super_Eve
Joined: 10/23/2008
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Posted: 1/21/2010 4:17:15 AM
Can someone please explain to me, why these threads are always started by single guys who are looking for dating, but are involved in a longterm relationship? Thanks.
 TygerEsquire
Joined: 12/15/2009
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Posted: 1/21/2010 4:22:17 AM
A good bit of advice in and out of court is not to ask the respondent a question you don't already know the answer to.

Think about Jack Nicholson in A Few Good Men, " You want answers? You can't handle the truth! Son, we live in a world that has walls. And those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Who's gonna do it? You?"

It's a new day. Sex is as easy to get as General Tso's Chicken at a chinese buffet. Many women have quite empowered themselves to believe sexual promiscuity is ok because men do it too (as you see above). That line of logic is similar and intelligent to it being ok to jump off a cliff because others are doing it. It's never a big deal until one wakes up with lesions, warts or something much more unpleasant, like 18-21 years of child support:) All guys want a proper slut, but a personal one, not one that services the general public at large, but that's a rarity many times. One has to work with the hand they're dealt.

I too was rather surprised at what a decently mentally manageable 14 sexcapades of your GF is by the age of 26. For a large amount of women that could be a regular 2 month period. It makes it easier to mentally swallow if you average out that number by how many years she's been sexually active, she really doesn't seem like a hardcore slutfest now right?

By her not saying you were the best with big dreamy googley eyes, or even attempting to lie to you and say you were the best in bed means you need a lot of work in the sword play department. You can fix it though. Focus more on how to improve in bed, rock her back wall out, romance her mind then her body and she might one day slip and fall due to how wet you make her. Focus less on if you're tasting someone else's man meat every time you kiss her.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 1/21/2010 5:24:04 AM
Hugo, why do you ask question that you do not want honest answers to? If you cannot handle the truth, if you cannot handle that some other man was there first or that you may not be the best, most experienced lover in the world, then stop asking your GFs about their past sexual history. It has no bearing on you!
If she is your first lover, then I will be honest. You are not very good. Practice makes perfect.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 1/21/2010 5:27:04 AM
It does seem odd that Hugo claims to be with his girlfriend for 2 years YET he has a dating profile 9 months old, claiming to be single.

And providing his email address, to boot.

Classy.

Hugo, much as you'd LIKE to think you were the one who peeled the plastic wrap off your girlfriend's genitals because they were brand new, the sad news is that she had a LIFE before she met you. I'm sure you had a life too before meeting her.

If she can't tell you you're the 'best' in bed, then I'd suggest you step up your performance until she CAN say it.

So what are you hoping to find on POF with your profile - a 28-year old virgin that can't compare you to anyone? Will that assauge your ego? Good luck with that.
 DiannaBall
Joined: 1/6/2010
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Posted: 1/21/2010 5:29:55 AM
You seem more worried about how you are in bed compared to the other men. She probably has had better, or you would not be this "twisted" about it. What was done before you, is what it is; before you. Get over it or move on. Who wants to listen to a whiner nag about a past? If you do not want to know then do not ask. You do not know if you or her have STD's or not. Those are like checks; good today bad tomorrow. She is probably asking you to wear one for a reason and she is smart too. Good for her.
 anunu
Joined: 10/21/2009
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Posted: 1/21/2010 5:42:04 AM
Wow! You really think that 8 is too many? she is 28 years old.
How many did you have? You did not disclose your number?

If you are smart you would not bring up questions like this with your gf. Sometimes don't ask don't tell is a better remedy. You obviously did not want to know the real answers.
1)Don't have frank discussions about her past lovers
2)Don't ask how you compare in bed to her other lovers


On a separate question, she is on the pill: is it safe to have sex with her without a condom?.She always insists on a condom even though she has been on the pill for 2 years with me : We don't or never had any std's or anything.


You sound like 18 instead of 28. As far as STD's go, are you assuming you have none or have both of you been properly tested?
If the concern is around pregnancy the pill is 95% effective against pregnancy if taken properly.
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
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Posted: 1/21/2010 6:47:10 AM
She has definitely been with ONE too many!!!
 ticklish1978
Joined: 11/26/2009
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Posted: 1/21/2010 6:51:01 AM
Quote from profile :

"And by the way, email me if you want a pic!- just don't want to load it here for all the world, and my friends to see!!!"

Or his girlfriend ?

Jeez, some people, eh ?

I don't particularly care how many guys a girl has been with, to be honest, I'm not exactly innocent, but at least when I'm in a relationship with someone I don't go looking for someone else. Yes, I am really single.
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
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Posted: 1/21/2010 6:59:54 AM
Naughty boy ... Posting same thread in "Over 30!"


also, posting about her 5 "one night stands." If I didn't know better, I would be under the impression this flurry of activity is designed to compensate for some form of inadequacy!! Hahahaha!
 cookie22222
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Posted: 1/21/2010 7:06:48 AM
You are both 28...and you thought you were her first? Was she YOUR first? Ye gods...

What difference does it make if she's faithful to you?

When I get asked that question my answer is "2". When I get the raised disbelieving eyebrow, I say, ok, "102". When I get the shrieked "WHAT????"...I say, ok, it's somewhere in between, what difference does it make?
 iherdcats
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Posted: 1/21/2010 8:14:23 AM
really, what does it matter? a relionship is not a numbers game.

the questions you ask speak to your insecurities.
you have a past and she has a past, big surprise.

this might be a perfect time for you to understand your own issues.

remember, only ask questions that you are willing to accept answers to.
it appears that you are neither mature enough for the numbers conversation nor are you displaying any respect towards your girlfriend.
seek some professional support, you are out of line.
 TheReason_
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Posted: 1/21/2010 8:34:58 AM
8 people isn't bad. If you think, the average person loses their virginity at , oh hell,
let's say 15 (I'm sure someone will throw down a statistic) and assume they have even just on partner per year, anyone could easily be at 13 by then. Conservatively.

Don't worry about it.
 packagedealx3
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Posted: 1/21/2010 9:08:16 AM

Hugo, much as you'd LIKE to think you were the one who peeled the plastic wrap off your girlfriend's genitals because they were brand new, the sad news is that she had a LIFE before she met you. I'm sure you had a life too before meeting her.

If she can't tell you you're the 'best' in bed, then I'd suggest you step up your performance until she CAN say it.

So what are you hoping to find on POF with your profile - a 28-year old virgin that can't compare you to anyone? Will that assauge your ego? Good luck with that.

What she said.
 packagedealx3
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Posted: 1/21/2010 9:10:40 AM

Also she didn't jump into bed the first night we met - she did with others therefore she must not have liked me as much as the others on our first night which doesn't bode well for our future?

Grow a brain, she slept with the others on the first date because she didn't care if she had a relationship.

And dude, you need to stfu period with this profile when you have supposedly been with her for two years.
 Friendly widow
Joined: 11/24/2009
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Posted: 1/21/2010 9:31:17 AM
As others have said-you have a girlfriend of 2 years duration about whose past you have some difficulty. However you have your profile as single-get real here please!You sound like a teenager who wants it all. This girl would be better off without you IMO!
 mr.evil
Joined: 11/14/2009
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Posted: 1/21/2010 9:45:48 AM
Damn!! I love this thread!! You always learn so much, in the forums. One of the bitter single guys told me, to multiply by 2.2 the number of times or guys she's been with. WOW, that will help me sooooo much with future relationships! LOL LOL LOL My fav though was:

"I've been around to block a few times but it's different for girls-right?"

Oh yeah, different uh huh, yes go down to "near virgins are us" the next time you want to get a girlfriend, ask about their low mileage numbers. Only bedded monthly by 1 guy. LOL LOL


WTH is it with you guys? Do you really believe that your the only people to get sex, that only a small portion of the female population has sex, and the rest, just sit at home with a chastity belt waiting for your azz to come a callin, after you've sown your wild oats?

Also what about that wonderful question "So hey, how did I rate against the others?" LOL LOL LOL Hugo, don't ask something, your not ready to hear the answer to. If your the man a woman is in love with, in most cases, the sex will be great for her, as a bonding experience. BUT you are far from the best, I can assure you without knowing you.

Hugo, sex is sex, your not a porn star, when they scream, more than half are faking it. Same with orgasms. Sorry to burst your bubble.

Look, either you accept her past, especially if she's good woman, a giver, is aware of your needs, is a good partner, both in and out of the bedroom. What more could you ask for? But if your gonna get hung up on her past. Move on to .... gee I don't know what you could move onto... there are few actual virgins, and why would you want one? Maybe the priesthood as someone else said.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 1/21/2010 10:01:12 AM
If she became sexually active at 18, that's less than one per year... You're being extremely judgemental and cheauvenistic... Since you seem like such a wanker, I'll tell you a little secret... If you had been anywhere close to the best, she would have been happy and eager to tell you that.
 Angel_Advntg
Joined: 1/16/2010
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Posted: 1/21/2010 10:12:41 AM
OMG - took me a while to get through this one - sorry but I disagree wholeheartedly with most of the replies (although I have been married 24yrs and newly on dating scene) - I'm amazed at stating having so many partners is the norm - and people wonder why there's so much disease out there -

Move on laddie - there are good girls out there - and don't compare yourself to anyone but who you want to be - if you go against your inner being you will be forever unhappy.

Only being with one man, I can't understand how it's acceptable to be so free with sex because every time you give your body to someone else you are giving as piece of your heart - and if you keep on giving pieces of your heart away there's not going to be anything left for the person you are meant to be with.

Good luck.
 want to travel
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Posted: 1/21/2010 10:22:47 AM
angel, i do not do the 'casual sex thing' either, but i do not impose my own personal morality on anyone,i am not religious, but do believe in not being anybodies judge and jury
if you average out how many men this woman has had , its about one a year, or maybe a week in vagas lol, by anybodies standard she can not be considered promiscuous
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