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 lowell_3900
Joined: 3/28/2011
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any of you guys use PUA or sarging , mystery method , The Game method to meet and pick up girls to get dates
sarging and pua is getting big now. just gooigle it
if so i like to hear from you and ur success from it. does it work
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 2
any guys do sarging or pua tactics
Posted: 7/17/2011 9:31:36 PM

i like to hear from you and ur success from it. does it work

IF I was 20 and she was 20 and stupid, it might just work occasionally..
Feel free to try it at your local bars, come back and inform us of your results..
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 7/18/2011 7:49:01 AM
lonewolf, they are all about viewing women exclusively as sex objects, even sex objectives. Google the terms for clarification.

OP, for a guy to come on here and tell you he's been using those tricks to get laid, will require him to publish that he's a selfish jerk, and restrict himself to women who only themselves want to get seduced and dumped. I know that there ARE guys who post here, who are egotistical enough to openly talk about thinking badly of the women they are after, but I'll bet that you'd be MUCH better off trying to locate your own local chapter of such "Pick Up Artists," and compare notes with them.

Why ANYONE would want to go that way is beyond my sensibilities.
 The_Song
Joined: 5/21/2008
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Posted: 7/18/2011 9:34:45 AM
like everyone says here, they work, the problem is that building a relationship based on lies and deception is like building a castle on sand, the foundation isn't stable and it will crumble. For short relationships and flings its fine and works perfectly. One suggestion i have for it is just use the approach part to get the woman attention, and then just be yourself. That way its pretty useful to get the woman attention and the rest is up to you. Then again it could be different from people to people.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 11/17/2015 9:06:20 AM
Things have been a little boring lately. Probably due to many, many of the interesting posters being deleted. So, doing my part, stirring up the pot if you will:



More than anything, the pickup artist’s legacy has been in changing the way men think about women, and in giving men the boldness and confidence they need to engage with women. Being “in the game” means dealing, for better or worse, with real live members of the opposite sex, and for many, that alone can lead to a transformation. It helps us look past surface appearances, however sexy, to the real woman. And it teaches us never to blame a woman if an interaction goes badly.

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I’ve met many men who have never had a girlfriend. Several of them who are well into their 30s have never had sex. The standard dating advice—usually dished out by attractive women who have plenty of choice when it comes to sex and dating—almost always falls flat with them. It’s like they’re speaking a different language. How can you change the way you communicate with a woman when your sole experience of women outside your mother’s house has been in online porn or in girls whom you pass on campus?



http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-legacy-of-the-game-a-book-about-pickup-artists-knts/#sthash.l95aC8Ht.dpuf
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 11/17/2015 9:27:46 AM
Mystery mentioned, in his book and the Game, that looks matter--average looking men, he said, had to accept what they got. His tactics worked well in Las Vegas and Sunset Strip and other "See and be seen" nightclubs attracting a certain type of gal who reacted to not getting the attention she came to get. Once he went home to Toronto, he couldn't get a date in normal places. Also, he's such a narcissist, whenever Psychology Today or a magazine like it does an article on narcs in dating, they mention him.

Will a tall, attractive man who is confident about himself and not throwing himself at women get laid? oh yeah. but the relationships in the Game always fell apart, even among the men working there (and made the place seem like a Sorority House from Hell, which likely also made a certain type of woman feel comfortable around them. Courtney Love felt right at home, is she all that stable?)
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
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Posted: 11/18/2015 8:20:51 AM

but the relationships in the Game always fell apart, even among the men working there (and made the place seem like a Sorority House from Hell


I think you nailed on the head.

The problem is that they take some basic evolutiony psycology principles and distort them to get bimbos at night clubs.
I think you can find much better and valuable material, if you know where to look for here in the forums than any of the stuff they did.

When your goal is not just to pick up a girl, but to find a meaningful long term relationship with a woman, your tactics have to be different.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 11/18/2015 12:32:41 PM

The problem is that they take some basic evolutiony psycology principles and distort them to get bimbos at night clubs.

Nothing wrong with that in principle -- they can be a tasty treat. :)

I think you can find much better and valuable material, if you know where to look for here in the forums than any of the stuff they did.

I think that's the concept of the book -- that there are exceptions, guys who employ it can be douchebags, etc etc -- but the core concept works, whether one likes to believe it or not. Many women don't as it can make one feel Weak as if they're falling for an "act". But one has to remember: Almost all guys-approaching-girl, adjusting their tie, thinking what to say, angling things here and there, etc -- are doing an "act". Human interaction with strangers to pick them up is going to be an "act" in some sense. All the main concept of The Game is, is what works and what doesn't, despite what general society says.

When your goal is not just to pick up a girl, but to find a meaningful long term relationship with a woman, your tactics have to be different.

Not necessarily. To pick up a girl doesn't have to be a Hail Mary pass down field where she'll either run home with you right then, bang, and never talk again OR be turned off. I think it affects WHO you target to pick up if you're looking to actually DATE a girl vs pork-n-leave... like you'll approach less women. You won't approach the hot blonde with her b00bs busting out of her way-too-small tshirt and a miniskirt that's only 3 inches long. But I think it's the type of girl, the environment, the surroundings, etc -- that play more a role in picking up a girl... because picking her up is about garnering her interest, right? What you do After you pick her up (garner her genuine interest; got her #) will differ: Convince her to go back to my place right now to pork her brains out, or buy her another drink, enjoy more conversation, and talk about a nice dinner date that you'll take her out to, etc.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
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Posted: 11/18/2015 1:20:25 PM

DATE a girl vs pork-n-leave


I find this term, Norwegian, funny as hell. "Paper or plastic" "Disposable vs washable" "Trash vs recycle"

I don't disagree with anything you said. The difference is that some of the negging techniques go overboard, and while they may get you a nicely drunk college softmore, they are not going to work on a woman that has passed the bar and it's an assistant DA.

Also, while you are learning "game" you pretty much fake it until you make it, eventually you have to internalize what you've learned and just be you. In that respect, I've leaned a hell of a lot more that applies to life and your pursuits from books like Dale Carnagie and Napoleon Hill, than any of the PUAs.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/18/2015 4:21:27 PM
I don't know about PUA, but damn, the Kona district in Hawaii has some fine coffee!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 11
Pork-n-leave? I think i'm having that for Thanksgiving
Posted: 11/18/2015 5:56:40 PM
in theory, if a fellow finds what works to pick up bimbos who want to get laid, and the resulting "gain" gives him not an STD but a level of confidence, AND gets his mind to clear of the "iwannagetlaid" repeating message....he might then graduate to deeper relationships. and some of those PUA coaches, as they get married, seem to be selling that new message.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 12
Pork-n-leave? I think i'm having that for Thanksgiving
Posted: 11/18/2015 8:36:34 PM

in theory, if a fellow finds what works to pick up bimbos who want to get laid, and the resulting "gain" gives him not an STD but a level of confidence, AND gets his mind to clear of the "iwannagetlaid" repeating message....he might then graduate to deeper relationships. and some of those PUA coaches, as they get married, seem to be selling that new message.


And holly sh it dude. Everyone eventually tries to grow up. So you're so right. What an awesome statement.
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Posted: 11/25/2015 1:48:12 AM

any of you guys use PUA or sarging , mystery method , The Game method to meet and pick up girls to get dates
sarging and pua is getting big now. just gooigle it
if so i like to hear from you and ur success from it. does it work


Of course it works. It's more subtle than you think it is though. The core concept is to give value instead of taking value. It can as simple as preparing an interesting story about yourself to share when you meet someone or go on a date. It isn't all magic pick up lines. You actually have to improve yourself and get over your own insecurities to be congruent as a confident man.
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