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 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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I don't watch tv, I do love my iPhone though. I rarely use my computer anymore, except to convert movies for my iPhone. Txting/calling/fb/msn whatever. I'm available 24/7. No videogames here. You'll find me out biking 2 hours a day, or hiking here and there. I'm not one to sit on my ass and WoW all day.







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 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/3/2010 12:16:38 PM
Being a girl who loves balance in life, on one hand I do appreciate technology that got us even here to PoF but on the other hand my antidote to my working "PC world" including PoF as my leisure & pleasure time ... is spending the weekends or holidays as much time as I can in the fresh air.

Saying goes, absence makes hearts grow fonder and what once used to be a sooo much awaiting letter or very expensive halfway round the world phone call there are now plenty of avenues how to keep glowing and smiling.

Moderation is my answer.
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/3/2010 12:19:43 PM
happy_go_lucky beat me to the draw. beware of wishing for a luddite. i'd go crazy trying to deal with someone who didn't own a cell phone.

Next thing you know the Dali Lama will be texting someone to add him to Twitter or Face Book.

bast@rd hacked my visa account, a thousand bucks' worth of orange robes and head razors fedexed to tibet!
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 12
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/3/2010 12:48:15 PM
Not me...I LOVE all the new technology...I'm constantly fascinated.
The problem isn't the technology, the problem is the people who use
and abuse it.

 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 13
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/3/2010 1:07:53 PM
I'm only turned off by people using technology to avoid thinking. Technology isn't inherently good or bad, however, there are gadget freaks who are slaves to technology rather than vice-versa.

I almost feel that is impossible to find a man that doesn't have too many gadgets or play video games...reasonably close to my age. I know boys like toys or whatever..

It's not just guys. My gf is the one with the gadgets and who plays video games. I actually find that convenient at times, since I make her operate the remote control for the tv.
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/3/2010 2:02:05 PM

I merely memorized the odd 35 to 40 numbers I use most frequently

ha. i sometimes think about the old days, when i would memorize new phone numbers. i only know half a dozen, all from the pre-cell era. if i lost my handset and all my numbers, i'd be screwed.
 HawkingJr
Joined: 4/16/2007
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Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/3/2010 2:04:26 PM
My ex-girlfriend (who was a few years younger but I don't think that matters much considering my best friend is a few years older and acts almost the same as her) was so addicted to her cell phone that she could not turn it off for 2 hours to watch her favorite movie in a theater. Every 5 minutes, she'd peek into her purse and the inside would suddenly light up. It was annoying, but it was also sad. Heck, during the 6 hours she spent breaking up with me, she was texting every 10 minutes in between the tears, pleading and condemnations. She may have been the worst cell phone addict I have ever met, so maybe she's just an extreme case (curiously, she did not own a cell phone when I met her! However, she was fully addicted by the time I started dating her).

I'm not turned off by technology, but some people get way carried away with it. It also depends on what the technology is -- extreme cell phone addiction seems to be pretty common in this country, but GPS addiction is a new one on me and borderline questionable behavior. Video game and internet addiction probably falls somewhere in between. Anyone addicted to most or all of these things... hmm... Me, personally, I almost never use any of those things unless I have to. I can go days without using my cell phone. I'm also not usually on the internet continuously (unless involved in a seriously interesting Plenty of Fish Forum thread...)
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
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Posted: 5/3/2010 2:19:34 PM

I mean shit... they've got a cellphone, GPS, laptop, and I pod... but he has to get the Iphone? Is anyone one else turned off by all this technology?



lol, i just got a cell phone a few years ago.....and I barely take it anywhere with me or i leave it in the car.


In the past I said it turned me off but I'm open minded it about it now. I don't care for expensive gadgets i don't know how to use or care to learn but I can tolerate if she's not all "I can't live without it" and can't put it down.
 Praetorian55
Joined: 1/30/2010
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Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/3/2010 3:44:00 PM
OK WHO THE F**** ARE YOU TO TEASE ME ABOUT MY BLUETOOTH EARPIECE WHEN I'M RISKING A GD BRAIN TUMOR TO KEEP YOU SAFE WHEN I'M BEHIND THE WHEEL. THERES A SILVER LINING TO EVERY CLOUD AND A DAMN TELEPHONE WITH GPS COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE.

That guy that got lost and frozen like a popsicle would have been alive had he had a freaking GPS in his phone. Stop hating ...guys need entertainment. Trust me you're gonna be bored our your freakin' mind after 10 years of the same guy. Enjoy your free time because we don't do nothing but get crankier and more sedentary as we get older. You're gonna wish your man would STFU for a change and pick his phone up or play a GD game.

ker'plunk my $.02

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 Praetorian55
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Posted: 5/3/2010 4:38:15 PM

I'm not turned off by technology... I just don't know how to use it.

When I returned to school, I didn't know how to turn the computer on without wine and candles... but the floppy disks weren't floppy anymore. First 2 cellphones I had, I didn't know how to speed dial or program things into them... then I got a crackberry. It uses voice dialing... but it doesn't speak English and #@#$%$ is not a recognized command. I still don't really know what a browser is outside of a store and cookies just make me hungry... We finally got a video game thingy... a Wii. All I do is use the dance feature... even Bingo gives me a rash... I have a radio in my car, but haven't "tuned" it... I can listen to 2 different stations at once if I hit the right areas... and I like the commercials plus they tell me the weather... I don't have HD tv - mine all have big backs on them... I figured if someone wanted to steal my tv, I'd hold the door for them... if they can lift it - it's the size of a buick... the old buicks, you know the steel tanks, not that polymer crap... I don't have a GPS - I like getting lost. If you do it enough, you know where you're going eventually. Think I'll wait out the Blu-ray craze, I'm just getting use to the dvd player... finally figured out how to program a vcr.

Like I said, I don't mind technology.


First off....OMG I just LOVED you in Sex & the City. Miranda's my all time fave!

Holy Hell don't remind of the dark days of flashing 12:00 and tape period (shudder) I try not to gorge myself on tech but it's like leaving the mob "just when I thought I was out....they pulled me back in....with a new toy"

Hell I'm a slave to technology...might as well admit it.
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
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Posted: 5/3/2010 5:08:46 PM
This is one of the reasons I love my guy... he isn't joined at the hip... or ear... with every new communication gadget that comes out. He has a cell phone that he uses for *gasp* phone calls. He doesn't bother with GPS because he can, and does, read maps. He does have a desktop computer and might soon be getting a laptop for work. He doesn't spend hours zoned into the latest techno device. It seems the younger generation is more inclined to do so, although I do know a few men my age who have rightfully earned the name 'gadget geek'. My son, a computer whiz, has to have the newest phone, computer, electronic thingamajig that hits the stores. He's even worked on developing apps for the I-Phone. But for him, it's a passion and his career. For my guy, he remembers what it was like prior to the technology boom of the 70's and 80's, as do I, and he doesn't care to be tied to a piece of gadgetry. People nowadays can't handle being without their cell phones or PDAs. It's amazing that the human race progressed for all those centuries without being able to text or call someone 24/7. There is life apart from technology and it can be and usually is very pleasant... or at least quieter.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 5/3/2010 7:36:47 PM
I'm not turned off by technology, I'm turned of by easily distracted people who feel that technology is a good excuse to ignore someone sitting next to you. It's less about the gadgets and more about their personalities. Some have an addiction, some have no tact, and some really don't understand there's a time and place for it.

There are times when these phones and gadgets do amazing things that weren't possible a few years (even a year) ago. But there are times and places for 'em.

It's totally genderless as well. I have friends who can't go anywhere or do anything without checking the phone, texting, taking every phone call that comes in, stopping for every e-mail, etc. I have friends who check and use their Blackberrys on dance floors, during dates, on treadmills, you name it.

If it wasn't technology with some men and women, it'd just have been some other thing.

How do you start a conversation with someone who is spaced out because of a gadget jammed in their ear or someone who is trying to break the world's record for the fastest and most text messages?

The problem is that those who are on the phone or texting and cross your path aren't hard to get the attention of, if they find you attractive. That all falls under the category of knowing how to read body language, how to approach if you get a green light, and how to gauge response to you during a conversation. If the right person crosses the path of someone using an ipod, or a phone - no attempt to connect is needed.

Those things are just a good excuse not to have to interact with those you don't have interest in.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 5/3/2010 7:37:56 PM
What gets me is the advice people give when someone complains "Where are the good, attractive single men/women?" People will respond with advice of going to the supermarket and chatting up strangers there, join a gym, go to public places where there's a lot of people and start talking to strangers, etc. The problem they overlook is a lot of these people-especially the 30 and under crowd- have an electronic gadget rammed in their ear to tune out the world. I'm tempted to look in their other ear to see if went all the way through. And a lot of them are chatting away to whomever is at the other end of their bluetooth hanging from their ear. How do you start a conversation with someone who is spaced out because of a gadget jammed in their ear or someone who is trying to break the world's record for the fastest and most text messages? These people would totally freak out if someone actually tried talking to them in real life. Some teenagers text each other when they're walking down the street side-by-side.
 sweetest
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Posted: 5/4/2010 4:47:49 AM

Stop hating ...guys need entertainment. Trust me you're gonna be bored our your freakin' mind after 10 years of the same guy. Enjoy your free time because we don't do nothing but get crankier and more sedentary as we get older. You're gonna wish your man would STFU for a change and pick his phone up or play a GD game.

^^^I guess some things don't change too much. Remember Grandpa heading off to the basement, tool shed or barn?

I think until you see get your head around to trying different things, it's hard to see what a lot of this stuff brings to your life in terms of practicality and utility. Keeping an open mind is different from going out and plunking down cash to have the newest and the best of everything that blips out there. Happy_go_lucky in his post does suggest another reality that I'm not fond of either...so a 'happy mix' a blend...open, yet not a slave seems the best. A lot of a couple's resources can be sucked up in keeping up with the newest rage out there...is there a gadget that can reduce the bickering around that?

While technology facilitates much in our lives, there can be a cost to having that. It seems common now to see people placing a huge reliance on tools to function for them in a way that they always capable of before. I see tech advances as a way to enhance...and while I'm still the best back-up for my own life, it would be hard for me to be with someone who didn't get this, at least this degree.

I recently became a fan of the GPS, but even then, I use the GPS primarily to augment what I already mostly know, to fine tune my understanding of where something is in relation to where I am---rarely to actually find something without any understanding of what direction to go, or to be clueless about what arterial will best get me there. To my thinking, there is nothing that beats the potential of the GPS to save a relationship....all that bickering...all that posturing...all those missed exits drama vanish with the voice...

Quirky but true, I still know about 15 or so important numbers and can recite them without checking a device..Knowledge bank tools/toys are great, but I can't tell you how many times I've asked people to give me their number and they don't know it...have to find it in their phone; or want to call my phone so I have it.

When the fail safe tech gadget eventually fails as they all do, I refuse to be brought down and stuck by not knowing a prefix and seven digits. Technology has never been everything to me, so I don't treat it as such.

Tech offerings provide speed, access, and convenience and are out there in their multitudes. Instead of being swayed about the promise, I fire up the really big gun and think. We really don't need to embrace everything---case in point, the roomba....
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 5/4/2010 5:09:51 AM

Agreed, and when it comes to online dating, it just adds to the mix.....some people, esp. women aren't too thrilled about being approached in public, esp. if it's a guy who is interested in them. They have this, "Why is this guy talking to me?"I didn't ask him to approach me."

Men approach you who AREN'T interested? I gotta ask when this happens.

But, they go home, get on a dating site or social networking site, and feel more comfortable hitting the delete or have the option to ignore, where as in real life, they're stuck as a "captive audience" if you will listening to a guy trying to get to know them.

Men who don't recongnize body language or conversation that says "not interested" will no doubt deal with this.

I have had heard women say, "When I'm at a dept store or out shopping, I'm there to do my thing, get my products, and get out of there. I don't like it when someone at the store is trying to talk to me." I'm not sure why they would say this, what's the rush to get out of there? What's this "mission" you're on to get in, get out, and leave?

As I posted earlier - this applies to men they aren't interested in, that's all. Men they find attractive and have interest in they have time to talk to, or at least exchange information with. And there's nothing wrong with that - I'm sure men don't approach women they aren't interested in either....at least not in my experience.

I'm the type that will chat with everyone if I am not on a tight schedule but it doesn't mean I want to date them - but I'm a rarity. So far I've chatted with a lot more men I wasn't interested in than men have approached me that weren't. But I'm hopeful that someday one will approach me to actually just talk.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 5/4/2010 5:12:16 AM
Heh, I *work* in IT - yeah, I have a cell phone (with a camera even) - it was the free one that came with the plan 3 years ago. No iPhone, iPad, crackberry, etc. Don't need one, no desire to have the internet with me 24/7 (I'm on the damn computer 8+hrs a day anyways for work). Don't really play video games (I do on occasion check out a new one, a coworker gave me a copy of quake4 a few years back, played for a few days and got bored with it). I do download movies and such on the computer though.

The cell phone, well, I do use it for calls (use those minutes), but I often forget to bring it if I'm close to home (I do take it on longer "road trips" just in case something happens and I need a tow or something.. or to call and say "I'll be there in 1/2 an hour or so"). Oh, yeah, and to occasionally order a pizza on my way home. Definitely not "tied at the hip" to it though.

Then again, I have an electronics hobby - so I have the oscilloscopes, logic analyzer, etc. Those to me are "tools" though, not "gadgets" I use like an addiction.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
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Posted: 5/4/2010 7:12:17 AM

ker'plunk my $.02

That brings to my mind the cost of these technology things ... and the monthly cost of keeping them going.
I can not believe, in the difficult economy of today, how people can afford those monthly bills!!
And ALWAYS people will come back with something on the line of "oh mine doesn't cost much.. I'm on a good plan... I get free minutes... bla bla bla".
Bull.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 38
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Posted: 5/4/2010 7:29:06 AM
You didn't quote me but I assume you're responding to my post.

So I guess is all based on wether they're interested or not? Good point and fair enough. However, I never heard a woman admit to this though, they just speak in general terms, "I don't like it when a man approaches me" but, I never heard them say, "I don't like am an that I'm not interested approaching me at the store."

They may not know that, they may not want to say that, but it's basic common sense. Just like men don't tend to approach women they don't have interest in, women tend to not want to talk to men they aren't interested in.

They just speak about men in general as a whole approaching them, they never mention wether or not they're interested in them.

If they are anything like me, it's because 98% of the men that do approach them aren't of any interest. The ones they do like aren't frequent enough to mention.

Though, the headset they choose to keep on or use as an excuse to ignore someone really takes away the opportunity to at least talk to them.

Assuming they want to talk to a man they have no interest in in the first place. You're assuming that because you want to talk, they would. Projection.

In the old days, people had no excuse and just sat their and listened and actually got to know the person, and realized, "Hey, this guy/lady is a pretty good guy/gal, I guess I'll take them up on that dinner invitation."

You don't want women who aren't really into you but want to be sure or have nothing else on the horizon right now eating up your dating budget, do you? I'd assume you only want women to date you because they are actually interested in you - no?

Of course, I would imagine they had SOME way to get away from a guy that might've been truely rude or obnoxious like "Well, look at the time on the town hall clock! Gotta go!" LOL

They probably sat thru a lot of dates with men that they considered lukewarm. I don't know about other women, but I'd rather have the option to skip that.
 IgorFrankensteen
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Posted: 5/4/2010 8:11:38 AM
It sounds to me as though the OP just really wants the personal touch from a mate. I can go for that. The gadgets are cool, and often useful, but they also can get in the way, emotionally as well as physically. The 'texting' instead of phoning is an especially common complaint, which I agree with. Someone with a ton of gadgets can easily make you feel as though you are just another one of their gadgets. They appear to enjoy the act of texting you, more than the fact that it IS you they are texting.
I do have a few gadgets, and I do like what they've done for me, starting with the first phone machine that took calls for me when I couldn't wait by the phone. I've hated every cell phone I've had (they NEVER work as well as advertised... the "can you hear me now?" guy is obviously a delusional nutcase!), but I do very much like being able to occasionally know about a change of plans when I'm mid journey, instead of going all the way there and having to turn around.
Basically, the OP just needs to find a guy who uses his gadgets to GET CLOSER to her, and not to distract himself away from her. I bet she will. Then she wont hate the gadgets any more.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 5/4/2010 1:24:34 PM
I that this philosophy, that before meeting no texting, no IM, and no cams. Just good old-fashioned email and phone. After starting to date, then texting, but only when needed, since it's not a substitute for a real voice.
 Praetorian55
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Posted: 5/4/2010 7:19:31 PM
The gadgets keep the excitement going long after your woman stops putting out and starts the nag fest. For some of us men it's out only escape.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 5/4/2010 7:38:47 PM

he gadgets keep the excitement going long after your woman stops putting out and starts the nag fest. For some of us men it's out only escape.


LOL.

One thing (among a million other things) I find really weird about modern technology is: how come when I purchase something in a store, the receipt seems to be a foot long? How many trees are destroyed to make a receipt for a chocolate bar or whatever? Before cash registers were computerized, I recall getting receipts that was about an inch long. So much for computers making the world a paperless society, like all of the "experts" predicted. Also, at work, since computers were installed in every work station, I seem to have twice as much paperwork as ever before. The back-up system is a "hard copy"-paper copy-of what's on the computer. I guess there's no faith in storing things on a computer. Computer crash and go crazy-paper doesn't.
 mrcs84
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Posted: 10/21/2010 11:01:13 AM
This seems like one of those things where the product is fine. It's the user that's flawed (kind of like guns and birth control).

I also know that some of the things mentioned by the OP really aren't all that obtuse. Everyone these days has a cell phone and a computer. ipods (or any other random media player) are super popular. They're essentially the new CD player. Getting an iphone is just like when people upgrade their phones every 2 years. GPS? Heaven forbid someone wants to know where they are going. I used to have GPS on my phone, but then I found it was cheaper to just by a GPS instead of the $10 a month charge. Unfortunately, I have to pay to update the maps, but I know my way around well enough to manage.

I have noticed, that all of this technology has depersonalized how people interact with each other. It's amazing how many times you'll see someone with company, and they are still texting away instead of having a face-to-face conversation. Even calling someone on the phone seems like more of a secondary option (at least in my generation).
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
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Posted: 10/21/2010 2:24:29 PM
I get annoyed too, but sometimes you just have to keep up or get left behind. Having a cellphone just seemed to be more practical after awhile. Then that led to dropping the land line altogether. I got a computer just to get email and get on m*y*space because that was my kids(all adults) preferred method of communication. If I traveled enough I might get I lap top but don't really need it when staying local. As for GPS, no way! Why would I ever want to carry a tracking device? I'm not James Bond, and I can read a map, usually down loaded on my computer from Mapquest or Googlemaps.
 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 10/21/2010 7:18:01 PM
I am not sure if the problem lies in technology or the reliance on the use of technology to the extent that it inhibits the development of interpersonal relationships. A mouthful, know, but I do think it's true. Reliance on gadgets has rendered the masses incapable of normal, uninterrupted human expression, on so many levels. Constant distractions, for sure, how sad!
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