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 jwhales
Joined: 11/24/2010
Msg: 1
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I am a 43 year old healthy guy but if I try to have sex without my viagra it just doesn't stay hard. I have been with young very sexy women and older very sexy women and it really frustrates me..and her I'm sure.. that I cant keep it up during intercourse. I have no problem when masterbating, If I take my viagra I can go like a pro but most of the time I have to finish myself with my hand. My question is, do women feel it is a reflection on their attractiveness when I cant get it up without the viagra? does this turn them off and not want to be with me?
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 8/10/2011 7:29:05 PM
Sounds more like performance anxiety than ED.
ED doesn't just affect you just when you're with a woman....it affects you all the time.
So yeah....if I was your woman......and knew you could maintain an erection while alone........I would take it personally that you couldn't while with me.
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 3
needing viagra...turn on or turn off?
Posted: 8/10/2011 8:11:03 PM
How do they know you have to take a pill? Do you tell them you are playing with silly putty unless you take the little blue pill?.

Dude you happen to be 43 years old. If you are walking around with wet noodle at that age, what's it going to be like for you in 10 years? This is not normal, when i was 43 if I got a peek at a ladies panties I walked around all day with a****hard enough to cut diamonds. Go see a Doctor because it's kinda iffy why you can't get a stiffy.
 RitaMD
Joined: 11/19/2010
Msg: 4
needing viagra...turn on or turn off?
Posted: 8/10/2011 8:20:02 PM
I wouldnt say it was a turn on, nor would I say its a turn off. I'd rather have your****hard. With viagra than soft without. Hey, it happens, sometimes ya just gotta pop it!
 mrmisterme
Joined: 6/7/2009
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Posted: 8/10/2011 8:21:43 PM
I guess that "knock on wood" doesn't apply here.
 1776or1984
Joined: 12/25/2009
Msg: 6
needing viagra...turn on or turn off?
Posted: 8/10/2011 9:48:07 PM
Well, no one can say that this dude isn't honest on his shortcomings....

But really, too much information!
 PRSweetie70
Joined: 8/4/2011
Msg: 7
needing viagra...turn on or turn off?
Posted: 8/10/2011 10:37:51 PM
It's better to use it and be able to preform
 meowsaidthetigress
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 8
needing viagra...turn on or turn off?
Posted: 8/11/2011 12:23:56 AM
Your asking for honesty so Im gonna shoot it straight up. Yes its a turn off at your young age to be able to masturbate and not orgasm with a female of any age.
I would find it very offensive.
 808md
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 9
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Posted: 8/11/2011 12:59:10 AM

I would take it personally that you couldn't while with me.


I would find it very offensive


You guys are absolutely ridiculous. How can something involuntary be offensive?
Just because the OP’s problem might not be physical does not mean that it is not real.
 meowsaidthetigress
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 10
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Posted: 8/11/2011 1:09:54 AM
I didnt say it wasnt real. I reflected my opinion as was asked.
Sometimes the truth doesnt come with a pretty bow and a spoon full of sugar.
As a 46 year old woman I believe sexual compatibility to be one of the top three relationship survival requirements FOR ME.
 buckeye1332
Joined: 5/19/2011
Msg: 11
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Posted: 8/11/2011 2:50:11 AM
Sounds like it is in your head, and not an actual medical condition.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 8/11/2011 4:27:46 AM

You guys are absolutely ridiculous. How can something involuntary be offensive?
Just because the OP’s problem might not be physical does not mean that it is not real.


I only said I would take it personally......I did not say it would be offensive.
And how could a woman not take it personally if her man was able to keep an erection while alone.....but not with his woman? His hand turns him on but a woman doesn't?
I would find that to be an issue that he would need to fix......and not with a pill.
Maybe lay off the self stimulation........you can desensitize yourself to anything but your own grip ( or for a woman....a vibrator).
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 13
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Posted: 8/11/2011 5:35:42 AM
I wouldn't take it personally, because if it's a performace fear...then chances are he would have this problem with any woman, not just me.I would take it personal, if he could get it up with other women but not me. Big difference. A while back, I was in a situation with one guy who said that was exactly it. It didn't matter which woman it was. He just couldn't get it up unless he did it himself. When women tell a man with this problem that they take it personal, it only adds to his fear.
Whatever the case, I say 43 is young to have this problem. But sadly it happens to younger men too.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:00:30 AM
I tried 1/2 a viagra once, unfortunately I was alone.
I had an "unwarranted erection" (UE)
It was novel and interesting for me to have a stiffy and the brain is not as aroused as the little wee wee bob.

I would not hesitate to take Viagra or Cialis if needed. eventually the big brain will synchronise with the little brain and all is harmonious under heaven.

Btw that time after the effect wore off the blue paint of my bedroom looked like there a 'clag' party had happened and gone. lol
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 8/11/2011 8:18:48 AM
I was with a guy in his late 20s several years ago, and he had similar issues. I suspect he has a little issue with a porn addiction.

Would I be turned off? I'm not sure. Depends on the situation and relationship. Don't know until I was in that situation.
 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2011 8:48:23 AM
mens multivitamins will help.
 808md
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/11/2011 12:55:04 PM
Maybe your doctor can switch you to a low daily dose of Tadalafil. In addition, you would probably benefit from some form of psychoanalytic therapy. Like others have said...go see a doctor.
 dayzee
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/11/2011 2:25:19 PM
Hubby has needed to use Viagra for years...but didn't actually start taking til last year. Was I taking it personally that he needs to use it? No, as he had no control over it ....what man doesn't want to have an erection?? But after awhile he got frustrated when it wouldn't work as fast as he wanted (that lag time is a mood killer for sure), or wouldn't work at all (and of course, the more he worried about it, the less it helped.) So he stopped bothering to try and he told me to go elsewhere. Now THAT I took personally.... not being worth the bother of using it.

So, in short, we don't care that you have to use it .....we just want you to use it if you have to...the alternative it worse in my opinion
 egowitch
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 8/11/2011 5:13:21 PM
I wouldn't take it personally . But the fact that you're able to function fine with yourself - suggests that there is a mental component to the issue. If I were you , I'd go see a sex therapist to find out what's going on. You're way too young to be needing drugs - ya think ?
 808md
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:01:39 PM
and you should stop smoking if you value your erections...
 sinlov
Joined: 2/25/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:16:38 PM
I think it just depends on wether it works or not.
also guys that can't always get it up so to speak usually
master other skills if ya know what I mean ....
 sexypunkgirl
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/11/2011 10:21:45 PM
Some women will think that its them not turning you on. But if you explain a head of time you may be able to get around that.
Try other things to stay hard maybe. You guys watch porn together maybe. or try some roleplaying. something to keep things interesting. It might add that little extra spark to your sex life that gets you going. THe only problem there i have found is once you start taking sex to new levels you find it works so great you start thinking of crazier and crazier things to do.

ON a side note. Be careful of viagra. It is a vasodilator. It will disrupt the blood flow to your eyes, which is why im sure a side affect is a change in vision. Well that disruption in blood flow can actually cause you to go blind. For good. Thats a more rare case, but you can damage your eye sight. and if im not mistaken I believe they added DEATH as a new side effect. We have free samples in the office i work in but i have never read the side effects of it.

Try to find natural ways to stay hard if you can. Im sure easier said then done though.
wish you luck
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/13/2011 6:54:55 AM
Your pecker can be like the canary in the coal mine, to determine other things that may be wrong with you. So you need to first look at, do you smoke, do you drink a lot. Those two alone can reduce your ability to keep an erection. Then do you exercise, and I mean here, do you do anything cardio, at least 20 minutes a day? You need to keep all these things into consideration.

But like someone said, check with your doctor. Check your heart and your blood pressure.
 binxy1234
Joined: 1/11/2011
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Posted: 8/16/2011 12:29:25 AM
you shouldnt use it unless a docters gave you it your better off using a herbal version that has no side effects my friend recommends these www.spanglefish.com/herbalmaleimpotenceaid
keeps telling me they rock good luck
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 8/16/2011 9:17:20 AM

THe only problem there i have found is once you start taking sex to new levels you find it works so great you start thinking of crazier and crazier things to do.


What a horrible problem to have.

We did the school girl customers yesterday, today we can do the hiding in some public place.

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