Cargy: Your post made me laugh so much I nearly needed to go & borrow a Tena, or is it a Tenner I need to soak up the damp?
Well, I know some folk who'll do just about anything for a tenner!
OT: As somebody put it on another thread:
...I may well be swapping messages, and emails with a few people, but...if it moves to the phone and then discussing a plan to meet up, with someone, I would feel awkward about accepting a date from someone else.
I can't speak for others, but that works for me. Perfectly.
You get on the bus that's going to the places you want to go, and avoid the ones where it's 'standing room only' if you want to travel there in comfort.