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 KAKI3152
Joined: 5/24/2008
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In the last year I've been on one date and it was pretty much a disaster. The woman was late, rude through out the date and we parted with no further plans to contact each other. She let me know early on that I was not her type.

Still have hopes,though...
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
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Posted: 8/8/2011 6:30:27 PM
Almost 6 years and only one woman dated (multiple dates), but she was a scammer and eventually tried to extort me. I've been stood up 4 times in a row (in 2007-8), and I've also cancelled a date with another woman I met on here who turned out to be an escort (which I figured out after she gave me her phone # two days before we would meet). This place is not much more than a scam, but I keep my profile open in the event that an honest woman just happens by. In 5 years, I'd say I contacted 500+ women, although my contacts list only shows about 200 because all the others have since closed their accounts. I have also caused about 20 accounts of "escorts" to be closed on here by reporting them.

I've had more success on Match and craigslist, despite the latter being the sewer of the Internet. However, with CL, I met both honest people and one hooker (not intentionally). In 2011, the only dates I have gone on came from meeting via Match. CL is almost all scammers now.
 Crymson89
Joined: 6/16/2010
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Posted: 8/8/2011 7:55:40 PM
I've been on Zero dates. Something tells me I'm not doing something right.

Also have gotten Zero numbers.

Excuse me if I don't pity you because you've only gotten 10 dates and 100 numbers. I've contacted at least 100 females, so, eh. I'm pretty sure I've contacted every female who I found interesting in the Sacramento area.

Can someone tell me the Male:Female ratio for this site?
 lokezter2011
Joined: 7/1/2011
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Posted: 8/17/2011 12:16:25 AM
I've only been on one.
 lokezter2011
Joined: 7/1/2011
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Posted: 8/17/2011 12:20:15 AM
I've never taken the site seriously actually. The only date I got on here was from a Milf and I had a shirtless pic (When I was in better shape ) - but now that I'm figuring out how to talk to women on here (You basically talk stupid to them) - I 'm getting more feedback.

The only problem is they're all superficial. They only respond to certain pictures, which I find hilarious. So guys, go take your best modeling pics and you'll have better luck.

I think that's it for now, more to come?
 lokezter2011
Joined: 7/1/2011
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Posted: 8/17/2011 10:22:30 AM
So how's that working out for you?

I've already gotten 3 numbers, and a lot more interest by talking "stupid"
I can send 30 messages of being nice and have no results.

or 30 messages of 'joking around' and get at least 10 responses.

Um, actually, I tried the sincere hones tapproach and it didn't work. Women on here are bombarded with 50/200 messages a day. You have to come at them differently. How intelligent/unique can women be on here when 90% of their profiles are exactly the same?

Even the way they take pictures is exactly the same. So there has to be a forumla.

hours of trial and error.
 Silkybrunette
Joined: 6/20/2010
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Posted: 8/18/2011 10:23:29 PM
I agree with msg 3. Pick up the phone and call. Texting gets you no where and it's very impersonal. Girls like a man who takes the lead.
 ArtzyWoman
Joined: 6/30/2011
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Posted: 8/28/2011 1:30:35 PM
Usually when you are interested in a woman,don't just ask for her number. Make a date right away! You will know on the first meeting if there is chemistry or not. Why waste time texting or phoning?
Woman hate the small chit chat on emailing,texting they lose interest right away.
 nightfallstar
Joined: 4/21/2009
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Posted: 9/3/2011 10:00:16 PM
Zero dates from POF. I guess the fish just aren't biting.
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
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Posted: 9/26/2011 5:55:11 PM
I've recently come to the conclusion that people turn to online dating only so they can say that they're trying without putting any effort into it. It is also an excuse to find Mr./Miss perfect and ignore everyone else who has the slightest issue, which without online dating, would at least get a first date.
 Samsara100
Joined: 9/1/2006
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Posted: 9/27/2011 2:17:45 AM
Hello,
I disagree with you regarding the male topless shots. Personally if a man as got images of himself with very few clothes on, be him buff or wobbly, i tend do think that they're mainly on here for casual hook ups & nothing else.....
Why on earth would you want to date someone who wants to get his kit off for all to see??
 afreshbeginning
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 9/27/2011 4:53:57 PM

I've gotten about 100 or so numbers through this site.


Congrats dude, I can't even get a reply on here!
 afreshbeginning
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 9/27/2011 4:56:12 PM

If you want to have 2 different dates per week, for the next 5 years, that's not hard to do. You are young, and have few responsibilities, your time is your own. The same scenario gets way more complicated as you age.
Whats your secret dude? I would be happy for 1 date a month at this rate!
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
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Posted: 9/27/2011 5:36:15 PM

Oh wait i didn't pay anything


From what I've seen and heard, paying doesn't get you anything more. The people you meet are pretty much the same mix.
 secretangel2007
Joined: 7/30/2010
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Posted: 10/16/2011 8:58:01 PM
the old timer is completely right and you sound like a moron
 MotoGPatrick
Joined: 9/5/2011
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Posted: 10/16/2011 11:27:25 PM
From POF... Zero..

I have a couple contacts and numbers. It really is schedule conflicts delaying things. I just spent this weekend in uniform at drill with no free time. I am active and busy and so are they.

From a different pay dating site. A dozen or more and it also included a couple of hmm... trial relationships where it took up to a month or more to find out why it was not right.

Eventually I see myself to be on here to try different things for my profile and after testing put them on a different site as well as for the forums.
 meksikali
Joined: 9/16/2011
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Posted: 10/25/2011 1:01:00 PM
had my 10th date this month last sunday. it was great, chemistery worked. but again no answer the next day. I guess it was my car again, going on a date with an old car makes things difficult. but come on! what do you expect? It doesn't say that I'm a rich guy anywhere on my profile. Besided I love my baby, won't sell it for any materialist btch.
 ConfidentHumbleSoul
Joined: 3/1/2009
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Posted: 10/29/2011 11:24:04 PM
I find it amazing how I tend to do so well out in the "real world," in regards to meeting new people and going on dates, but online, and especially on this site... I can't muster much more than the occasional response.

Although, like another poster noted, it can be harsh on here. I had a female respond by telling me she didn't date my kind, and I also had a female tell me she wouldn't go out with me because my career wasn't one that made money (education).

Now that I'm single again, (wasn't on here for close to two years) I think I should really put some effort and find better pictures and modify my profile. Hope that leads to a few POF dates.
 frijolera_ninja
Joined: 4/11/2011
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:12:33 PM
Met 2 guys from here, 1 im still kinda friends with even though its akward and the other guy I still talk to quite a bit. Got lots of ads for the favorites and the want to meet thingy but they never messaged me. Get quite a few texts ... and crotch shots. Not really sure whats up with the 20 something guys and that?!
 MotoGPatrick
Joined: 9/5/2011
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Posted: 11/2/2011 1:27:21 PM
I find it amazing how I tend to do so well out in the "real world," in regards to meeting new people and going on dates, but online, and especially on this site... I can't muster much more than the occasional response.


I know the feeling. I can be out around the OC and NOT in a club.. just doing my thing renting a sailboat or getting a cofee on a motorcycle ride and approach someone "P.H.A.T" (Pretty Hot And Tempting) and do quite well. Online those who email me first can be described by a similar sounding word spelled differently. Also online those that seem to be in the same league as the type I do well with IRL just don't respond.


Although, like another poster noted, it can be harsh on here. I had a female respond by telling me she didn't date my kind, and I also had a female tell me she wouldn't go out with me because my career wasn't one that made money (education).


They are a trip on here. I had one change her mind when she realized that 1/3 of my friends are Hispanic and another 1/3 are black. Most are from work where each aircraft we work on is worth hundreds of millions and we work on well over a billion dollars of fighter jets a year. I am not exactly rolling around with OG's.

I had my bikes and cars hidden for a bit and had one respond that since I am in the guard I must not have money. I clicked show on profile for those pics again and the next week after she showed up in my views she responded again with an entirely different kind of response. So I clicked block in her email.


Now that I'm single again, (wasn't on here for close to two years) I think I should really put some effort and find better pictures and modify my profile. Hope that leads to a few POF dates.


For starters loose the main pic.. Shades and a hat. A double no no..
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 12/17/2011 6:22:36 PM
None. I think that a lot of women seem to "chicken out" when someone expresses an idea to get together over a cup of coffee or something, just to get acquainted and see where it goes. Yet, these are the same ones that claim to be looking for someone to date, go "long-term", etc. Most of the people I've met - so far - were from some other sites, or just a chance encounter with someone interesting, in my locale, and had good conversations that led to a few outings.

Agreed, have had much better luck (and better "quality") dating gals I've met IRL (in real life), usually thru friends, social and volunteer groups, etc.. Dating IRL, have encountered much less of that sort of on-again/off-again "skittishness" you describe, that just seems to "come with the territory" in online dating.

No doubt there are still some "successes" here, but the "numbers" just in this thread ain't too impressive. And I also have the sense that it's the nature of online dating, with the anonymity and lack of accountability, that probably attracts more than its share of folks who don't relate so well to "real life" encounters anyway (and I have a few "interesting" stories to prove it)! Then throw in the fact this is "free" (aka, they have nothing "invested"), and I suspect the "deck" here is likely stacked with lots more folks who tell themselves they're still "players", when in fact they're really more just into "cutting bait", than actually "fishing" (...LOL)!

But "meeting" folks online, and meeting 'em IRL... IMHO, it just ain't the same thang!
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Posted: 12/17/2011 6:26:02 PM
I've been on two.

One lasted 3 years.... Hoping for a third soon :)
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 12/18/2011 8:46:41 AM
No offense, but does your previous dating experience have anything to do with why your "health condition requirements" mention the Psychiatric Manual (DSM IV and V)?
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Posted: 12/18/2011 9:44:16 AM
Haha,

I hope it doesn't read like a requirement! If it was a requirment I would expect to get many more contacts :)

Please only contact me if you have been diagnosed
 OOhMeeOhhMy
Joined: 9/17/2007
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Posted: 12/19/2011 12:02:22 PM
I have been on here for a while.... haven't used it as a dating site in over a year or so...... but back in the day.... I would say I went on probably at least 30 meets/dates.... two ended up in relationships.... one for about a year and the other for about 2 years....

you get what you put into it... when I use it to date.. I am able to find dates.... when I don't... well.... I don't....

and Aries.... I love the DSM reference......
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