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 try1more
Joined: 12/16/2007
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as above it does happen with guys as well.
could it be the less secure that do it?
could it be that they dont want their partner getting to know other women/men?
 seabass15
Joined: 3/2/2008
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Posted: 7/3/2011 2:06:43 AM
Hypothetically. if you have a group of couples, say four couples, they mix and socialise together, and if one of those couples, deceides to part company, the other three women will ususlly shun, the fourth woman, the reason plain and simple is they now see her as a threat , to their own relationship, thinking that she will try and take/ steal their men. believe it or not most women are possive in a relationship, Women by their nature are homemakers, men on the other hand are generally the same but different, with a totally different mind set
That is the general scenario, but not everyone is like this.
Sorry about your Sister. Chin up, keep on trucking, she will come back in here own time, hopefully.

As your Sister has not contacted you, maybe all is not right in her world and is ashamed to say so, wondering what you will say if it has gone wrong
Humans are strange beings, it takes a long time to get to know one, and just when you think you know them, they throw a wobbly. and people get hurt.
 seabass15
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Posted: 7/3/2011 6:06:56 AM
Assuming that you and your sister were very close. turn the other cheek .
& tell her how much you missed the contact, with her. try not to berate her too much. and hope that she has learnt a valuable lesson. Its just emotions no real hurt , and time usually heals if people work at it.
as I have said previously people are strange beings.
Well thats it. whatever happens, I hope it turns out ok, for you and Sis.

for now
 seabass15
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Posted: 7/9/2011 6:11:47 AM
I think that quote about your friends Is hilarious, I havent stopped laughing.... I'll just get my coat.

If I was ever to have another relationship there are 2 of my friends I would never include due to their inability to keep their legs shut and the fact that any man is fair game..

And I thought it was the men who were supposed to keep their brains in their underwear. Another lesson learnt
 Bookbelle
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Posted: 7/9/2011 8:03:55 PM
Fortunately I've never abandoned my friends during a relationship.

My most recent ex, started out kinda long distance, with him up in our uni town (Aberdeen) a few days a week for tutorials, then travelling backwards and forwards between here and Leeds (where he actually lived) for the remainder. We did spent quite a bit of the time he was up here together, but for the other half of the week, and even at times when he was up here, I did go out and see friends etc.
Towards the end (which was around exam time), he all but moved in with me. Even then, I went out and saw friends - I never ditched them for the relationship.

I have seen friends who spend all their time with their new partner, to the exclusion of everyone else... I find that rather sad actually. Generally, they have been the ones who didn't last as long. One couple spent literally ALL their time together, to the point where when my friend arranged to go out to a gathering to catch up with friends, his boyfriend got upset that my friend didn't want to take him.
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