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 Changing_Skies
Joined: 8/7/2010
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I've been seeing a guy pretty seriously (and exclusively according to him) for about 2 months now. We are having sex and we use a condom every single time. He's never really complained about using a condom but hs mentioned once or twice that once we get to know each other a bit better we should get tested and stop using them because the sex is better that way.

We often spend entire weekends together. 2 weeks ago we had a four day weekend and bought a 12 pack of condoms on the way to where we were going. We used 5 condoms that weekend. Last week we didnt see each other at all because we were both busy with pre-planned fourth of July weekend stuff. Like I said we were both really busy so we didn't really have as much time as normal to check in and stuff like we normally do. I have no idea what he was up to that week honestly... This friday he came to spend the weekend at my place. I was grocery shopping before he got here and he called and asked me that since I am at the store would I pick up a box because he only had 4 left and didnt know if that would be enough. I got all quiet and said "Ok, but uh, what happened to the rest, we should have more than 4". He made a joke about "his other girlfriend" and then told me that he uses condoms to jerk off sometimes because it makes the clean up easier.

I have never heard of this before! Most guys I know complain all the time about having to use condoms and just use tissues or something when whacking off. And he's even said it's better with out. I immediately wanted to call bullshit on him but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I mean if he were cheating on me and knew that I was with him when he bought the last box and how many we used together, he probably wouldn't have said anything to me and just got the condoms himself right? I would be none the wiser and he wouldnt have to explain himself. If it were one condom missing I think I would have dismissed it as he lost one or something, no big deal. But 3 is a little hard to pass over. I do generally trust him, but I have caught him in a few lies before. Nothing major but just a few details from his stories changed... Now I'm not sure if I can trust him at all...

Please guys, tell me. Is jerking off into a condom really a thing?
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 2
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/10/2011 3:30:19 PM
We are having sex and we use a condom every single time. He's never really complained about using a condom but hs mentioned once or twice that once we get to know each other a bit better we should get tested and stop using them because the sex is better that way

Be glad he is still using them with his other girlfriend.. The very SAME answer we gave you the last time you posted this very SAME question, dear..


I never asked this question.... Maybe there was a similar one that I missed. I'm sorry

Have ya been drinkin this afternoon dear? Some of us have sharp memories for weird stories like this.. Provides tons of vicarious entertainment for the Forumites..
And yes, you DID post that exact same question before.. As other long-term Forumites may also recall..
 Auguztas
Joined: 2/16/2011
Msg: 3
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/10/2011 3:31:49 PM
Hi changing skies....NO

Jerking off into a condo is not something guys do. He is not being honest with you.

If I were in your shoes right now I would be quite skeptical in deed.


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 4ms4me
Joined: 4/24/2010
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Posted: 7/10/2011 3:32:06 PM

You really needed a bunch of strangers to tell you how silly this is?

Can't really blame her for hoping it's not unheard of.
 *adventurousme57*
Joined: 3/11/2010
Msg: 5
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Posted: 7/10/2011 3:33:07 PM
Ohhh, dear. He's lying. You know he's lying. Your heart is already attached and doesn't want to believe it. Your gut knows. He didn't expect to have to account for the missing condoms. He is not as observant as you are. He gave you a quick, bizarre excuse hoping you'll fall for it.
 Changing_Skies
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 6
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/10/2011 3:37:49 PM
I never asked this question.... Maybe there was a similar one that I missed. I'm sorry I didn't surf through the thread enough. My bad. But thank you for your replies.

And yeah, we aren't really at the point where we are like committed to a future together so I guess if he's messing around on me, it's good it's protected.
 Timj53
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 7
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/10/2011 3:41:50 PM
From a guys point of view here, I can tell you that I have never used a condom to masterbate with. I can tell you that I have thought about it though, just curious about the feeling. Actually right now I am thinking about doing just that since I have not been sexually active for quite some time and have not used one in a long time either, seeing someone currently and can see using "protection" is in the near future for me but other than that reason I never would think of it.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 7/10/2011 3:43:57 PM
Not unless he has shown in other ways that he is Obsessive Compulsive. I've never even HEARD of the idea of 'jerking off into condoms' before, either. That would actually be MESSIER to deal with, I would think.
Had he asked you to pick up extra tube socks for him, that might have made sense. Very sorry.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 9
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Posted: 7/10/2011 3:49:19 PM
Sorry, OP, he's feeding you BS.

I hope he's on his way to being your EX-"boyfriend" by now, or that you know that you are sharing him with at least one other. In that case, be sure to keep using the condoms.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 7/10/2011 3:52:34 PM

Please guys, tell me. Is jerking off into a condom really a thing?


It is possible, for the reasons he has listed, but it is not common.

I understand your concern, and suggest that talking to him would either eliminate your doubts, or solidify your doubts. This is a factor in any relationship. If you don't trust him now, will you in the future?
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 7/10/2011 4:20:23 PM
when someone says they have a 'pack a day ' habit they are not talking about punching the clown or doing the five knuckle shuffle.

I have never heard of such nonesence, but I am betting if you look through some of the porn sites you might find an example of it.........

yep, there were two; out of the entire internet of perversion.
 warren_book
Joined: 7/2/2011
Msg: 12
Guys, Have you ever done this? Should I believe my boyfriend?
Posted: 7/10/2011 4:24:25 PM

Please guys, tell me. Is jerking off into a condom really a thing?

Yes. If the guy is a connoisseur of jerking off and likes to mix things up or wanted to try something new because he hasn't had sex for a long time and can't remember how bad it feels to have a condom on.

If he jerks off constantly, hasn't been in a relationship for a long long long long time, has trouble having sex and ejaculating, then I'd say yes, it's plausible.
Otherwise, no, it's stupid.

You would think he'd come up with a better excuse.
i.e. I gave some to my buddy. Some must have fallen out of the box when I got home. I was just fvcking around and made some water balloons I threw at my buddies. I am in a drag show and I fill them with sand and make them into boobs. I stretched some out to see how far they would go. I tried to do that howie mandell rubber glove trick. I thought some looked like they had pin holes in them, are you trying to get me to knock you up?


I have never heard of this before!

I know there's been at least four forums started asking this exact same question because of this exact same excuse and the woman didn't believe or trust her guy.
And I saw at least one where the extras were in the woman's drawer and she said it made clean up of her toys easier.
No one ever came back and updated on whether it was true or not.
 Changing_Skies
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 13
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Posted: 7/10/2011 4:34:31 PM

If he jerks off constantly, hasn't been in a relationship for a long long long long time, has trouble having sex and ejaculating, then I'd say yes, it's plausible.


He does have quite the sex drive. I can't really say what his "solo time" habits are because we don't live together but I can say, the boy likes his sex. And it really kind of came as a surprise to me because I would have never suspected him of cheating before this incident. He doesn't really have the time, I mean unless of course he's lying to me about all the stuff he does during the week when he's actually sticking it to some other chick... but I don't want to be that girl that gets all super suspicious like that. lol. At least not without a smoking gun of a reason.

And no, he doesn' have trouble having sex. We go at it like bunnies, but there have been a few times that he couldn't finish the deal. Maybe 4 times? And 3 out of those 4 times he was drunk so I thought that was the deal. I dunno. I'm really not sure how all of this works....
 Changing_Skies
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 14
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Posted: 7/10/2011 4:46:11 PM

He was not counting on you to keep track of the condoms, which is why he asked you to buy more. If he'd thought for a minute you'd kept count of the rubbers,


Well see, when we bought them he was the one that said "We have 12 romps out of this". So he should have known! But I guess some people aren't all that bright..
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/10/2011 4:47:14 PM
This is why the condoms stay in my nightstand, honestly.

You would think he'd come up with a better excuse.
i.e. I gave some to my buddy. Some must have fallen out of the box when I got home. I was just fvcking around and made some water balloons I threw at my buddies. I am in a drag show and I fill them with sand and make them into boobs. I stretched some out to see how far they would go. I tried to do that howie mandell rubber glove trick. I thought some looked like they had pin holes in them, are you trying to get me to knock you up?

LMAO!
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
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Posted: 7/10/2011 4:50:43 PM
Anything's possible. Difficult to imagine if he's getting real sex on a regular basis . But who knows? If he does have "quite the sex drive" as you say, maybe he just doesn't want stains everywhere in his room.
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 17
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Posted: 7/10/2011 4:58:17 PM
Dang if you lived in another state I would think you are dating my ex...that was his excuse! Same reason..the mess was contained...
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 7/10/2011 4:59:58 PM
warren book :

This is the most funniest exrated message I have ever heard.... Hey, it could happen ,or the BF of the OP is selling the condom in the corner where the trickster are hanging out, to some Johns for Blowjob.....
 destructodave
Joined: 4/18/2009
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:01:35 PM
I've done it before a few times I don't see the big deal. To me, its a waste of money so I dont make it a habit, but it actually feels more real then just using your hand, and there is no mess.

Been a long time since I wasted some on that. How did he answer? If he didnt sound panicked then IMO hes telling the truth. Guys use all kinds of crap. I personally just wing it 99% of the time without porn, while some guys cant do it without porn.

People use socks, different objects, soap, lotion, whatever. Its not unheard of, and if your stuck using condoms all the time, it feels more like sex then just wailing away with a dry man hand.

So dont panic. He's just different.
 Changing_Skies
Joined: 8/7/2010
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:02:29 PM

Dang if you lived in another state I would think you are dating my ex...that was his excuse! Same reason..the mess was contained...


And you caught him? Or just couldn't trust that?
 tizzabelle
Joined: 8/20/2010
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:05:04 PM
Okay, I get to be the odd one out. I know of a guy that jerks off with a condom.
 destructodave
Joined: 4/18/2009
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:06:30 PM
Also, if you make it a big jealous issue of how he likes to masturbate, and accuse him of cheating, its gonna become a huge issue.

Maybe he is maybe he isnt. To me if he didnt hesitate one bit when he answered you, then hes truthful.
 viper1j
Joined: 11/30/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:12:11 PM

I got all quiet and said "Ok, but uh, what happened to the rest, we should have more than 4". He made a joke about "his other girlfriend"


How "exclusive" do you really expect to be, if you're using condoms anyway? Sounds like neither one of you wants to commit, and if that's the case, then why do you care where the other ones went?
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 24
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:14:12 PM
And you caught him? Or just couldn't trust that?
Logic dictates that the guy is telling you the truth. Just think it through and you will find it's the only thing that makes any sense.

He called you to buy more condoms. Was totally upfront with you about how many was left. It's not like you counted the condoms and started quizzing him about where the other condoms went.

Guys who are cheating will usually buy their own condoms to stop from putting themself is situations that they can't talk their way out of. Don't think for a second the guy don't remember buying condoms with you on your last visit and how many you used together. Guys remember things like that. No way in hell he is cheating and would actually be stupid enough to call you to pick up more. He called you to get condoms because he has nothing to hide.

Actually if you go into the sex and dating section and read some masturbation threads you will find that guys do this often enough for it to not be such a big deal.
 RockMansreturn
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 7/10/2011 5:16:49 PM
I remember listening to a preacher as he tried to explained how sex is just using anothers body to masturbate with to a large group of teenagers.

Maybe your boyfriend heard the same sermon.




~Rock Man~
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