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 Scrappingirish
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 1
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I just met a really nice guy and his desire is to see me with another woman, but I am not too sure about this. Is it just the whole thing about control or is it something else. Is there anyone out there that can explain this too me? Thanks
 Scrappingirish
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 2
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 9:41:46 PM
Are there any women out there than can help me out?
 vnufall
Joined: 3/6/2011
Msg: 3
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 9:44:48 PM
i thought most guys liked that fantasy. a few have actually tried it too...lol. a lot of men like to think about two women too. i just think they like to talk it out and see how uncomfortable you might get. if there's a willingness to openly discuss this stuff...the subject goes away. just my experience.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 4
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 9:54:56 PM
They are thinking with their little head, not their big one.

If a man is looking for a companion, partner in life, suggesting that she sleep with another woman, while he watches, is not the norm.

If it were me ... I'd kick his sorry ass to the curb.
 Kitten189
Joined: 5/25/2011
Msg: 5
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 9:57:21 PM
Why isnt he trying to get to know YOU,Op?

He can view as much porn as he wants on the net.

I,personally would've lost interest in him immediately if he's only just met you.
 Scrappingirish
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 6
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:09:05 PM
Thanks ladies he claims that I should experience being with a woman because I have never done that before. He says that he wants me to be free with experimenting.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 7
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:11:57 PM
Well then ... you can suggest that first you would be willing to see him experience being with a man.

Funny this is ... I don't think he'd like it up the ass.

Find a new one.
One who is normal.
This guy is an ass.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 8
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What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:12:55 PM
Experimenting is fine and dandy......BUT.....it should be with things that YOU are curious about!
If the thought of giving oral sex to another woman has never crossed your mind.....why, oh why would you even consider doing it for a man you barely know?

Turn the table.....and tell him you would like to see him experiment with another man and see what kind of reaction you get!!
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 9
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:14:28 PM
I just met a really nice guy and his desire is to see me with another woman, but I am not too sure about this.
It doesn't matter if he wants it if you don't. If YOU don't have a desire to have sex with another woman, then what he wants is irrelevant. Does the idea of going down on another woman turn YOU on? Because if it doesn't, then why on earth do it? It doesn't matter how "nice" someone is, it doesn't mean you have to do something that goes against your desires to satisfy theirs.

Thanks ladies he claims that I should experience being with a woman because I have never done that before. He says that he wants me to be free with experimenting.
Why are you listening to this "man"? There are lots of things I haven't done before that I don't have to do to know I wouldn't like them....sky diving, female circumcision, bungee jumping, gang bang....There's a difference between exploring YOUR sexuality and compromising yourself to please someone else. Honestly, he's trying to guilt you into doing something you feel uncomfortable with....doesn't sound like such a "nice guy" to me.
 UglyFroggieCritter
Joined: 8/21/2010
Msg: 10
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:20:52 PM
Why would you do something just because someone else wants you to do it? He wants you to be open to experimentation all right, just on his terms.

Foot. Ass. Curb.
 Lexiiiiiii
Joined: 5/29/2011
Msg: 11
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:31:50 AM
It just turns them on. There's nothing wrong with it. i don't understand why you guys think she should dump him becaus eiof this. She never said he's NOT trying to get to know her, so that's a stupid question. everyone is entitled to their fantasies, and judging him for it is wrong.
 Lexiiiiiii
Joined: 5/29/2011
Msg: 12
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:33:10 AM
it's not like he's forcing her to do it. if anything, you should be glad he's so open with you.
 CheezyChick
Joined: 9/23/2009
Msg: 13
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:47:49 AM
The 'just met a really nice guy" part of your question is the part that bothers me, mostly the 'just' part. Depends what you're looking for? For me personally, I'd have to be sure he's 'really into 'me'', and not just looking for the fantasy, before I would consider playing around....unless I was looking for the fantasy too.
 99Scully
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 14
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:58:15 AM
I know everyone has their own thing, so who am I to judge, but since you sound as if this is NOT something you're comfortable with doing, then my advice would be to not do it. For one thing, you just met this person. Sure, he might "seem" nice, but that doesn't mean he is. Personally, I'd question the niceness of anyone asking a person he just met to have sex with someone else of the same gender so he could sit there and watch. That sounds incredibly pushy and disrespectful.

If you want to continue seeing him, my thoughts would be to make sure there are some boundaries and let him know about deal breakers, especially if you guys are already discussing such intimate manners.

Of course, if you DON'T wish to continue seeing him, you could tell him you met up with a possible candidate for the same sex encounter and hit it off with her so much, you're going to date her now. You know, just to stick it to him.
 99Scully
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 15
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:59:38 AM
Oh, sheesh, that's supposed to say intimate "matters", not manners. And I think that's my cue to go get some sleep.
 Kitten189
Joined: 5/25/2011
Msg: 16
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 2:25:54 AM

Thanks ladies he claims that I should experience being with a woman because I have never done that before. He says that he wants me to be free with experimenting.


Yanno,Op,when i was actively dating(and i met HEAPS of men),not one of them asked me anything along those lines,so i should consider myself "lucky".
If this was/is a fantasy of yours well and good,but it sounds as though its HIS fantasy.
If this is how he puts his best foot forward in getting to know you,good grief..........
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 17
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 4:35:43 AM

if there's a willingness to openly discuss this stuff...the subject goes away. just my experience.


While girl-on-girl watching, up close, would probably be educational/instructive for me, it's not among my fantasies. But if it came up in conversation, and she was willing to discuss it openly, her take on her own reach and ribaldry, I'd want to pursue it, conversationally, 'course. To learn my partner, and her responses, is not only key, but the whole point of the exercise, and without end.


For me personally, I'd have to be sure he's 'really into 'me'', and not just looking for the fantasy, before I would consider playing around....unless I was looking for the fantasy too.


When that certainty of "really into me" is reciprocal, almost anything is within reach, and the sky's the limit. That sense, that feeling, that your partner is really into you, is bonding, all by itself, stronger than common backgrounds, common anything, almost, and can open lotsa doors and locked gates. Once I know we're on the same team, that we are together, moving, even racing, toward the same goal, then the license I afford to my partner is broad, and if she dances to the fringes, I will applaud and encourage her, and wrap myself around her when she draws closer.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 6:16:47 AM
There are actually a variety of reasons why various men get off on that idea. Some imagine that they will be able to dive into the mix and get"twice as much sexual excitement" by being with two women at once. Some really don't know at all WHY they are turned on by it, just that they are, so they want you to do it.

But this extra bit catches my attention:

he claims that I should experience being with a woman because I have never done that before. He says that he wants me to be free with experimenting.


That suggests to me another common reasoning: he has a deeper library of sexual ideas than you yet realize, and he wants to get you to try new things, so that he might be able to bring MORE of them into your lives together later. This is where it matches why I suspect that many guys do like the girl-on-girl fantasy: it's not that they really like the thought that the woman can have a GREAT time without him being there at all (it would turn him off, if that occurred to him), it's that such behavior IMPLIES that she'll do all sorts of other things as well. It's the same reason some guys get off on a woman who "talks dirty". It isn't the dirty talk itself that gets him off, it's what other doors open to him because she's comfortable doing it that sends him off.

As is so often pointed out, but so rarely thoroughly understood, it's the MIND part of the sex that really causes the rockets to go off.
 BdubsWxPuck30
Joined: 12/23/2010
Msg: 19
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 6:20:21 AM
Whats your fantasy ladies? What would turn you on?
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 20
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 7:49:20 AM

There's nothing wrong with it. i don't understand why you guys think she should dump him becaus eiof this. She never said he's NOT trying to get to know her, so that's a stupid question. everyone is entitled to their fantasies, and judging him for it is wrong.
Everyone is entitled to their own fantasies and there's nothing wrong with it. What IS wrong is trying to force someone else to ACT your fantasies out. She has stated she's uncomfortable with this, so it's not her fantasy to do this but his. btw, not all fantasies need to be acted out.


it's not like he's forcing her to do it. if anything, you should be glad he's so open with you.
He is trying to manipulate her into acting out his fantasy. THAT is what we take issue with. It's one thing to share your fantasies with your partner, it's another to try to guilt them into acting them out.
 WalksOnWater2
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 21
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:40:20 PM
You want a relationship and you just met a "really nice guy" who wants a threesome.
Something doesn't jive...
Why do you care how and why he get's his rocks off?


 ekw1234
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 22
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 1:56:13 PM
This is a common fantasy for guys. I guess it depends on how far he is willing to take it. It is never a good idea to bring a third person into bed with the two of you especially if you are in a real relationship vs. FWB. I have never done it although I have come across several men who wanted that. MY dilemma is if I am in bed with a man and a woman, what do I need the man for??? But that only applies to me, you think about it and see if it might work for you. Also discuss, is it going to be a one time thing or is gonna want that regularly... what is the involvement of the other girl, is he expecting you and her to both work on him or each other... how is this going to progress?? You have a long discussion to suffer through, good luck to yo!!
 Kitten189
Joined: 5/25/2011
Msg: 23
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 9:45:37 PM

MY dilemma is if I am in bed with a man and a woman, what do I need the man for???



Op,this guy needs to fulfill HIS fantasy and he's trying to use YOU to do it.
 s33wilki
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 24
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 10:02:16 PM
You need a man to hold the camera??? Lol jk this is a funny issue really it is. Its not hard to figure it out either your interested or not plain and simple. If your not bisexual in anyway then tell him to move on im sure he will find it someplace else and you can find an actual nice guy that doesn't ask retarded questions to someone he barely knows lol
 WalksOnWater2
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 25
What is it that excites a man about two women being together?
Posted: 7/4/2011 10:28:35 PM
I bet you never jumped off a bridge either.
Maybe you have to experience it, if the real nice guy says so.


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