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 humbergirl25
Joined: 7/26/2011
Msg: 1
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So you know how when girls are together all the time they start to get their "monthlies" at the same time? My friends and I are so close, 3 of us got dumped in the same week! lol

Our source: eVow. This site is made by POF but only for people seeking serious relationships. When my girlfriend met a seemingly amazing and genuine guy, another friend of mine and I followed suit. We all were seeing guys on a steady basis for the last few months. The site seemed to be a miracle (I know, if its too good to be true, it is. Right?). My guy was perfect, yet seemed humble enough that I had no reason to question his motives or believe he would turn into a jerk.

Not to sound bitter or like a vulnerable teenager, but we were all used for sex. In one way or another, it became all about sex. I would understand if things went south and there were issues and it just didn't work out (sh it happens).. but we all received a lovely pump-n-dump.

Has anyone else tried eVow? And how was your experience?
 MsMuscleChick
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 2
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/9/2011 5:38:46 AM
Nope. No need to be on multiple sites. In the end, people are all looking for the same thing. Why be on 2,3,4, or more sites?? Some of us have to work, use the gym and be out.

I personally feel when relationships are meant to happen, they just will. Signing up for this and for that is nerve racking.

I do not feel it is just for people looking for " serious " only. My two friends did it and still ended up meeting married men. Go figure. LOL
 Pinayto
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 3
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/9/2011 9:51:08 AM
LOL. I have o k c u p i d account. For some reason I don't have much messages as I do here. I also have not met any1 from there. So I don't go there as often as here.

What's funny is they give u links of guys that supposedly is matched with you. They sent me the guy who I just met from pof. I did not even bother messaging him. Just proves what non sense is the guy 'matches' these dating sites are telling you.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 4
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/9/2011 11:55:16 AM
So...OP, if you decide to stop dating someone can they in turn call you a phuck n chuck player?

Feelings can and do change, usually within the first 6 months. If you were enjoying sex, then no one was using you. It was a consensual thing. You took a risk, opened your heart and your legs and it didnt work out.

That is the risk every human takes by opening up.

Calling people 'players' when all that happened is things didnt go the way you wanted is a sign that you were using sex to get something, and really, that is the ultimate in game playing, in my opinion.

Own your choices, you CHOSE to have sex. If having sex has some sort of string attached for you, then you should be telling these men that if it does not work out you will be accusing them of being a player and let them decide if having sex with you is worth the headeache afterwards.

I have not tried evow, because all of the same men are on here already...and here it is free here. Being on a supposedly serious dating site does not mean the profile holder is serious. That's on each of us to determine and sometimes we get hurt. That is part of dating.
 humbergirl25
Joined: 7/26/2011
Msg: 5
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/9/2011 2:13:46 PM
Connection,

As I said, I do not making false accusations. In my case, I discovered that he was still seeing other women when I found a used condom in his toilet after I had not seen him for 3 days. I further investigated by having one of my friends message him, and sure enough, he responded to her and asked her on a date. My definition of player is someone who leads you to believe you are exclusive while he is "playing" other women as well.

The last time I saw him, I informed him I was on my period. He awkwardly made an excuse to drop me off and ignored me for 3 days (when he had been calling every day).

What would you think?
 ProcolHarem
Joined: 8/29/2008
Msg: 6
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Posted: 8/9/2011 2:18:29 PM
Nope, nor will I.
I see the same people here as I do on Match.
I get rejected by the same people here as I do on Match.
Why be rejected by those same people on another "dating" site?
 unclezeus
Joined: 5/12/2011
Msg: 7
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/9/2011 2:55:38 PM

eVow. ...turn into a jerk...we were all used for sex. ..we all received a lovely pump-n-dump.


LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.... sucker.
Really ? An eVow? And you bought into this concept as "Serious". LOL.
 Smiley_mcgee
Joined: 7/30/2011
Msg: 8
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/9/2011 3:02:42 PM

eVow. This site is made by POF but only for people seeking serious relationships.

Not really. It's made by the creator of POF for people that convince a computer via multiple choice questions in a 3 minute sign up, free, process, that they are seeking a serious relationship.

There really is no barrier to participate and no guarantee or means to check if anyone on there is any more serious than on "I-don't-care-what-your-name-is-as-long-as-you're-lubed-and-your-door's-unlocked.com."

Although the marketing is there to get you to associate "serious" and "success" with the site.

Personally, I wonder if the creator is really some sort of evil genius.
Because it's "really" just taking all the people that are easily manipulated by romantic gestures and "players" (people adept at telling you what you want to hear to get what they want) and putting them in one place. Maybe it's set aside for those with greater patience.
IMO.


Has anyone else tried eVow? And how was your experience?

Someone else brought this up in another thread (was it you?) and I signed up and saw the same people on there as on here. Mostly saying the same thing.
 gardenias2
Joined: 1/13/2011
Msg: 9
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/10/2011 3:38:01 AM
wow and no i haven't tried evow, how shocking....you seem like such a lovely young woman. awesome guys should be lined up to date you and treat you well. and not only you but your friends too. grrrrrrrr....... playas are losers!!! i wish they would all self-destruct.

don't be sad for too long the world is full of good guys too. look for them in the real world. my experience with online dating just doesn't compare to real life. sorry for your loss.
 totalazzhole
Joined: 3/27/2011
Msg: 10
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/10/2011 9:08:04 AM
this often happens to women who wear tongue rings..guys think of them as "easy" I'm afraid.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 11
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/10/2011 11:57:49 AM

Connection,

As I said, I do not making false accusations. In my case, I discovered that he was still seeing other women when I found a used condom in his toilet after I had not seen him for 3 days. I further investigated by having one of my friends message him, and sure enough, he responded to her and asked her on a date. My definition of player is someone who leads you to believe you are exclusive while he is "playing" other women as well.

The last time I saw him, I informed him I was on my period. He awkwardly made an excuse to drop me off and ignored me for 3 days (when he had been calling every day).

What would you think?


I think as soon as you saw the used condom, (if you were led to believe you were exclusive) it would be 'game over'...yet you kept him thinking you were still seeing him long enough to have a friend contact him and tell him you are on your period? Soon as I saw that condom, he'd have to have my size 7.5 surgically removed from his arse and I would NEVER allow him to contact me again. End of story. No further games of having friends contact him or divulging that I had my period.

All I was saying is this-own your choices. Had he turned out to be a decent guy you would NOT be regretting having sex with him. So dont regret it now. There is nothing to regret. Own your choices and do not have sex with anyone unless you can honesty say that you wouldnt care if you never heard from him again....OR tell him right up front that you are only having sex with him because you want the relationship to go further and you will be devastated if he breaks your heart. Tell him to his face that having sex with you means he is exclusive to you Give him the opportunity to decide if having sex with you is worth the risk. Thats all anyone can do is to be honest about intentions.

I know many men will pretend all kinds of things to get sex...but in my experience, if you look em right in the eyes and tell them that sex means alot to you and that you will be extremely upset if you find he was 'playing you' afterwards, 99% of the time that man will move on to someone a little easier to deal with. These men do not want the drama of a woman telling others about thier games and they will usually just stop trying if they dont really intend to build a relationship with you. Emailing and texting these types of conversations makes it easy for these types of men to BS you but face to face it is alot harder for them to do it. Again, that has just been MY experience.

It took me a long time to learn that face to face is the best way to lay out expectations. Then, no one can say afterwards that they didnt understand your email or text. Face to face...you KNOW they understood what you were saying.
 Contince
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 12
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Posted: 9/24/2011 11:48:02 AM
yup iv tied it and its toatlay a waste of cyber space and timme the so called ladies r just as stuck up thear as pof . match.com ....... datehookup ,,,,,,and at least five outhers i cant seem to recall at the m iv been hooked up with all with the same end zip zero nadda (sorry your not my type ) is the most commnon turn down pase i get
 Contince
Joined: 11/1/2010
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Posted: 9/24/2011 11:50:39 AM
i think thears one called old farts.com or mabey not
 aussiesealady
Joined: 11/10/2011
Msg: 14
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 1/30/2013 9:04:51 PM
Yes have tried it and been on for a few weeks.

Complete waste of time.
Mostly the same people as on here from what I can see.

In those few weeks I have had one person make contact who is nowhere near a match.
I have not paid any money.
 The_Big_Slim
Joined: 5/11/2011
Msg: 15
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 2/1/2013 10:01:59 AM
Yep, I tried it.... went out with this woman a couple of times from there. Great girl and things heated up quickly.... but she was trying to use me to get her prego cause she isn't legal in the country. Needless to say I didn't see her after I found out the alternative motives and deleted my profile lol.
 MOWETA
Joined: 6/16/2012
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/23/2013 12:48:15 AM
Now waaaaaiiiiittt just wait a minute...We can't blame the websites that we choose for the old "pump and dump" routine....that's just what it is a actual "Routine" and most men (and some women too) seem to just have fun and really get off to the pumpin and dumpin for several reasons..........

1) they think if you look SEXY then that means you want S.E.X.
2) Men are macho and most of the time they ware a BELT with their pants and they like to make their "sex toys" another knoch in their belt and "TELL ALL ABOUT HOW THEY GOT OVER ON ONE MORE WEAK GIRL" IT'S A MAN THING YA KNOW.
3) Men have two (2) heads, yes, I said two heads and they prefer to act on the lower rather than the one with the brain in it.

i've tried and tested at least over 30-45 different website and found that they ALL can't guarantee what type of Fool or Pervert you just may get....White Collar Business Men, Doctors and Lawyers can not only turn out to be a real "Strangler" a "Ax Murder Specialist" or a Kidnaper Rapist....and GUEST WHAT ...YOU CAN GET THAT ON OR OFF THE INTERNET....SO WHOSE TO BLAME...NOT POF, NOT EVOW OR ANY OTHER SITE. IF WE GIVE IN TO ANY ONE AND LET THEM TAKE ADVANTAGE OF US, A MATURE WOMAN OR MAN CAN ONLY BLAME OUR OWN SELVES IF WE GET HURT OR USED MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY.

THE GAME OF LIFE IS NOT TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY AND THERE ARE VICTUMS AND THEN SOME OF US MAKE OUR OWN SELVES "VOLUNTEERS"

ALICE
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 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/23/2013 7:55:06 AM
It's been a long time since I've been "used" in the pump and dump scenario.

Oh, those were the days my friend..........
 ouija2013
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/23/2013 9:14:22 AM
Ha! I HEART you Walt. :/
I wouldn't call last Weds a long time tho
 hounddoug
Joined: 3/21/2013
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/23/2013 7:22:41 PM

Have you tried eVow?


Nope and not sure if I will. From what I have heard it's the exact same folks from PoF on eVow.
 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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Posted: 8/23/2013 8:05:24 PM
Walt, you are so funny! OP-yes I did try it, plus a few other sites. Like someone said, eVow has the same people on it that are on here. In fact, All the websites I tried had the same people who are on here.
 elednuw
Joined: 1/11/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/25/2013 12:17:29 PM
Same people,same profiles.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 8/26/2013 1:40:46 AM

It's been a long time since I've been "used" in the pump and dump scenario.

Oh, those were the days my friend..........


I hear you Walts. What man complains about being used for sex? Where we draw the line is our wallet.
 hounddoug
Joined: 3/21/2013
Msg: 23
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/26/2013 9:33:13 PM

What man complains about being used for sex?


The only complaint men have is when they are NOT being used for sex.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 8/28/2013 10:31:18 AM
I have NEVER been used for sex!

I do, however, loan myself out with no fees, dues or percentages...Call me 'generous'...;)
 Debisusanne
Joined: 5/3/2011
Msg: 25
Have you tried eVow?
Posted: 8/28/2013 1:38:24 PM
after seeing this thread... I quickly "ran" over and signed up.

within hours a man from my town messaged me... He is on here also.

I did not have a pic.. and he wanted to see what i looked like..so, I sent him a link to my pof profile

Well.. then he had to run quickly.. :)) He has already seen me and rejected me weeks before..

More sites.. more rejections.. multiple times by SAME men..

Delete... tired of trying
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