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 getreal
Joined: 1/7/2005
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Seems like there is a trend on POF where men (I don't look at the profiles of too many ladies, so can't comment on women) are deciding not to post their pictures. It sure makes communication a lot nicer to know who you are responding to...know what I mean?
 gc33
Joined: 6/11/2005
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Posted: 7/18/2005 10:30:53 PM
I originally didn't post my pic for many different reasons. Then I started chatting with someone I really liked and I felt nervous about meeting her. Would she even be talking to me if she knew what I looked like. I would much rather start a communication with someone who knows what I look like, that way I know her interest is genuine.
 lucygoose_16
Joined: 7/15/2005
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Posted: 7/19/2005 9:42:46 AM
I feel more comfortable talking to people who have pics up. then I at least have an idea of who im talking to.

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 getreal
Joined: 1/7/2005
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Posted: 7/20/2005 4:00:51 PM
I totally agree secondbest...I admit up front that chemistry is very important to me!
 getreal
Joined: 1/7/2005
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Posted: 7/20/2005 4:01:12 PM
thanks!
 HurleyPinks
Joined: 11/28/2004
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Posted: 7/20/2005 6:27:15 PM
Yeah but it is really hard to imagine yourself seeing someone possibly in person if you can't even see them online. And half the time people with no pics have no good eye catchers in their profiles to get you to want to talk to someone you can't see. I donno about anyone else, but I am not going to start talking to someone I am not physically attracted to and get my hopes up that I am as physically as I am mentally attracted to them because you just aren't most times. I've also gotten the exaggerated pics where people put their pics from four years ago when they were hot as hell and now they are balding and gained 20 lbs. Just be yourself... faking it is worse than no pic at all I think
 HurleyPinks
Joined: 11/28/2004
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Posted: 7/20/2005 6:28:16 PM
and the line, "I dont have any pics on my computer" is a big crock or something because it is 2005, you have so many ways of getting a picture online-
 HurleyPinks
Joined: 11/28/2004
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Posted: 7/20/2005 6:34:36 PM
Not for anything, but there are many reasons why we don't find dates through other channels. You can be anywhere from 17 to 80 and be a great person, but just not have the situation at hand. I mean- I am 20. that is the awkward not in highschool anymore, focused on school/work, and not yet old enough to do the bar thing so how do I meet people? And just as anyone else, time is a big problem. Plus, I donno how many people go up to people at random while out, i'm not shy, and most people aren't, but it is that awkwardness of rejection. Atleast on here if someone that u find attractive doesnt find u attractive you can just say ok...
 frankin2006
Joined: 4/19/2005
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Posted: 7/21/2005 3:41:36 PM
A person who wants to go "picture free" should perhaps include the reason for doing so in his/her profile. Otherwise, many (like me) will assume the person is a cheater, or otherwise has something to hide.


how about saying picture available on request? But i find so many women on here are either overwhelmed with number of emails they get or just dont wanna spend anytime reading one's profile as soon as they see no immidiate pic is available. The funny part is after a while they notice humm!!! why cant i find a good guy on here?


 tunesman
Joined: 7/18/2005
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Posted: 7/22/2005 11:13:47 PM
I would urge everyone here to not ignore the profiles with no photos. You may just be passing up someone truly great. Give all profiles their due and read between the lines. That is really what reveals all that the person is really about. I never overlook a profile just because there is no photo there.

I do think in an ideal world that it is only fair for the other person to provide a photo for you. If they are able to see you, you should be able to see them. While looks are not everything, they certainly are something and do constitute at least a part of that magical thing called attraction. There is not any great use in carrying on with something, which may not be destined to work. The overall attraction has to be there.

Other than what has been said already, I would like to add a couple of other legitimate reasons for someone to not have a picture up. Someone like me who is frequently at the business end of the camera simply doesn’t get around to getting a goodly number of shots of him or herself. It is a major act of gymnastics to do that with your own camera, all by yourself. I have found that many people are just a bit scared of a higher end digital camera; volunteers for snapping me are very few and far between.

From my own experiences, many of the people in my circle simply hate having their picture taken at all costs. Despite gentle persuasion that the camera simply loves them, it can almost turn into a bloodbath. Two of the ladies I have met through POF have indicated the same thing.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
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Posted: 7/23/2005 5:50:42 PM
rack Dude, you got one hairy face....but pretty eyes though!!
 frankin2006
Joined: 4/19/2005
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Posted: 7/24/2005 8:47:22 AM
tunesman very well said.

Obviously with your age you are talking from experience. I can understand those who require a photo in order to go further with anything but what I dont like is those who do not even look in your profile and read everything as soon as they notice there is no immidiate photo in your email. But then I think if they are so shallow or cant keep up with the emails then they are NOT destined to be with me anyway.

cheers

 sabre_805
Joined: 7/22/2005
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Posted: 7/24/2005 11:54:35 AM
I see many women on his site and others with NO photo on their profiles.

My experience has proven it is for a good reason.

With todays obesity epidemic it's usually better NOT to see them and move on lol.

Also they may not want the wife/husband to find them so using no photo is safer.
 sabre_805
Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:19:44 AM
Good luck skippy.

*I couldn't care what someone looks like as long as she and I can have a good time together

Most of the takers will want a date with the dog I bet lol.

When you are unattractive you take what you can get.

People who look good have options you don't.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:24:32 AM
Well, I just took my pix down. I figure that should drop the BS level quite a lot.
btw
I am neither obese nor ugly. I am just "cutting bait".
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:29:19 AM
Holy crap! Talk about NAIVE!! The pic doesn't actually have to be THEM! It is seriously easy to find a pic of someone and pretend it is you. People on dating sites do it all the damn time, both men AND women!
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 7/25/2005 1:38:15 AM
sigh
It is just that I have met people who had the fake pix...or the ones that were 20 years and 50lbs ago. I think some people use pix of their friends or even their kids!! There is just NO way to know who will actually show up at that first meeting. I guess if you did the web cam chat thing it would help, but it seems that a lot of guys use a cam to exhibit Mr Happy, so I won't chat like that anymore.
IF I was interested in meeting someone, I would be happy to post pics again. Unlikely to happen though.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 18
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Posted: 7/25/2005 12:23:18 PM
I usually have pix up. Right now, I just can't be bothered as I am not attracting any interest from people who are local and actually serious about meeting.

Would I want to see pix before meeting? Hell yes....but I don't put a lot of faith in the pix being accurate.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 7/25/2005 5:46:11 PM
@ zoomy
Maybe women don't make the first move very often because we are told so often that we are worthless. Too fat, too tall, too short, too old, have kids...whatever. Get enough of that and we quit making first contact.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 7/25/2005 6:04:18 PM
zoom In real life it may be somewhat different, on here if you sit and wait for women to approach you...well, you may be waiting awhile. That's not just you, I mean any man. Men outnumber women on here by a good margin, so most women if they're answering their mail don't even have time to go persue.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 7/25/2005 10:44:43 PM
I know women can be brutal too. Realistic? How about I just assume I am not good enough for anyone and leave it alone?
 sabre_805
Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 22
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Posted: 7/27/2005 12:24:46 AM
Aside from all that, what makes you think that the pic of the person you are looking at is even that person at all?? It could be five years old, when they still had most of their teeth and hair. So the point is invalid to begin with.


I have heard of people doing this but it has never happened to me.

If someones looks have gone or they have gained excess weight it will only come out when they meet up in person.

If someone did do this I would leave instantly.

People who choose to play this game are just looking for cheap entertainment and not to meet in person.

Try again brainless.
 sabre_805
Joined: 7/22/2005
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Posted: 7/29/2005 11:50:16 PM
No it is much more simple than any of those.

Take snap shot or Drivers License to Kinkos.

They will scan it and burn it to a disc for like $5.

They will even walk you through the incredibly difficult uploading of the photo.

Oh and most Kinkos are open 24 hours for your busy schedule.
 bluedew
Joined: 12/30/2005
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/15/2006 7:35:20 AM
Thank-you, some of us are still learning and some of just can't afford all the new gadgets. Never assume everyone knows what to do.
Just a foot note to those who want a pic., how about being polite about it. Maybe you should try reading the persons profile, letting them know you'd like to chat and could you please send photo. Repling to someone no pic no chat is equal to telling a person you don't care who they are only what they look like.
 mandy21fca01
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 1/18/2006 6:52:33 PM
^^^^i agree.

You people jump to conclusions about total strangers too much
Everything doesn't have some nefarious plot attached to it.
People have their reasons.
At this rate people are going to just find some picture off the WWW and post it to stop your accusations so they can continue to maintain whatever reasons they have to remain anonymous.

Give people the benefit of the doubt
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