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 2magical
Joined: 6/7/2011
Msg: 1
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Ladies do you use your im chat for dirty talk with a complete stranger (oh yes and he probably doesn't have a photo)?

I am finding 75% of the men that want to chat want to use it for dirty talk.
The first few times I did get suckered into thinking that this was someone who wanted to get to know me. Tired of it I let them know right away - Not here for dirty talk buddy. If I was with a partner we would be indulging in this fun .

Women - do you have this happening to you ? How do you feel about it?
Men - really has this vehicle of communication really worked for you?

It could also show that the im system here needs to have some choices here, so that the people both men and women can communicate in the way they are most comfy whether its dirty talk or not.
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 2
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 8/23/2011 10:03:14 AM
I hate the stupid thing popping up in my face, so I turned it off.

But it makes sense that those are the types of men wanting to use that feature. Not that they don't also use messages for their perverted overtures
 beenhereatimeor2
Joined: 4/14/2010
Msg: 3
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 8/23/2011 9:04:12 PM
I'd have to agree with post and no longer respond to IM requests for that very reason.
 Playing with Madness
Joined: 8/1/2010
Msg: 4
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/2/2011 7:14:39 PM
When someone wants to talk dirty with me I am more than willing to do so.

I am always curious what the PH balance is in their soil...

 SylvanSwan
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 5
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/5/2011 4:40:54 AM
The IM feature is used by some guys as free porn to enlist some poor woman to help choke their chubby. Block and Delete is your best friend when that happens. Unless you want to chat like that, then whatever parts your hair and to each their own.
 datagurl
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 6
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/5/2011 3:22:48 PM
'chat' became porn talk when you allowed it to!
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/5/2011 9:52:11 PM
i didn't know you could use it for that j/k.......actually I like using IM over email, only because it's like having a perliminary conversation with that person. I mean for an email, it's like an advertisement sometimes where you're like selling yourself, which at times I don't wanna be a salesperson. But with IM you're having a feel as to how that person might be in real life. I guess it's a shame that it's not used for its intended purposes and people get the wrong idea about it
 beenhereatimeor2
Joined: 4/14/2010
Msg: 8
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/7/2011 9:10:28 PM
Problem is, it tends to be their opening line so if they don't want to email me, I just don't accept the IM.
 Pajamas42
Joined: 11/15/2010
Msg: 9
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/19/2011 8:01:03 PM
Oh yeah... I can ralate!!!! I get that crap all of the time. Don't let it bother you and move on to someone more worth your time. You are going to get all types, expect it but realize that there are great men out there also... weed through the dirt and you'll do just fine.
 ^^Batgirl^^
Joined: 4/4/2010
Msg: 10
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/19/2011 8:23:05 PM
38 months ago.

^^BG^^
 ~ Cndn Girl ~
Joined: 2/2/2007
Msg: 11
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/24/2011 10:56:45 AM
I find this mostly doesn't happen to me.

It happens.... but must of the people who IM me haven't engaged in this behaviour.

My frustration is they start talking and then disappear for an hour.
 GrandeCash
Joined: 7/23/2008
Msg: 12
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/25/2011 9:33:01 PM
I get a lot of Hi, how are you?

I usually ignore it, since it looks like it's somebody copy/pasting it to everybody anyway.

A couple times, I decided to reply back, and of course, I was right. There was no counter-replies.

I also find it weird that some people want to "meet" you (you know, that list that says "people who want to meet you"), but when you send them a message, they don't want to talk to ya!
 beenhereatimeor2
Joined: 4/14/2010
Msg: 13
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/25/2011 9:41:58 PM
The disappearing for an hour is usually computer freezing or they are talking to other people at the same time. And Grande, yeah, I've been embarrassed by replying to those automatically=generated emails.
 GrandeCash
Joined: 7/23/2008
Msg: 14
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 9/25/2011 9:55:51 PM
I noticed on my part one thing: They're all asian chicks! Maybe they can't speak english and that's all they know...
 KittenCatt
Joined: 6/11/2011
Msg: 16
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 10/4/2011 12:45:54 AM
Hahaaaa....I love it when the oh-so-subtle perv content begins, like within the nanosecond after the chat begins....then I know who I'm dealing with. Just had it happen to me, and I played dumb til he hung himself. I just love that "block" button, sigHHHH!!! Almost needed a ciggie and I don't even smoke.

I rarely accept chat requests but I now understand what everyone has been saying here when they say be glad the dude revealed his real self so soon so you can be done with him!!

From a purely psycho-social view, it fascinates me that grown men (in their 30's, 40's, 50's) who have right on their profile that they're "looking for long-term" who pull this crap with women just don't "get it".....they probably are too dumb to understand why they're still alone at home with just their hand and are likely to stay that-a-way.
 SylvanSwan
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 17
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 10/4/2011 5:48:32 AM

From a purely psycho-social view, it fascinates me that grown men (in their 30's, 40's, 50's) who have right on their profile that they're "looking for long-term" who pull this crap with women just don't "get it".....they probably are too dumb to understand why they're still alone at home with just their hand and are likely to stay that-a-way.


That is hilarious kittencatt. They probably bought shares in Vaseline too....

There must be some who will use the IM feature to get to know someone further without the porn chat I'd think, probably rare though....
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 18
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 10/4/2011 8:18:33 AM

I played dumb til he hung himself.
It truly is an art :)

From a purely psycho-social view, it fascinates me that grown men (in their 30's, 40's, 50's) who have right on their profile that they're "looking for long-term" who pull this crap with women just don't "get it".....they probably are too dumb to understand why they're still alone at home with just their hand and are likely to stay that-a-way.
Poetic is't it?
 dddiesel
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 19
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 10/4/2011 9:38:27 AM
WOW i can rarely get anyone to chat with me let alone try and talk " porn " lol
 knoworries
Joined: 7/19/2011
Msg: 22
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 11/4/2011 10:39:48 PM
IM?

What's that?



Honestly, I'm with 'outdoorpassion'

... not that I'm really here that often (for example, this is my first time back in the forums since they re-hosted the link after removing it when the site was updated some time ago).
 funansassy
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 23
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 11/6/2011 11:53:43 PM
Can someone point me to the chat thing please....and where does one see it?....I have a few names in green and red lit up above my inbox.....Then a whole couple of rows of pictures above that with chat underneath them..
 moonox
Joined: 1/22/2010
Msg: 24
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When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 11/29/2011 7:31:15 PM
I myself haven't experienced any "porn" chat on this plenty of fish thing.
However I have heard a bunch of "corn" chat.
Who knew vegetable garden talk was so big with the fairer sex?
 a_lonewolf
Joined: 5/21/2010
Msg: 25
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 11/30/2011 9:20:18 PM

When did 'chat' become porn talk here?

About the same time when highspeed was available to the average joe. After all, how exciting did you find it when (during old dial up) dialog was the following....
~her~ hi :)
~him~ wow!! I want to............. {loading}............. and ...........{loading}.......... all over ........
 JoLovesDogs
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 27
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 12/4/2011 6:44:26 PM
I'm just going to turn mine off too. So many men with no photos, and they have nothing useful to say...

"hi how r u? u r hot wanna massage?"

Yea I am sitting here at the edge of my chair waiting for some random guy to message me with such an amazing offer!!!

 JoLovesDogs
Joined: 6/22/2011
Msg: 28
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 12/5/2011 4:55:06 PM
Just had a chat request sent to me SIX times (from the same guy) while I was trying to find out how to shut off my IM. Six times I had to decline the chat! Anyway I found it (thank GOD)
 Allan Anger
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 29
When did 'chat' become porn talk here?
Posted: 12/30/2011 1:16:51 PM
Good Point.....
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