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 eroot
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 2
What makes sex good for a man?Page 1 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
of course it is entirely subjective. one may see some patterns in personal preference, but ultimately it is down to the individuals involved.

the sex can be technically outstanding, for me, but if there isn't a spark between myself and my partner, it's essentially masturbation with a living prop.

casual sex will do in a pinch, i suppose, but i feel i am just applying my biological sex drive to an object. when you really know someone and are into them, you can relax and be as sweet or as dirty as you want.

but, alas, just my preference.

8)
 Juste moi Danielle
Joined: 7/8/2009
Msg: 3
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 7:57:37 AM
Not a man, let alone all men, but for me, enthusiasm, passion, a genuine sense of compassion and empathy combined with a great sense of humour would make an intimate encounter very enjoyable indeed. And if the actual sex is good on top of all that, we've hit the jackpot!

 *mandrake*
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 4
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 8:02:27 AM
I think it's different for every man. It could be geared to chemistry, or mood, hormones, or just a need to relieve the beast. For myself, it is usually something that starts with a look, and you both know what each other wants...a connection of sorts. It might be just a quicky, or a long, drawn out passionate romp.
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 5
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 8:32:49 AM
There is no doubt it changes from man to man.....woman to woman

I don't see how it could be bad if the involved have an open disposition. Knowing what you like...yourself...and being able to communicate it in a positive way and accept direction without being defensive. Guy and gal.



Teamwork make everything better.
 MysticalM
Joined: 1/19/2009
Msg: 6
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 8:33:56 AM
Breathing works.


Breathing hard works better.



(just joshin')
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 7
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What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 8:50:59 AM
Enthusiasm - a mutual desire to please and communication
 Eastman75
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 8
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 9:15:48 AM
All men are a little different in the bedroom. I would say a sense of inhibition and freedom would be the best way for a woman to act in the bedroom. A man hates nothing more than rules when it comes to making love. You can't be there saying "do that", "don't do that" and treating him like he's your butler or something. Just go with flow and hope he doesn't do things that really freak you out.
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 9
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 10:08:37 AM

I would say a sense of inhibition and freedom would be the best way for a woman to act in the bedroom.


I assume you mean a lack of inhibition?


You can't be there saying "do that", "don't do that" and treating him like he's your butler or something. Just go with flow and hope he doesn't do things that really freak you out.


I strongly disagree with that. I like getting direction in bed--if my partner knows he likes X particular thing, then it's nice if he tells me so I can do it. Likewise, I have a lot of partners who've loved how assertive I can be. I imagine most people probably wouldn't appreciate a constant stream of directions, but being told what works for someone is generally a very good thing.

And if someone does things that really freak me out, damn right I'm going to speak up about it!

OP: For me, it's the chemistry, knowing we're hot for each other, telling and showing each other how sexy we think the other one is. Communication is also important with a new partner, which grows out of a sense of being comfortable with someone. That sense of letting go with someone you find really hot, and know finds you hot, can be really amazing.
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 10
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 10:15:58 AM
Well she just needs to be hot, sexy (beautiful model like wouldn't hurt either) but basically someone who knows she is pretty and is humble about it and confident in herself and loves me no matter what I'm like.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 11
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 10:34:03 AM

Breathing hard works better.


LMAO!! Like, Darth Vader?!!! Lol. Shheeesh, DV in drag, and blonde to boot.

OP, I'd have to say, after a pinch of thought, it's gotta be pelvic thrusts. Yep, whether he's in you, on you, licking you, and even when he's not touching you at all, and you're just doin' the air. Lol
Now, I gotta own up that a little side to side, mixed in with the basic thrust dance step, lights me up. Use his dyck like a swizzle stick.

More seriously, Micki's about right- enthusiasm, desire to please, and ever open to every way to connect, all at once, or seriatim. imho
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 12
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 11:55:39 AM

Well she just needs to be hot, sexy (beautiful model like wouldn't hurt either) but basically someone who knows she is pretty and is humble about it and confident in herself and loves me no matter what I'm like.


Oh....I'm sorry...I must have misunderstood the question.

Can I change my answer?

OK.....uh....she needs to have a vagina....and a pulse.

Yup....vagina and pulse...........final answer
 nakeddon
Joined: 7/26/2008
Msg: 13
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 12:14:37 PM
i find it enjoyable when a potential girlfriend is willing to share my big toy with her friend/roommate!!! now that's a party!!!
 Juste moi Danielle
Joined: 7/8/2009
Msg: 17
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 1:00:49 PM
OK - you are getting a BIG secret into the psyche of men right now ... ready? Men love it when you adore their penis. And not in the stupid porno "oh baby you're so big!" sense, but more from the unspoken "I'm hungry for that and I'm hungry for you" message that sharp women can send to their men. When a man is turned on (and this is of course amplified greatly when he has deep feelings for you) all his sexual and spiritual energy is going to is loins. And I really mean this in more the metaphysical sense as opposed to the sexual sense. When he presents his erection to you, he is basically saying to you "here is me, I'm giving all of myself to you at this moment". And when you take his penis in your hands and cradle it like gold, or into your mouth like a piece of your favorite desert and into your body like it's the first time you've ever felt that pleasure in your life, and you convey your deep internal joy and satisfaction non verbally, with a free and open and enthusiastic attitude - THAT is what makes sex great for a man.




PS: That was very (VERY) nice....now please do me a favour...change a few words around and go post that in the "oral sex disgusts me" thread....hahaha...because that is EXACTLY how I and many women feel also...you know? Men and women at their core are not so very different after all. Anyway..that was beautifully expressed and I thank you for sharing:).


 allthatglittersisnotgold
Joined: 1/3/2009
Msg: 19
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 1:41:13 PM
Most men like a woman to show her feelings of lust for them. They enjoy when a woman takes initiative and starts the foreplay first, for a change. Most younger women are afraid to show their sexual feelings and are afraid of ridicule. Men love a sexually inhibited woman. Don't just lay there and let him do all the work.Move your hips and use your inner muscles in your vagina, for him to feel tight against his penis inside of you. Go with the flow and have fun pleasing HIM and yourself at the same time. Use your fingers on yourself while you are pleasing him.You will reap the rewards as he will lavish you with lots of tantilizing foreplay. Show him you appreciate him and Tell him how turned on he makes you. If his penis feels awsome inside your vagina...tell him how it feels. Don't be afraid to moan if it feels so darned good.This is what we women want...lots of foreplay.He will be so excited you wanted to make him feel pleasured. He will desire you even more and he will make sure he pleases you. Trat him like a king.
 Zebra Circle
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 21
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 2:40:24 PM

What makes sex good for a man?

No need to over-analyze this. It comes down to two simple things:

1) Knowing the woman is horny (which means she wants sex).

2) Knowing the woman is experimental (which means she is open-minded).

There's not too many things worse in the bedroom when you sense that the woman is just not into it and might ony be having sex because she thinks you want it.

In that same arena is having sex with a woman who you know is only going to be doing A and B and that's it -- particularly when you want to try C and D and a little of W and a sprinkle of X.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 5:42:52 PM
Your question is too general to answer easily, EXCEPT in the general fashion you suggest (different for each).
In my case, I choose to answer that sex is best FOR ME, when it's repeated again and again, with the same person, doing different things together, and thus expanding the sense of our being together in various ways, over an extended period of time. Even when I was much younger, I didn't have any special fun by sleeping with a woman only ONCE, in a conquest-like situation. I know there are plenty of guys who DO or DID have that sort of enjoyment, and I'm not criticizing that, either against them or against you for your flings.
In the individual sexual interaction, I most enjoy it when it takes a good long time, either all at once, or in short bursts over a long period. As I said, I am a long-view person, so since there are many ways to make love, many styles, many actions, many fantasies, many roles, therefore I want to experience them all with the woman I'm with. Hence my desire for repeated, long-term relations, which your fling style would not permit.
What I find DISTURBING AND UNPLEASANT, is when the woman is businesslike in her approach. If she appears to be thinking on some level that I am only "guy x" and not an individual. If she is entirely focused on her own pleasure, and doesn't seem to care either what I'm enjoying about her, or about what I am enjoying in return from her. A woman can be that way, even if she DOESN'T do the "laying there like a log" routine. Just because you are active, doesn't mean you are INTERACTIVE.
 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 24
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 6:12:05 PM
Wow, what a loaded question! It's nice to see some of my fav boys answering though.
Every lover has their own personal turn ons and experimentation levels.
Personally I am very sensual so it picks up the slack for a while, but I need a constant supply of kink to remain interested for any possible LTR.
Igor is right in one respect. Many women focus on their own pleasure and forget the guy is even there. I am guilty as charged, but I do make up for it afterwards when I get snapped back into reality. Sometimes when it's that good I'll get carried away into la la land... mind you my present lover has only complained once about my temporary lack of mutual communications. V~man I agree with you hands down.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 25
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/27/2010 7:04:39 PM
m_church - thanks for a great laugh!

But honestly - canned beer? Ewwwww. I'm questioning your taste here, dude. If she's really wobbly, can she crawl back with the bottle so it doesn't drop as far?
 guyinacorner
Joined: 8/20/2008
Msg: 27
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/28/2010 9:39:29 AM
its gotta be intense. length cause I dont like quickies. chemistry is a must. the more I like her the more I put into it. variety of positions. lots of eye contact
 Just-the-fun
Joined: 3/21/2010
Msg: 30
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/28/2010 10:07:49 AM
The physical aspect is always present for a man, the touching, what goes on, etc.
However the thing that makes it matter is knowing a woman is enjoying with you.
If you are inhibited it spoils things. You may take your time or get naked right away but hiding your body from his eyes for example. Knowing your body is a MAJOR plus! If you know what works good for you and you are able to communicate it (an open minded guy not on the defensive) and a guy will often oblige to please you when he knows what you like. Also it's about 2 persons. It's also the same for him.
It goes to say mutual respect needs to be in the mix.

Also just one example, if you give him oral and he likes watching you (I love watching it done on me), let him enjoy the show, throw your shyness away and take it as a compliment.
 emmmjay
Joined: 2/18/2010
Msg: 31
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/28/2010 11:49:39 AM

Men love it when you adore their penis. And not in the stupid porno "oh baby you're so big!" sense, but more from the unspoken "I'm hungry for that and I'm hungry for you" message that sharp women can send to their men. When a man is turned on (and this is of course amplified greatly when he has deep feelings for you) all his sexual and spiritual energy is going to is loins. And I really mean this in more the metaphysical sense as opposed to the sexual sense. When he presents his erection to you, he is basically saying to you "here is me, I'm giving all of myself to you at this moment". And when you take his penis in your hands and cradle it like gold, or into your mouth like a piece of your favorite desert, or into your body like it's the first time you've ever felt that pleasure in your life, and you convey your deep internal joy and satisfaction non verbally, with a free and open and enthusiastic attitude - THAT is what makes sex great for a man.


Very well put. Whenever that perfect moment happens for the first time with a man , and I see and feel the evidence of his desire to share himself with me, the event really is more than the sum of its parts. In truth, it can be a vulnerable moment, and that is why NSA sex is good, but sex with true intimacy is fan-****ing-fastic.


Do men care if there is talking? Or dirty talking? One man told me he was disappointed not to hear more of it. The problem is, at the beginning, I'm fine with the talking, but if things are going well, I generally reach a point where I am barely coherent! I know I make noise, but I don't think the noises make any sense, ya know?
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 32
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What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/28/2010 3:20:05 PM
Devotion to pleasing your partner, and allowing your partner to please you.

Sex is the ultimate of giving yourself to another.
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 33
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/28/2010 4:13:40 PM
Technique, Open Mind, Variety, Positive Attitude, Chemistry.

Technique= For God's sake no teeth ( you know what i mean )

Open Mind= If missionary is the only way you know then it's time to get schooled.

Variety= Goes hand in hand with open mind, the kama sutra is there for a reason.

Positive Attitude= No i don't want to hear about your hangups that made you frigid.

Chemistry= Self explanatory
 outtareach
Joined: 3/18/2010
Msg: 34
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/29/2010 4:42:02 PM
Enthusiasm is definitely the best part
 Nerdhead26
Joined: 5/7/2009
Msg: 36
What makes sex good for a man?
Posted: 3/29/2010 9:06:24 PM

Just a quick question....

From a male point of view what makes sexual encounters good, interesting, enjoyable? Is it a link with chemistry etc or just to know what your doing? Or a mix of both?! I've been single with just flings for a while now and I'm starting to wonder...

Or does this change from man to man?


A Good Chemistry match is critical. otherwise I'm not interested.
I'm sure it's different between some men.
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