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 leadpipe1958
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 1
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Hi Gang
The question is about Mom.Her complaint is there all dead or wore out by 70+.Mom
still goes to the gym and works out(Not just the Whirlpool) and is a go getter.
She can not find a boyfriend and is about to give up. I hate to see her alone in her golden years.What is with the you older guys have you given up too?. I understand there are less fish in the pond but is it to late for the chase?I would like to tell her she is wrong and keep looking.
Thank every one.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 2
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:08:34 AM
Your Mom is likely doing very well on her own.

Men that age need taking care of.
Why would she want to do that?
There must be lots of woman her age around that can keep her company.
She can go on trips.
Join social groups.

Right now her time is her own.
And she should enjoy it.
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:26:30 AM
Nobody can beat demographics.
 leadpipe1958
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 4
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:51:21 AM
Thank everyone.You confirmed what I kind of already knew. So Mom go get a spry 60 year old and have fun. A cougar looking for gray hired pray. LOL
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 5
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Posted: 7/10/2011 7:41:59 AM
^^
gray hired pray
What in the heck is that?

I would think that there are just as many "in their 70's" spry men as there are spry women.
And just as many non-spry also.
Not all men are non-spry and same for women.


Depends on where you live. Depends on where you go when you go out, too.
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 6
Dateing in your 70ies
Posted: 7/10/2011 8:22:48 AM
It's never too late. Many people don't get out of their element. She's seeing the same people at the gym etc.
I suggest getting involved in other activities and in volunteering locally .
She can form a local activity or social group.

A close guy friend's mom is in her 70's and very active. Plays golf, swims etc daily .
She has a good group of friends and meets friends thru them etc, but she gets out and about and travels etc.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 7/10/2011 12:14:46 PM
you could suggest to your mom that she try teaching a class at the local senior center ... doesn't matter what she teaches ... just something she knows ... that way, she could see who's available there at the senior center ... (I teach "Intro to Facebook") ...

many men in their 70s don't know how to operate a computer and she'll likely find few masculine PoFers in that age group ... my experience at the senior center was that more men were afraid of the computers ... but confident in dancing and other activities!

she's probably healthier alone anyway ... rather than taking care of an older man who's set in his ways, things women belong in the home ... spending her remaining days, taking care of HIM ...

it's been my experience that men of that age ... born 1940 or earlier ... grew up with the notion that the man was the head of the household and wives needed to do what they were told to do ... that women are incapable of thinking for themselves ...

..... ..... .....

they heard their fathers talk about the days of "Rosie the Riveter" ... and the expectation that women would give up their careers and go back to work once WW-II was over ...

personally ... if that were me ... and if I couldn't find someone compatible to be with ... someone who would respect me as an equal individual rather than his caretaker ... I would greatly prefer to be alone ... since I CAN think for myself and make my own decisions about life in general! I can even drive a car and balance my own checkbook ...

also ... I enjoy my own company as I'm fun to be with!



P.S. ... 70 is only a number ... by attitude, your mum is far younger! sorry that this post appears to be negative ... as negative people ALWAYS say, "I'm only trying to be realistic!"

LAFFING ... LAFFING!!!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 7/10/2011 12:36:33 PM
Just like the men below 70, there are all kinds above 70. Analyses like the one above show clearly that for any old male stuck in his ways, there is a woman under 70 who is so stuck in her own stereotypes that she will never be able to find someone to be with at any age.

The only absolutely reliable difference between a man 75 and a man 65 is that the 75 year old has lived 10 years more than the 65 year old.

One of the great myths of the "baby boom" generation is that all of the post WW-II social changes in the West are due to the action of the boomers. Unfortunately, most "boomers" did not get into a position of power until the 70s or 80s, and all the really big upheavals happened in the 50s and the 60s, driven by a generation of people born in the 1930s and 40s who had experienced global warfare, class systems, and the evils of the Great Depression, and who not only demanded change, but implemented it as well.

If you really study the impact of the boomers since the 80s, you will note that economically things have gotten worse, politically, things have become more corrupt, and socially, things have deteriorated to the stage where there is more poverty, more crime, more people in jail, and less liberty.

Of course, facts hardly influence opinion....
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 9
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Posted: 7/10/2011 12:59:18 PM
Tell you mom to stop looking and enjoy her life as she seems to be doing. If she does decide to date tell her to look younger..

nativerock
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 7/10/2011 9:41:26 PM
Just returned from a white water outing.

Many young guys playing in rapids, and then I met two sprighty fellows - one was 67 and the other 74. They were running all rapids on the river. Their only complaint was that they can't find any female partners.

One explanation is that all active guys are on on the lakes and rivers, and the women are active in casinos and shopping malls.
 Janet_Always
Joined: 12/7/2010
Msg: 11
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Posted: 7/12/2011 7:39:28 AM
My aunt (73) lost her husband last year and met someone a few months ago in a grievance support group. She is having a blast. They go bike riding, boating and little mini trips together all the time.

So, it's possible.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 7/12/2011 7:54:52 AM

rearguard*2:
One of the great myths of the "baby boom" generation is that all of the post WW-II social changes in the West are due to the action of the boomers. Unfortunately, most "boomers" did not get into a position of power until the 70s or 80s, and all the really big upheavals happened in the 50s and the 60s, driven by a generation of people born in the 1930s and 40s who had experienced global warfare, class systems, and the evils of the Great Depression, and who not only demanded change, but implemented it as well.


As a "boomer", I resent what you have said. I dislike it, I resent it, I am appalled by it, hearing it upsets me.

But I do believe that it is true.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 7/16/2011 5:23:20 PM
Possible. Even likely. Depends on how much *she* wants to. How much she's willing to put into it. Fewer active men, yep, but not *none*. . . . The father of my kids came up on the last gardening trip wit' da boy, and opened my spring, carried water from the river up to the garden, hoed, screened soil, planted, carried rock and gravel. He'll be 86 in September. He took his last 100 mile bike ride when he was 80; learned to play the banjo at 65 after retiring. And does better on the stock market than most peeps who are paid to do it for a living.

Life is pretty much what you make it. At any age.

 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 7/18/2011 9:35:19 AM

What is with the you older guys have you given up too?. I understand there are less fish in the pond but is it to late for the chase?

Attitudes re: aging also seem to vary a lot depending on the region. Am originally from the east coast myself, and I notice that older folks out west tend to be more like your mom, and generally don't sit around much (though the climate here does help). Also, education and income has a lot to do with it. Has she looked into volunteer groups, special interests, and local political parties (always popular with the guys)?
 unclezeus
Joined: 5/12/2011
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/18/2011 2:38:14 PM
The older men are still predominantly attracted to the young women. That rule doesn't change. Women have gotten themself into this mess by being shy about interaction with younger males. Such a shame society has made women believe being with younger men is suppose to be a bad thing.
You are her son, what are you going to do, "Mommy mommy , pick up a young stud at the gym, its okay"..... dude think about that.
Your mom will get things done per her own comfort zone.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 7/18/2011 4:00:59 PM
I think there's a stigma about an older woman ... a cougar ... dating a younger man ... when I was in my mid to late 50s, I BRIEFLY dated a 37 year old man ... (younger than my oldest son) ...

the comments were endless and none of them were positive ... I thought my daughter was going to have a stroke, she was so embarrassed ...

this relationship primarily went no where because we had very little in common ... maturity, intellectually, emotionally ... his "take" on things was rarely anything I could relate to ...

whereas, when I was dating a man 19 years OLDER (a year younger than my dad), everyone thought that was great ... this, too, went no where because I wanted more than he was interested in offering ... mostly based on his age, limited interests ...

it's always a balancing act ...
 Glicko
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 7/19/2011 10:17:40 AM
I beg your pardon.......I'm 70 years young, exercise daily - at least an hour a day and bike ride when the weather permits. I'm 6'1" tall and wear a 36 pair of pants....the idea that all 70 year old men need taking care of is plain BS,,,,,,,,I live alone, am a better cook than most gals I've dated and tire of women who want me to take them out and spend tons of money on them without even offering every once in a while to pay a bit of the tab OR at a minimum throw in the tip !!
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 7/19/2011 11:38:56 AM
I'm not sure whose pardon you're begging ... if it was re my comments, I wasn't referring to men's physical abilities (riding a bike, etc.) ...

I was trying to convey that older men are frequently not interested in using computers ... not due to their physical incapability of doing so necessarily ... but ... therefore, older men are probably not going to be found on a dating site ...

I doubt that anyone thinks "all 70 year old men need taking care of" ... any more than we think MOST men "need taking care of!" ...

sorry you've been dating women who think of you as an ATM ... I hate when that happens ...
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 7/19/2011 6:41:51 PM
Sorry Molly, maybe the older guys are more "computer-challenged" in your neck of the woods, but even around here in NorCal "rural heaven", seems like computers are about ALL they do these days (and much of that is obviously of the "political" persuasion... you should see the emails)! And for example, having been planning a trip for awhile to Borneo (it's a "bucket list" thang... don't ask, LOL)! But if I hear one more id-jut in my age group try to tell me ALL about it, 'cuz they "read it on the internet", I'm gonna take a blowgun to 'em!

Oh, and yes, am still amazed at the number of women who can't even remember to say a simple "thank you" if I spring for lunch or dinner when we first meet! Although I hear the technical name for that is they feel "entitled"!

OK, rant over....
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 7/21/2011 8:20:35 AM
I realize there are a lot of older men on the internet, especially the political persuasion variety ... but, in real life, there are a LOT of OLDER men who are not computer savy ... I've been TRYING to teach an "Intro to Facebook" class at the senior center ... a lot of men sign up for my class, want one-on-one instruction but then refuse to actually TOUCH the computer!

they say, "just walk me thru it, I'll catch on!" but won't TOUCH the computer ... remember when microwaves were just being introduced? same reasoning ... I've been asked if the computers generate radiation ... (duh ... do I LOOK like I know the answer to that?)

I was just saying trying to convey that, for someone in her 70s, she might find a bigger pond if she were to go to the local senior scene in real life ... cuz some of those old guys had something more in mind than what I was offering in my classes!

 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 7/21/2011 8:49:26 AM
Well, maybe it's just that the "computer savvy" ones don't need the classes, although the "radiation" angle is a hoot ("hey, don't wanna be messin' with my chromosomes at my age... never know, I might still want to have kids!"... LOL)!

But actually "Sex Ed" for the "geezer set" probably isn't such a bad idea, considering their now alarming rate for STD's (in the past decade, HIV cases alone have risen 500 percent among Senior Citizens)!
 Janet_Always
Joined: 12/7/2010
Msg: 22
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Posted: 7/21/2011 9:02:59 AM

but, in real life, there are a LOT of OLDER men who are not computer savy

My parents are 71 & 73. My mom dropped her computer and thought it was broken... took it in and they told her all she needed to do was turn the power switch on in the back.

Doing anything on their computer is a challenge for them and I believe they are in the majority at their age.

Senior centers and other IRL groups, cruises and volunteer organizations are much better at meeting the 70 plus group.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 7/21/2011 3:52:44 PM
I've been TRYING to teach an "Intro to Facebook" class at the senior center ...

My guess? The peeps at the Senior Centers are those who have given up. I did in-home care about a decade ago, and occasionally ended up taking my client there for lunches and whatnot. My observation? Those who were there were *not* busy with the bidness of living; rather, were winding down and waiting for death. I haven't been back since I retired. Don't expect to, either. Life is too damn much *fun*!

 Silver-Dove
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 7/22/2011 1:18:16 PM
I date men in their 70's because I am in my mid 60's.

1) I feel a survey would validate my assumptions that online dating sites such as this are far more heavily weighted in favor of younger people. There are still 70-year-olds who are not comfortable with computers.

2) Research has proven over and over that women in the dating marketplace outnumber men and that this division increases with age. Women live longer; men re-marry more quickly, etc.

3) I think at any age - and more so in the golden ages - because of #1 and #2 above - the best way to met is by doing what you enjoy. Church, walking or biking club, bingo....
 Molly Maude
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Posted: 7/24/2011 8:49:25 PM
congrats to cq43resflo1 ... for being so computer literate ...

I went to the Senior Center last night for a dance ... what first struck me was there were real, live, breathing people there who didn't have profiles accessible! no Facebook pages ... no photos ... WOW!

I was dancing with men and had NO CLUE about their marital status, whether they smoked, drank ... town they lived in ... their ages ... parenthood status ... whether they owned cars ... where they were employed/if they were employed ... no previous posts so that I knew their opinions on topics ... NOTHING!

I conducted a mini-survey ... found NO MEN at all who had access to computers, knew how to operate them, knew what Facebook was, were interested in the world wide web! oddly, they just lived ... very strange ... I wonder if they actually read books and newspapers!

real life is kinda scary compared to online ...



P.S. it was a lot of fun ... I haven't laughed that much in ages ...

and ... some of those people can really dance ...
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