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 DrDoc89
Joined: 4/30/2011
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Hey there plenty of fish members my name is Tommy. I'm having some conversation issues and need a little insight from a female. Anyways my question is what should I say to a girl who's losing intrest and I'm running out of things to talk about? I'm having this problem alot. So please can I get any suggestions, anything will do.
 Vamperella
Joined: 4/27/2010
Msg: 2
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Posted: 7/13/2011 9:33:10 PM
I'm pretty sure DrDoc...that the girls have provided plenty of fodder for you on which you can respond with, if, as you say...your creative genius is a little on the unimaginative side. There are a million things you can begin a discussion and go off on tangents with. Read or watch the news for a start and inform yourself of what's happening outside DrDocs world
 motown cowgirl
Joined: 6/30/2010
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Posted: 7/14/2011 4:48:23 AM
you've got it all ass-backwards. you don't say things to a girl to keep her interested, she is interested in you because you already have interesting things to say. in other words, women are not like pinball machines where you put another coin of your fascinating insight in the slot of her ear to keep the dialog action going for YOUR immediate personal goals and entertainment.

but perhaps the somewhat abstract subtlety of this situation is too nondistinct for your linear, simplistic mechanical mind. so while you're trying to figure that out, go read a few books or something and i don't mean comic books or porn magazines, and then you will have naturally more things to talk about, because your universe of knowledge will expand along with your mental landscape.

and while you are furthering your own education and self-development, also learn how to end a conversation with a little bit of class, and to recognize and accept those points in any dialog where the ends of conversations naturally appear. because your quasi-desperate attempts to keep tossing words at girls so they will stay and talk to you will never work. "running out of things to talk about" means exactly that. conversation is over, good bye.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
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Posted: 7/14/2011 5:03:38 AM
^Mo is right.

If you have to have continuous conversation to want to be in the same room.........

Good bye.

In fact if you have to always talk. GO AWAY.

Can't we just sit in a room , listen to some music or NOTHING and be content a little while?

Other than that.."SALE AT MACY'S......lets go!!"
 Spider_MacGyver
Joined: 6/11/2011
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Posted: 7/14/2011 5:18:22 AM
^^what Mo don't know, you don't need to know.
Read what she said and do it. (And never EVER mess with her CHAIRS)

Seriously, read books. Maybe start reading up on all that goes into food preparation because being a chef is harder than it looks.

If though what you mean by "conversation" is the first few emails here on POF then ask to meet in person before you run out of stuff to type.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 7/14/2011 9:39:01 AM
If a woman is interested in you, you will not run out of things to talk about. If you run out of things to talk about, stop talking to her.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 7/14/2011 5:22:32 PM
Another way to think about what EVERYONE is saying is, that the reason you have run out of things to say, is that YOU have run out of interest IN HER.

She's losing interest in you, because you haven't BEEN recognizing and interacting with what she IS all about.

So yes, the thing to do is, to say thank you for your time, excuse yourself, and walk away like real gentlemen do. Don't come back until you ARE actually interested in HER, and not just in what she can do FOR YOU.
 Rozewater
Joined: 10/4/2010
Msg: 8
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Posted: 7/14/2011 6:00:18 PM
Not sure why you want to pursue someone losing interest, but how abou t being honest and saying I sense you are losing interest, why and any chance of getting it back. shrug
 mysteriosa
Joined: 5/19/2006
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Posted: 7/14/2011 6:33:47 PM
Ask her about herself, her life, her likes/dislikes, her family, friends and so on. If she's losing interest, she's losing interest for a reason. This could be because you are doing all the 'talking' and not asking her anything or 'listening' properly to the responses or it could be she has decided that you two are not compatible so she is responding minimally and fading away. If it's the latter, there's nothing you can do. If it's the former, she'll probably be pleased you are starting to show an interest in her rather than doing what lots of guys do and just talking about themselves.
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