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 Strider886
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It's valid question, I might even stretch to a good one...

There are a number of women tend to analyse their partners by listening to mindless stereotypical drivel spouted by their friends, who in turn get their opinions from the "man hater" weekly magazines, with articles like "how to treat your man like a dog" (i read the article).
I wonder if we'd have less single parent families if those magazines didn't exist?? hmmm

I'd certainly like to see if it was better to date someone who actually had a better understanding of why people do what they do, or say what they say. Someone who could perhaps think a bit more for themselves rather than follow the majority opinion.

The only down side is those who learn a little and think they know everything, that might not be so good, especially as its such a complex subject.
 Jo van
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Would you date a ‘psychologist’ and/or someone working within a similar profession?
Posted: 2/16/2010 4:16:22 AM

Would you date someone working within that sector and/or more importantly do you think someone working within that sector is any more and/or less equipped to handle a relationship than a person not working within that field? And finally, would you be put off (in general) by someone who has ‘psychology’ within their list of personal interests? Some sensible responses (yeah right) would be appreciated!

I have "dated"/met a lady who was, so clearly it didn't put me off.
I think the one thing you do know, is that they will be reasonably intelligent, and the conversation was extremely interesting, and she is a lovely lady. Sadly it didn't work out, but that wasn't because she's a psychologist/psychotherapist.
I would expect someone in this field to be better "equipped" from a knowledge POV, but people are people, and it doesn't give them any more immunity to "issues", than being a doctor, gives you immunity to illness. Though the knowledge of both, may help them avoid the common causes, although lots of doctors smoke, and drink, - "giving" involves lots of stress.
Many people in this field are prompted to enter it because they themselves have received such help, when they needed it, and they wish to help others in the same way.
Because the profession can often rely on the "relationship" between the therapist and the "subject", it is very difficult for them to stay "detached", consequently, you will find a higher proportion of them see therapists themselves, than in the wider population.
I think they are generally 'admirable' people...
 badge73
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Would you date a ‘psychologist’ and/or someone working within a similar profession?
Posted: 2/16/2010 4:44:56 AM

Would you date someone working within that sector and/or more importantly do you think someone working within that sector is any more and/or less equipped to handle a relationship than a person not working within that field?


it would depend on how much they brought their work home, consider saturday night on the sofa, i switch on the tv and watch a programme, and she asks why that programme? is it important?

or she hands me a plate of chips and watches wether i have red/brown sauce or mayo on them?

and mind boggles on what they would do in the bedroom can imagine them on psychologist weekly saying ive worked out the badges mind!!!!
 electric-gypsy
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Posted: 2/16/2010 7:23:31 AM
I'd happily date a psychologist or anyone working in the mental health field. Such skills would certainly come in handy for anyone dating me! I wouldn't date anyone in the legal profession, though. Lawyers/barristers/judges are all pompous, greedy, soulless, out-of-touch scheisters, imo.
 icarusi
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Posted: 2/16/2010 4:18:05 PM
I'd be wary of knowingly dating any therapist of any type, that's not to say if I got to know them first it wouldn't be ok, just that some occupations I suspect would be more intrusive in a relationship than others, especially if you have reservations about the validity of the occupation or its drain on the available time.
 Chuzz16
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Posted: 8/18/2013 7:40:25 AM
^^^

I could have told you that Alice and I'm not a psychologist

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Yes I do Alice, but in a lovely way.
 GeordieColin
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Posted: 8/29/2013 12:30:52 PM
As long as they where not mentalists. It seems to me a lot of people are drawn towards professions that they hope will somehow mask their own inadequacies/failings/issues,or that covers their own experiences that they are still having trouble dealing with.
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Posted: 8/29/2013 1:14:26 PM
I am in a mood where I would consider going out with anyone with a pulse! That aside, my pal Steve went out with a psychiatrist, who was a most delightful and caring woman. However, she did used to have these humungus rows with her mother shouting and screaming at/with her on the telephone right in front of him, and one occasion me.

When steve went out to her works do's he came back with a similar opinion that they were all bonkers and perhaps that was a requirement of the post.
 Chuzz16
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Posted: 8/30/2013 9:09:41 AM
I don't really care too much about what profession someone has. I'm more interested in what kind of person they are.

I wouldn't know if they are more equipped to handle a relationship or not. I would be more impressed if they could just handle me.
 Lorri55
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Posted: 9/3/2013 4:00:51 PM
My work requires me to study behaviours, so a lot of psychology is involved

It can come in useful in my private life (including on here) but I would never like to think that I made my friends and family feel uncomfortable
 Keeley345
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Posted: 3/23/2014 3:12:56 PM
I'm a Psychologist. Really! I find my career choice a relationship killer though. By that I mean when I first meet someone, I worry about how they'll react when they find out what I do for a living. So I hold back telling them for a while. Good or bad? I'm not sure. I've had guys say things like ''You're not going to psycho analyse me I hope?'' Truthfully, it's hard not to do so as being a Psychologist is part of who I am now.

Sometimes people I meet for the first time feel the need to tell me ALL about themselves once I've mentioned my profession. Others make a run for it...lol It's like they fear I'm going to tell them something disturbing about themselves. We, Psychologists, are not perfect and definately don't know everything about relationships. If we did we'd be able to advise everyone on this planet and heartbreak would never happen again.

We're human too and our jobs can be emotionally breaking. We deal with people with so many different problems that at the end of the day you do take a closer look at yourself and see your own faults. First dates can be uncomfortable i've found since becoming a psychologist. My dates either talk endlessly as if to say ''I'm going to tell you all about myself so you don't analyse me instead'' Some dates pick what they say carefully. I feel like telling them ''It's a date not a psychological evaluation, chill out!'' I can read facial expressions and body language and this can be obvious to a date. So I try hard not to.

But being a shrink is a very fulfilling job and I'm hoping to find a wonderful man to share my successes with me, regardless of my career.
 Keeley345
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Posted: 3/23/2014 3:34:18 PM
Lightstar1, I do lie about my profession sometimes then, I feel guilty because i've worked SO hard to get to where I am. As psychologists we specialise in different fields. So when someone finds out I treat patients who have mild to severe mental disorders, they think I'M crazy...lol Then there's the questions like ''What's a mental asylum like?'' or ''Has a patient ever tried to kill you?''

You can either laugh it off or lie about your profession. I'm returning to the dating world after focusing on my career so this is new to me too. How dates react to my profession and all that, is so different now.
 GeordieColin
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Posted: 3/25/2014 7:40:40 PM
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It is impossible to read faces and body language accurately. You can tie yourself in knots while in the mean time prevent yourself from simply enjoying your company by trying too perfect your theories.
I would worry about being given guidance from you given the contents of your posts.
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 7/2/2014 3:07:23 AM
Of course. I know quite a few people in that area. If you didn't know what they did they would just blend into the background like the rest of us. But I do find psychology interesting and so I do enjoy their company when they are prepared to enlighten me.
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Posted: 7/11/2014 3:25:31 PM
Msg 51 - thanks for the dig about my answers -

I tell it the way I see it - and that never varies
never has, never will.

I don't trust the Establishment, or it's agents....
If you want sugar 'n' spice and fairy dust, that's
not me.

If that makes you or anyone else
less than comfortable, please turn out the lights
as you leave.

Peace

I have no idea if a post was removed from msg 51 but I see nothing in what you posted that I replied too.
It makes no sense to me
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 7/12/2014 2:38:23 AM
in msg 54 you wrote



Msg 51
It is impossible to read faces and body language accurately. You can tie yourself in knots while in the mean time prevent yourself from simply enjoying your company by trying too perfect your theories.
I would worry about being given guidance from you given the contents of your posts.
 GeordieColin
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Posted: 8/9/2014 3:43:32 PM
Msg 60.



in msg 54 you wrote

The fact that all you have done is quote a post that is still there suggests that you have a problem with the basics of how this forum works.
If a post or posts are removed then it can result in another poster addressing a post number that has been removed and replaced by another post.
Repeating what I said when it is still there for all to see is ridiculous and serves no purpose except to you.
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Posted: 8/10/2014 3:59:51 AM
I think it is you who does not understand how the forum works. Whoever built this forum obviously foresaw this problem. The posts are not renumbered if one is removed there is just a gap left. See "what puts you off messaging" around about msg 400 onwards or simply look at the numbering of the last few posts.

So we are left with you admitting that you can't understand what you wrote.
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Posted: 8/20/2014 1:00:47 PM
I think applied psychology is very different to a degree. I've known a few people who work as psychologists and on the plus side interesting.Minus controling. Depending on the individual.
Two friends, both voluntary counsellors. One lovely if you talk about problems the other talks in counselese. So its down to the person and what suits you.
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Posted: 8/26/2014 3:07:51 PM
I think it is you who does not understand how the forum works. Whoever built this forum obviously foresaw this problem. The posts are not renumbered if one is removed there is just a gap left. See "what puts you off messaging" around about msg 400 onwards or simply look at the numbering of the last few posts.

So we are left with you admitting that you can't understand what you wrote.

You are very wrong.
It is dependent on the mod and how they deal with violations.If a post has been removed only. If a poster has been banned and their post history has entirely been removed.
Sometimes a post can be removed and when a poster has not quoted who they are directing their response too it is easy to leave them looking as if they are responding to a different post.
I have been posting in here for many years and I know that this has happened a number of times.
Have you really never followed a thread that has had a lot of drama that needed a lot of removal of posts and banning of posters and then witnessed that the posts are still numbered in order?
Maybe it finished when they gave a damn about a forum that is dead ?
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Posted: 8/31/2014 7:28:06 AM
Just to bring the topic back on track(!), last year I dated someone who worked in a women's refuge. Since she was a Christian, I thought I might have been with someone who considered both sides of any situation but sure enough, her job coloured her judgement of people. I've recently dated a forensic nurse working in a semi secure unit and she confessed to analysing everyone she met too. I'm training to be a counsellor myself and so consider things before I ask them. Everyone is different; psychology is meant to be about exploring different psyches but inevitably a lot of people in those areas pigeon hole and label others very quickly.
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Posted: 9/8/2014 1:16:16 AM
Good luck with training Tigger but counselling and psychology are not about judging people, but listening, understanding and helping people to see themselves as they really are.
 GeordieColin
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Posted: 9/16/2014 4:32:06 PM
Just to bring the topic back on track(!), last year I dated someone who worked in a women's refuge. Since she was a Christian, I thought I might have been with someone who considered both sides of any situation but sure enough, her job coloured her judgement of people. I've recently dated a forensic nurse working in a semi secure unit and she confessed to analysing everyone she met too. I'm training to be a counsellor myself and so consider things before I ask them. Everyone is different; psychology is meant to be about exploring different psyches but inevitably a lot of people in those areas pigeon hole and label others very quickly.



I am not sure that a Christian would be the best person to give a considered opinion of other peoples view of life. You say you consider things before you ask them but made an assessment toward the christian before you met her?
Can you see a basic problem here?
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