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 forumfishie
Joined: 9/17/2009
Msg: 2
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Jobs aren't sexual

the person doing the job is,
a woman/men player or .........not

Of course some jobs facilitate the sexual encounters more than others:
stripper, escort, "promotional jobs" sure, DJ, bartenders in a nightclub etc.
Coincidentally the people looking to get involved in multiple"adventures" get drawn by such jobs
But I've heard of the promiscuos librarian too.........

"would a serious person ever believe that someone in such a profession can be faithful and not promiscuous?"

Again it depends on the person, some guys can be OBGYNs and never do anything innapropiate with their patients, or even think about it
Others can and would cheat anywhere with anybody, even the elderly

It's up to the person to be a $ lut about ir or not

Don't blame it on the job
Blame it on the....player!!!
 mrmisterme
Joined: 6/7/2009
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Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/9/2011 4:56:13 PM
Jobs ARE sexual....at Hooters!
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/9/2011 5:03:49 PM
This is another variation on the repeated question: WHO is responsible when someone cheats? Is it the person who does the cheating, or were they "victims" of the other person, or of circumstances, or of their insufficiently caring mate....or in THIS case, of their JOB???

People are promiscuous or not, because of who THEY are, not because of what might be AVAILABLE to them.

This doesn't mean that you might not discover that people who WANT to cheat, might well be drawn to jobs that provide more opportunities. Therefore it MIGHT be true that more people who do the sorts of work you describe are also cheaters than are normal 9-5 workers. But it's a "chicken or the egg" sort of thing. The JOB didn't make them cheat, they TOOK the job to HELP them cheat.

Therefore my answer is, NO, a job can't be considered sexual in the way you refer.
 MsMuscleChick
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 5
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/9/2011 5:06:01 PM
People are sexual , not the job. I bar tended in the strip club industry off and on...the money was OFF the chain ...and I not one time got naked or slept with ANYONE who came in. Some of us are able to work, only work and go home.

A slut is a slut, no matter where they work.
 1bellanella
Joined: 1/24/2010
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Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/9/2011 5:24:08 PM
Sure, being a hooker is a sexual profession.
 mrmisterme
Joined: 6/7/2009
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Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/9/2011 5:31:24 PM
I used to be too sexy for my job....
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 8
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/9/2011 5:34:16 PM
If ya are gonna screw around, you will screw around. I used to think that most people "grow"out of it, but I'm finding, no, they really don't. Kinda thinking that yeah, the values they picked up early are gonna stick with them the rest of their lives.

I know one female(used to call her friend) that has the uncanny ability to forget about her SO(at the time) who is sitting at home waiting for her or a phone call, and discovering a new potential, somewhere,somehow. I thought she would learn by now, but obviously she hasn't and she won't. Too many good ones have walked away from her, but the shiat stays close, treating like a princess mind you. Oh, her job has squat to do with her actions. It's her. Not him,not them,not her job.

She whines a lot to.Usually after the shiat starts to smell.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 8/9/2011 6:13:37 PM
I had a GF in college that used to do promotional work for beer and suntan lotion companies, she got hit on constantly and was expected to flirt shamelessly. It was part of the job. But she worked her ass off and never gave out her phone #. She was there to work, hand out free samples and give away tee shirts. She always came home alone.
But it was an issue with every guy she dated, people want their partner home at night.
 Gashlycrumb_Briny
Joined: 9/26/2010
Msg: 10
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Posted: 8/9/2011 6:52:23 PM

Promotional jobs


According to your profile, you own a promotions company - is this your first day on the job? Marketing isn't about giving someone a chance to have sex, it's about creating the illusion that they have a chance to have sex. If they buy your product, of course.

If your promotional employees are having sex with your customers, um...I think that would make you a pimp.
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 11
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/9/2011 7:07:53 PM
Most people who work in the night life profession go out a lot less than people who don't.
Cheating can happen anywhere, if a person is approached and does not have the power to say, wait a minute, this might really cause harm to everyone involved than it won't matter where it is. It is about what is going on inside of the cheater.
 Smiley_mcgee
Joined: 7/30/2011
Msg: 12
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Posted: 8/9/2011 7:33:20 PM

Promotional jobs that deal with the night life industry, would a serious person ever believe that someone in such a profession can be faithful and not promiscuous?

Sure. I remember your other thread too.
But if they don't like the nightlife, if they don't like to boogie, why would they be attracted to a guy that seems to make it his life and interests?

To me this thread is like saying (or whining) "I'm a priest, I set up social events, and am always on call for my parishioners, why can't I find a nice non religious anti social introvert? They always think I'm going to be preachy, and judgmental, and always around people. I'll bet it's because they are all "really" just promiscuous unstable whores that can't be trusted."
 808md
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 13
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Posted: 8/9/2011 7:40:54 PM

the promiscuos librarian


lol...now that is hot...always had a thing for librarians...
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/9/2011 7:45:29 PM
It aint the game, it's the playa!
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/10/2011 11:29:01 AM

Point in mind, Promotional jobs that deal with the night life industry, would a serious person ever believe that someone in such a profession can be faithful and not promiscuous? I would love to know what the general public believes!


Personally, even though I know a few folks in the night industry who are straight shooters...thier coworkers and customers are not always the same. The people they work with LOVE to stir the pot and try on purpose to make any woman in these guys lives jealous.

The ladies they work with love taking messages and making sure NOT to hand them in...or try to say things to these guys lady friends that leave them guessing as to what is going on...causing trouble. They start rumours that are unfounded..basically do anything they can to keep them single because these guys are pretty good looking.

These guys cannot do much about it, because they have to work with these ladies...so although I know they would not cheat on anyone I wouldnt touch them with a 10 foot pole because I have zero patience for people who try to make people jealous and create false innuendos-and if he is stuck with them, then eventually it is going to rub me the wrong way and I prefer to keep things simple.

I feel bad actually for these guys because of the sterotypes attached to thier jobs as bartenders, they love thier jobs, they love the money they make but the headaches that goes with having catty coworkers/customers is too much for a sane woman like me to handle. lol
 NonamousDog
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 17
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/10/2011 11:47:52 AM
It's not the job itself, it's how closely a person has to account for his time.

Realtors, lawyers and truck drivers (probably others I'm forgetting) have reputations as jobs that attract the sexually promiscuous. But it's not the job, or the people attracted to those jobs, it's the fact that people in those jobs are less accountable for their time and whereabouts during the work day that lets them screw around.

We all have temptations, but if you clock into an 8 hour a day factory job, there's a third of your total time when you probably won't "getting any". (Unless you "do" one of your co-workers in the tool crib or break room)
 636racer
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/10/2011 12:49:32 PM
I know some engineers who get pretty busy with coed co-workers and engineering doesn't seem all that sexy, unless you are a gold digger because there's some money in it.

I'm not a cheater, I worked the door at a strip club and didn't cheat and I've been overseas for work and didn't cheat so I imagine if I was a promoter I wouldn't cheat either. However, a guy could be mowing lawns or a cashier at Walmart, if he's a cheater he'll find a way.

There are probably some women out there who find your job sexy because it means if they're with you they might get VIP treatment at their favorite club. However, if you are looking for an inteligent woman she's less likely to give a damn what you do for a living as long as you pay your own bills and have enough respect for her to not decive her in any way or cheat on her.
 SpiderKIllerJeff
Joined: 3/9/2010
Msg: 19
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/10/2011 4:29:03 PM
I've worked in night clubs for 7 years as a doorman. I've always talked to any girlfriend I've had about my work and have stayed faithful to them throughout. Just because a person decides to work in a particular job doesn't mean you can't trust them to stay faithful. But you either trust them or you don't. Often it's your own trust issues that get the best of you.

People don't trust or are skeptical about service industry people because of stereotyping that has always come from it. Sure some of it happens, but it's the person doing the job that chooses what path they take while they do it.
 sugarandspice465
Joined: 7/10/2011
Msg: 20
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/11/2011 12:16:09 AM
Using sexuality to sell something or make better tips is part of the game. There is however a line that needs to be drawn or else it's the same as prostitution.

Once you have sex with someone or do any sort of sexual favors in return for anything...you have crossed that line. If you are not in a relationship with someone then it is up to you to decide if you can live with it. If you are in a relationship...it is cheating.

Flirting, leading people on, dancing, even stripping...are not the same as having sex or kissing someone. That is where the line gets crossed.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 21
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/11/2011 1:04:27 AM

...would a serious person ever believe that someone in such a profession can be faithful and not promiscuous?

Yes, but here's what they won't believe: That you are not using your physical appeal to get money.

Because you are.

It isn't a dishonorable profession, in my opinion, but many may find it questionable.

This carries over into personal relationships.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/11/2011 8:23:40 AM

With my job in particular it is easy to succumb, but each person knows there limits before breaking. I personally know where my weakness lies and if I’m in a relationship I keep far from anything that will tempt me. We as humans are far from perfect, yes, when love blossoms; it is hard for anyone to fall into infidelity, but how many are in relationships for the wrong reasons and lie about that they love their partner just to get security, attention, sex, or friendship!?

OP? I think you think too much. How many people are in relationships for security, attention, sex and/or friendship? Likely as many as are in relationships for all sorts of other reasons. How many lie during the relationship about loving the other? Who knows???? As long as it's not happening by YOU to someone else ~ does it really matter what anyone else is or is not doing? Believe it or not? Most ALL relationships have some sort of "lie" going on. Whether the butt has gotten big and it's the elephant in the room no one is discussing, to having sexual fantasies of another that wouldn't be well-received if known, to things as mundane as yicky meatloaf (and heaven forbid one tells the truth about that.) You claim to live by the Bushido Code ~ so if this is factual....why on earth give a ratz what others are or are not about in the intimacy of their own relationships? That particular "code" is based upon old Buddhist teachings, long since forgotten and skewed in perception over the centuries, yet if you believe it in it's more "traditional" sense ~ it makes NO difference what other human behaviors are about. All that matters is YOUR human behaviors. I'm wondering if you are struggling within yourself ~ most who truly subscribe to such "codes" don't worry about the failings of others (as they perceive "failings.") JMO
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 25
Can jobs be considered Sexual?
Posted: 8/12/2011 5:52:44 PM
hmmm
priests seem to be getting alot of action that makes the headlines.
is it that job, or the guy in the position?.....
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