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 latin9999
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 2
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we had the same problem,,,,
the doctor prescribe viagra and problem solved
but my guy is 41 tho, your is so young,

 Mathostx
Joined: 7/26/2009
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Posted: 8/12/2010 2:18:33 PM
It's completely a mental thing when it comes down to it... Trust me, I been there, and it was with the one woman I been with that I was REALLY into. Not quite as bad off though. I just had the problem that if I knew I was getting off before her, I felt inadequate and once you think you're going to lose the erection, you lose it. It's because I was too worried about pleasing her and whether she was getting off or not, instead of just enjoying it and going with the flow.

And it had enough of a psychological effect on me, that the first time I was with anyone after things ended with her I had the same problem.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 8/12/2010 11:20:51 PM
More than likely, it's something that came out of your mouth that did the damage. Better think back what it could have been and find some way to mend it. We are a little more sensitive in some areas than you may imagine. I remember once well into a relationship, mine mentioned having been my best friends girlfriend at one time. Don't know why that bothered me, but she just didn't interest me sexually anymore.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 8/13/2010 8:06:31 AM
sounds like he has a problem, you know women can be a little more involved in having sex, maybe it needs a bit more attention,are you doing anything to help make the sessions more erotic, try doing the 'work' once in a while, or a little role play,it take a lot to be a good lover, use your imagination, be creative, you will probably get what you want if you do
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 8/13/2010 11:32:09 AM
This place can really be a treasure chest of wisdom, Viagra for a 26 yr old, a wore out pecker, jumping on a pee hard and the list goes on. It's as simple as the OP said or did something that rattled his confidence. She could have boasted about her ex-boyfriends super thick 12 inch slong or told him about some other experience she had that made him feel inadequate.....simple as that. I guess the next post is going to be his underware is too tight.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 8/13/2010 3:41:30 PM
^^^^Bored???......my azz! I've rode the same mare for twenty years and didn't get bored, for that matter...I've also used the same right hand for fifty years....didn't even have to wear sexy see through gloves. What the hell are you people talking about?
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Posted: 8/13/2010 4:05:30 PM
There is a variation on the advice already given that I have heard can work wonders too.... organise a play session or 2 where the object is NOT to have sex. Tell him so. Use massage, kissing, licking, teasing, touching yourself..... whatever things you think he would like. But even if he begs you... leave that pen!s alone! The lack of pressure on him plus the feelings and visuals he is getting from you might just break the cycle he is in. This does require you to focus on his needs rather than yours for a while, but only you can decide if it is worth the effort. Good luck!!
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/13/2010 7:57:18 PM
what do you do?
Oral.
Then he'll be good to go.

If that doesn't work he should get some pills for that.
26 is a little young to have that problem, but it happens at all ages.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/16/2010 12:39:57 PM

by regulary I mean 3-4 days a week and several times a day.

Well, which is it? 2+ times a day, or 3-4 times a week? Or is it just mostly all on one day a week? :)

He'll be hard but as soon as we're about to have sex...Droop. We'll start making out and try to get his erection back but when it's gone he can't seem to get it back.

Well, for the record, kissing a lot ain't going to fix it. :) Try going down on him. How does that do?

I'll admit i'm getting sexually frustrated as it's been a few weeks since i've gotten some.

Yeah, you do have an issue. Sounds like maintaining it hard. Again, try going down on him right before. Things I can think of is this:
- If he smokes, have him cut down on it
- Take L-Arginine. An amino acid you can pick up at a lot of places. It sends blood to your muscles. Mr Happy being one of them. It's a main ingredient in those all-natural products like Enzyte.
- Have him do some cardio. Circulation, circulation, circulation.
- Have him eat a lot of celery. I know, sounds weird. But, there's a chemical there that boosts hormones. A porn star ate it religiously to give him a superhuman "money shot"
- Keep in mind; you don't have to have stress at the top of your head to be stressed. Stress can be kinda weird.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 8/18/2010 9:59:12 PM
There are plenty of things you can do without an erect penis. Get into them.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 8/20/2010 4:40:57 PM

Healthy 26 year olds can't pass a cantaloupe with out getting a woodie.


Dayum cantaloupes..they are the sluts of the melons..all yummy and slushy..why is my keyboard tilted?
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 8/22/2010 12:52:34 PM

Thats scary if your keyboard is on a desk.Ping.Must be all that Vitametavegimin Lucy sold you..be careful it is actually 23% alcohol.


I have no idea what that is that you mention..but..I am glad it's not pictures of sheep that get the same reaction, dats for dayum sure!
 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
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Posted: 11/13/2010 7:29:09 PM
have you tired INOSITOL 650 mg an important B Vitamin for your Erection problems
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2010 3:16:54 PM
mogrl42 msg#38 WTF is with you?....but it's O.K. for you women to call a man a stud or a stallion ...isn't it? We sure don't mind! .....Oh!, now I get it...I guess you mean I shouldn't have insulted the horse.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 11/17/2010 1:06:46 AM
No one has thrown this out as a cause of the problem..

Performance anxiety...which can be easily cured with understanding and going easy.
 LSUdude24
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 11/24/2010 7:45:27 PM
Do you have any pictures of Rosie O'Donnell or Oprah in any room that you have sex?
I know that would ruin it for me. I saw a picture of Rosie O'Donnell in a wet t-shirt and I was impotent for 9 days.
 Email Tom Now
Joined: 9/17/2010
Msg: 34
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Posted: 12/3/2010 5:27:13 PM
the OP says:
"I'll admit i'm getting sexually frustrated as it's been a few weeks since i've gotten some.

what do i do if this happens next time?"





call me at 555-335-8222 and i'll bang you like a screen door in a hurricane baby!!!
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 12/3/2010 9:51:39 PM
I understand both your frustrations in this situation as 1. he does not know why he is having this problem and 2. you're not having sex. So an option for him is to buy some Viagra until the problem is resolved.

As for yourself, do not pressure him or vent your frustrations if the problem persists as that will simply not help but rather, be supportive of him and the reality of what he's living!
 Daisyrose73
Joined: 9/23/2010
Msg: 37
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Posted: 6/12/2011 12:30:58 PM
I was in this situation for 10 yrs out of the 14 yrs I was married. It started when I got pregnant and continually got worse. I tried leaving him alone and did not initiate sex (after about 6 months I gave up on that), we tried not trying to have actual intercourse but I would give him oral, which is what the last 5 yrs of our relationship was so again...no satisfaction still for me. I tried to spice things up, offer an open relationship, 3 some...anything I could thing of over those years.

We separated and we agreed to see a sex therapist but by that point our relationship in my opinion was over. He finally admitted after 10 yrs that once I got pregnant he saw me in his mind as a "mom" and it freaked him out. He just could not see me as a sexual being and since his needs were being met, in his mind the marriage was great.

I don't really have advice for the OP, except that if he will not talk about it he may never get over whatever is going on in his head.
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