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 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
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So I went over my boyfriends house last night. I'm 26 and he's 38 btw.


We see eachother 2 to 3 times a week. I like to have sex most of the time when we see eachother.

Why does it say in your profile you live together and the above question say's other wise. I think we should start from a base line if you are looking for true accurate advice.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/22/2011 5:30:35 AM
Works outside in the 100 degree heat and you expect him to have energy leftover everynight to make love to you?


Putting on a pretty bra and panties in "initiating" sex??

How about morning sex when he's not so worn out........and......
how about you actually do something besides just show up in a pretty bra?
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
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Posted: 7/22/2011 6:08:42 AM
Haha, I see you removed the profile picture with the guy in it and changed your profile.

So, I guess this lame guy who can't satisfy you is toast.

It seems as if you have some growing up to do. Other human beings are not just there to gratify our every desire as soon as it arises. They have their own feelings and needs, which may at times conflict with our own.

That's where communication comes in. But as long as you're in a mindset where you end every relationship at the first sign of not being instantly gratified, you don't have much hope of finding anything lasting and worthwhile.
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/22/2011 6:54:49 AM
Haha, I see you removed the profile picture with the guy in it and changed your profile.

So, I guess this lame guy who can't satisfy you is toast.

I also see the profile pictures have been changed as well from my first post where I picked up on it right away. I don't know if the guy is toast but something is not right here or someone does not want someone else to know something.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/22/2011 7:04:22 AM
It's hot outside.
In fact I ended up with heat stroke the other day.
Do you really think that I would want sex with heat stroke?

You are still young my dear and have a lot of maturing to do.

btw ... from your last thread ...


I only logged on to here to get some advice and will delete my profle shortly after I get some help.


You don't seem particularly in sync with this guy, and the age difference is quite large.
I believe the mentality/maturity level must be also.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/22/2011 7:25:45 AM
I don't think your question has anything to do with age, but with expectations and lifestyles.

You want more sex out of this guy? You are going to have to try something different. Initiate some times. Do it in the morning.

Also realize that this guy may be rather simple when it comes to these things. He wants to get home, eat dinner and watch a baseball game and go to sleep.

The best thing you can do is talk to him. Ask him what does he like? How often does he like it? The real number, because guys can tell you, yeahh, every day, then when they get it every day, they start to withdraw because it losses the sense of adventure and it becomes too routine. So get a real number. Then point blank ask him, if he is interested in ALSO pleasing you. What would he think is fair that HE should do? Make him come up with his own ideas. Ask him also, what is his fantasies (within the monogamous relationship).

For instance, my ex liked me to have multiple orgasms, but after one orgasm, I had to wait. It didn't happened instantly, so eventually she discovered that if she talked to me and told me of the different places we could go and do it, suddenly I got an erection. Weird, but it worked. She then got what she wanted.

Also be aware that SEX is the Canary in the coal mine. Many times when the sex is going downhill is not because of the sex, or lack of attraction, but rather that there are other emotional needs that are not being met in other areas.
 1osubuckeye
Joined: 1/12/2011
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/22/2011 3:34:44 PM
It's hotter than **** outside. If I'm working a day outside, I want to drink about 5 gallons of fluids and crash.......end of thread.

Go bang him when he wakes up in the morning....far better time.
 no_1_bby
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Posted: 7/23/2011 6:01:21 AM

Putting on a pretty bra and panties in "initiating" sex??



Your idea of initiating sex is to wear nice UNDERwear?


Was thinking the same thing. If I expected sex every time I put on a pretty bra and panties.. I'd never leave home.


Honey, initiating sex would be to start caressing him and kissing on him or better yet, drop to your knees and undo his pants and go from there...but how is wearing sexy underwear INITIATING anything?

This would work... after he's had a cold drink and a shower and some downtime for himself.
 1osubuckeye
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Posted: 7/23/2011 8:56:37 AM
I find the sex drive in ages besides the onset of puberty, is more of a psychological factor more so than a hormonal one. Teens are experimental and have a little more umph and hormones for the onset and development. After that, it all varies dependent on lifestyle, peer relationship status(others dating/being married) and pressure, and ability to procure a child/lack of estrogen production(late 30s/early 40s women). After menopause and decrease in testosterone production in men, then obviously a whole slew of things changes but before that point, it's not quite as related to hormone levels as we might think. Ironically, some post-menopausal women can increase their sex drive due to decreased estrogen production and slightly increased testosterone production and DHEA based sex hormone production creating a sex drive similar to male's.
 interloper555
Joined: 2/22/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2011 7:33:06 PM
familerarty breeds comptempt
smash his car up buy him a mountain bike ,gets the blood circulating properly
this worked for me my**** like a iron bar made of viagra
 Christolicious
Joined: 5/13/2011
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/23/2011 9:35:38 PM
Generally speaking, if a man or woman is active, plays a sport, runs, gets their heart rate up to 120 or so for extended periods several times per week, there's no reason why they their sex drive wouldn't be as high as it was when they were 20. Women go through different physical changes as they age, obviously, more so than men, but regular exercise will keep the body ready (and willing) for sex.

I do a bit of running, more so in the past few years, and I've noticed a significant increase in both ability and drive. No two people are exactly the same, but seeing the difference in how I feel every day is enough reason for me to keep running until I'm 70, 80 - until I take the Big Dirtnap.

Cheers!

Chris
 Red Fish GF
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/24/2011 12:29:21 PM
Janet Always
Being loving in general is the best way to initiate intimacy (maybe sex, maybe not), not feeling pouty because he doesn't perform as you were hoping.


OP
What do you think is going on? Guys Is there ever Reason you don't wanna have sex? What advice do you have?


Enjoy spending time with your SO doing things besides having sex. Show you care about the person. Sometimes I'm not feeling well or my SO is too tired from working all day to have sex. Neither one of us gets upset or feels rejected. We just spend time cuddling together.

Don't you usually wear a matching bra and panty? How is that initiating sex?

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Were laying in bed, relaxing and watching tv. I wanted to have sex And was tired of waiting for him to initiate it, so I decided to. so I wore a sexy bra and panty set under my clothes and basically still, he didn't initiate sex or jump all over me.


LilliMarleen
Haha, I see you removed the profile picture with the guy in it and changed your profile.

So, I guess this lame guy who can't satisfy you is toast.

It seems as if you have some growing up to do. Other human beings are not just there to gratify our every desire as soon as it arises. They have their own feelings and needs, which may at times conflict with our own.

That's where communication comes in. But as long as you're in a mindset where you end every relationship at the first sign of not being instantly gratified, you don't have much hope of finding anything lasting and worthwhile.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 7/24/2011 8:51:40 PM
I know he works in the heat all day and its been about 100 everday this week. So I'm hoping he's jut not in the mood cause he's beat.


Hon, you go spend 8 hours working in 100°F heat for a few days and then come back and tell us about it.

Pay attention to what those other folks said. Let the guy take a nap. Bring him something cool to drink. Give him a soothing rubdown.

And don't expect him to read your mind. And learn how to initiate sex.
 wayfarer4you
Joined: 3/24/2009
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Posted: 7/24/2011 9:20:04 PM
YAHNNNN,
I could see why he would rather sleep or do something other then make made monkey love to you !!!
But your question is one for the mass's so here it go's
A- hell no still sporting wood after all these years .
B- 3 to 4 times a day if my lover wants to have a go
C-each day of the week (again depends on my lover) but if not at least 2 times with her and theres always tossing off 2.5 times a day ( the .5 is just to tease myself)
As to whats up hmmm reread your post and ask yourself "would you do yourself !!
JUST SAING IS ALL !!!!
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
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does your sex drive decrease with age, cause we dont have as much as anymore....what do you think?
Posted: 7/26/2011 6:36:16 AM
I'm older and as just as horny as I was as a teen. I realize testosterone is supposed to decrease with age, so can't explain it. We had a women in her early seventies who was the neighborhood "scandal" who was propositioning just about every man who came close to her. The mailman, salesmen, neighbors, etc. Everything I've read said estrogen drops dramatically after menopause, yet have met older women who were hot to trot. Met a women who used a vaginal creme containing estrogen, who said that creme made her horny as hell. That would make sense.
 jblack187
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Posted: 7/26/2011 6:39:54 AM
Yea, there's times when I don't want to have sex. My last girlfriend lived with me for a little while, so I had that feeling often. But once she started taking initiative I would be all for it.

Next time he "doesn't jump all over you" just do it to him. Pull it out for him and do what needs to be done. It shouldn't take long for him to be in the mood then.
 TooShadows
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Posted: 7/27/2011 4:52:21 PM
I don't thinmk age has anything to do with it in this case. Yeah,heat like that will tire a guy out,and sometimes all you want to do is kick back and do nothing strenuous.

Then again,a rest and a shower can work wonders. If you want sex,why not get naked and invite him into the shower? That could raise the dead sometimes. I work construction too,and there's been times after a long hard day when sex is the last thing on my mind. Then my girlfriend comes in naked,turns on the shower and asks if I'm in the mood for a shower and sex. I haven't turned her down yet.
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