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 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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You insist he go to the doctor.
He will either find out he has issues that need addressed......
or will be given a clean bill of health and therefore an OK to go ahead with some sex!

I would tell him straight up as much as you love him.......you are not prepared to spend the rest of your life sexless with a man that is capable of having sex.
If he was renedered impotent.......is one thing......but he is not.
My guess is without the medical OK......he's going to have issues with erections because he will be mentally fearful of the outcome.

Put your foot down ....... his health and your relationship are dependent on it.
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 3/28/2010 11:24:18 PM
What MsMicki said.

Going to a doctor can do nothing but help. It will either save his life, or let him know he has nothing to worry about but the smoking; and his absurd belief that YOUR DREAM can affect HIS health; but that's another issue.

"Cheating" in this situation is stupid. If he refuses to go to a doctor, or have sex; he's an idiot, break up with him. You can't cheat on someone you USED to date.
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 3/29/2010 2:15:15 AM
If he wanted, needed to have sex with you...he would!!

He had a scare, but has he given up smoking?? Has he given up working out??... If not, why would he give up sex??

Think about it!!

I suggest you communicate this with him, ask him to get checked out with his doctor, ask him to ask the doctor about sex...
If he doesnt do any of this for you and for him.........................kick him to the curb!!
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 3/29/2010 5:04:34 AM
Cheating is NEVER the answer. If you WANT to cheat.. leave him. Wanting to cheat is an indicator that the relationship isn't healthy and you've already moved on emotionally.

Couples work together with a doctor. Encourage him to go. He's not going because he's scared of what the doctor might find.
 outtareach
Joined: 3/18/2010
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/29/2010 4:43:25 PM
Sounds like you need to check up with a doctor and also a relationship therapist

God Bless.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/30/2010 2:09:29 PM
tell him about a dream where the sex is so hot that the fire department shows up, then the feel guilty that you guys are smoking so they take all their clothes off, but since you are breaking the fire code, they still douce you with cold water.

If he then does not want to have sex, tell him the next dream is you throwing his clothes out the window and telling him to get out and run on the streets naked.
 redheadruby
Joined: 11/24/2009
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Posted: 4/14/2010 2:12:06 PM
Well your loving compassion underwhelms.....and I am confused as everybody else who expressed dismay at your contradictory thinking. Yes there is a concrete issue to be dealt with here and men once they are over 40 can be notoriously bad at self-care. That being said his concerns should be explored and you can have significant impact on the situation by being supportive and persistent in encouraging him to seek an evaluation. You are way ahead of reality asking how couples reintroduce sex after a heartattack because neither of you know if he indeed had any kind of cardiac event. The one way you do not accomplish anything is to step out on him after two months. If your relationship is so brittle that this situation is eroding any intimacy ....and I don't mean only physical intimacy....in just two months.....it's not much of a relationship....and it is certainly not love. Maybe if you dream about being a loving compassionate supportive partner you'll be able to evoke that......Jeesh!
 girlred228
Joined: 6/23/2008
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Posted: 4/16/2010 2:41:30 PM
You are in love with him?.. After two months you are considering cheating?.. WOW.. what about oral sex.. and other things.. he needs to stop that though.. I bet you won'
t tell him about your dreams anymore...LOL
 andy1961
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Posted: 4/19/2010 9:12:08 PM

How can you claim to love him if you're considering cheating on him?


Exactly...and after only two months without sex.

This thread is absolutely ridiculous and highlights the obvious immaturity of this woman.

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