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Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 5
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Assuming you have a good sex life (ie-- Sex once to twice a day when your together 4-5 times a week as well as a healthy dose of oral sex and a touch of kinkyness to keep up the WOW-factor)


While this thread still lasts here- Most young men would be happy with that amount live, no need for video or pictures and palms.

Addiction can require more and more of whatever the addiction is- not pleasant when it is porn or drugs.
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Posted: 7/28/2010 3:26:31 PM
the amount of a man's masturbation is proportional to the instability of his relationship.

good luck.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 7/28/2010 3:56:32 PM
I think for more of us than realize it, that masturbation fills a different need than sex with a woman does. They are different acts for a reason. It isn't simply a matter of the physical sensation, or the release. There is a different mental state involved. This is why some cannot do it in another's presence.
There is no formula you can work up that will replace THAT with you, if that is what you are after. I suspect that if you investigated carefully, you will find that someone has studied, and at least TRIED to grasp the psychological difference between the two acts. In fact, I think there are a very large number of different sex acts, some involving others, some not, some entirely without apparent sexual touching at all.
If you actually want to get along with your SO, and not simply try to get him to behave as you wish, I would suggest you investigate and learn about such considerations.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 7/28/2010 5:02:15 PM
Nice try OP,
but you can't gauge your guys habits by asking 21 other guys about theirs.
We may be only guys,
but we're not generic.

With this question you'll get 21 different answers that in no way help
you with your guy.

So either spit out what's bothering you specifcally so we can help,
or just talk to your guy about it.(so he can).

good luck with your poll all the same.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 7/28/2010 5:08:16 PM
Your 21 and he is 27,,,,,so to inform ya,,,,the sex you are having today,,,maybe "good" for you,,,,but when you actually age, learn and experince a few more things(okay,,,a lot more things) you will THEN understand why a man will turn to choking his chicken even thou you are offering him what you define as "good sex". Ya also may think the "number" of times you or he explode is important,,,,but really when I was your age,,,,if the wind was blowing in the right direction there was always a possibility of fireworks.

Seriously.
 Padawan61
Joined: 3/1/2008
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Posted: 7/28/2010 7:40:25 PM
When I was 27 I masturbated on average every fifteen minutes

When I was 27, I had a pocket pu$$y permanently attached at all times. But now in my declining years I just keep it in close proximity.

The thing about masturbation is, unless you have something better to do, why not?


Assuming you have a good sex life (ie-- Sex once to twice a day when your together 4-5 times a week as well as a healthy dose of oral sex and a touch of kinkyness to keep up the WOW-factor) How many times a day would you masturbate?

That depends ... does the WOW factor include odd locations ... like in an elevator, a rooftop, at the police station parking lot, in a dark theater or restaurant?? Uhmm restaurant?? Gives new meaning to eating out.
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 7/28/2010 7:58:55 PM

the amount of a man's masturbation is proportional to the instability of his relationship.

good luck.

Uh... no it isn't.
 GWSmith
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 16
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Posted: 7/28/2010 9:40:17 PM
I only masturbate once or twice a week if that when I'm single and I'm not a fan of pornography.

In that situation, I wouldn't want to resort to my hand I'd be quite happy... unless she wanted to watch me do it.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 7/29/2010 6:37:43 AM
I think Igor and Stray cat said it best.

Guys do not follow a formula. Yes we do like sex, we do like to masturbate, we do like sex with a woman, but we all have different libidos and different needs.

For instance, there was a day when masturbation would produce that physical release that was all that I would need. Now, that is something that feels (to me) rather empty and does not compare with being inside a woman, feeling the walls of her vagina squeeze you, and seeing her face contort as she enjoys the penetration and reaches orgasm. That is so priceless, that no porn and masturbation can compare.

Also realize that a lot of men, even with all their bravado are shy in the bedroom and may not ask their girl to do something they saw in a porn movie. So they evolve their technique slowly. So if you have any issues with your man, talk to him. Tell him what you would like him to do. Even that therapeutic discussion should be enough to make you wet.

Also, even though I am not against masturbation, guys who do it too much, become desensitize to the real thing and many times become premature ejaculators or can't orgasm at all. What you release from M is physical, what you release from the real sex is also emotional and at times reaching into the spiritual.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 7/29/2010 7:56:33 AM

Men are nervous creatures.
They always have to have something to do with their hands.
I believe that's why they coined the term 'handyman'.


I was so poor growing up..if I didn't wake up with an erection, I had nothing to play with all day. (badabing!)

Men..we are visual, auditory, handys species. If it is there, hard or wanna be hard..we are gonna play with it. Fact.
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 7/29/2010 9:16:00 AM
Foreplay is bullshit.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 7/29/2010 2:56:09 PM

Foreplay is bullshit



this is the kind of attitude that leaves many males in you're age range sitting alone doing the 5 knuckle shuffle.


Totally agree with Reddragon. This is the mentality of simple self gratification. Once a man learns to derive his pleasure not from that instant bang but from making a woman so wet, so hot, so intense, so crazy, so orgasmic, that it will have her coming back for more.

But it takes time for most guys to get to that understanding.

 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 7/29/2010 3:27:59 PM
Could you live without any porn to masturbate to?

Why on earth would you ask this question? Why shouldn't your partner be able to look at porn?

People like to look at porn. Not just men. Apparently, approximately 1/3 of the people who look at porn on the internet are women. If you insist your partner not look at porn, all you are going to do is to force them to be secretive about it and that is *not* healthy for a relationship.

Animals, in nature, see other animals having sex and it's one of the things that gets them interested. Early humans saw others having sex and it stimulated them. We are wired to respond to seeing other people having sex. Civilization has changed how we go about it but the fact is that it's natural.

Do not make unrealistic demands of your partner. If you don't want to know about it, fine, but let them have some privacy. If it's cutting into intimacy with your partner, that's an entirely different issue. But leave them alone. It shouldn't be coming up as an issue.


Most women think that they are or should be enough.

Not this one. And no man should think he's completely "enough" for me, either. It doesn't matter *how* good the sex it. There's no reason not to make yourself feel good whenever you want, provided you aren't creating problems for others.
 Pingshooter
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Posted: 7/29/2010 4:30:59 PM

Early humans saw others having sex and it stimulated them. We are wired to respond to seeing other people having sex. Civilization has changed how we go about it but the fact is that it's natural.


Whew..good to know I am natural..which I guess "normal"..but I am still gonna hide it..just in case someone walks down the hall.

See that..men are pretty simple creatures.
Priorities in order are;
Sex
Food
Sex
Shelter
Sex
Food
Beer (that's food right)
Sex

Pretty simple really.
 Padawan61
Joined: 3/1/2008
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Posted: 7/29/2010 6:10:23 PM
Padawan, what is ; ( When I was 27, I had a pocket pu$$y permanently attached at all times. But now in my declining years I just keep it in close proximity. )
is this an americanism saying or is it a sex aid that I have not heard of, if so it sounds interesting

Since I'm not an American ... it can't be some Americanism saying.

That was a one-upmanship on az109's 15 minute interval masturbation schedule. Most young bucks in their twenties are so horny ... they (almost) always have a constant hard-on. So instead of interrupting the daily routine with "wire-pulling" breaks every 15 minutes ... why not simply attach a pocket pu$$y?? You do know what a pocket pu$$y is ... don't you, lsolde?? As young bucks become older (less virile) bucks, constant hard-ons are more infrequent ... so declining years is your own interpretation, if you know what I mean. As such ... having a pocket pu$$y attached is no longer an option. Therefore, it's kept within easy reach ... (say) in the glove compartment of our cars.

Foreplay is bullshit


this is the kind of attitude that leaves many males in you're age range sitting alone doing the 5 knuckle shuffle

But he likes it!! More than pleasing a woman with something as "trivial" as foreplay. Right ... .dej??
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/29/2010 9:20:30 PM

Why on earth would you ask this question? Why shouldn't your partner be able to look at porn?

People like to look at porn. Not just men. Apparently, approximately 1/3 of the people who look at porn on the internet are women. If you insist your partner not look at porn, all you are going to do is to force them to be secretive about it and that is *not* healthy for a relationship.

Not this one. And no man should think he's completely "enough" for me, either. It doesn't matter *how* good the sex it. There's no reason not to make yourself feel good whenever you want, provided you aren't creating problems for others.

This.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/30/2010 7:07:24 AM

Foreplay is bullshit.


It's a shame our posts don't show up on our profiles anymore!
This one is priceless!
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/30/2010 9:15:24 AM

So your guy is having sex with you twice a day, and looking at alot of porn and abusing himself every time you turn around? Sorry but does this guy have a job or any hobbies? Sounds like a bored person with an infantile need for instant gratification. He is a child, not a man.


Sounds like someone needs to grow up and stop judging other people's pretty harmless habits.
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 7/30/2010 12:48:22 PM

It's a shame our posts don't show up on our profiles anymore!
This one is priceless!

Ha, I wanted to see how everyone would respond. (predictably)

Though there is an element of truth to it haha. And no, I don't have any problem getting laid.
 DragNFlyBuzzez
Joined: 12/9/2009
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Posted: 7/30/2010 1:54:02 PM
probally once in awhile , but if a lady is interested in playing, we save ourselves for her.

And my motto, make love, have sex like its the last time you will ever have it each time
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