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 Mandyrw
Joined: 9/12/2011
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I kinda need some help. I want my fiance’s account removed from forums and I am having a really hard time doing it. I got his account removed from some yesterday and Friday with mine but he is a member on so many I am still finding them when I am going through his bookmarks.

It took me half an hour to get his account removed from a forum on Friday and I had to talk to some American guy on the phone. Like he wasted an overseas phone call just to talk to me lol They won’t remove his answerology account or let me see his posts so I am going to report them.

I am trying to get his Yahoo answers account removed now and I have contacted them in the help but I just got a standard reply that had nothing to do with my question. I asked them to ring me and I gave them a phone number but I am still getting nothing.

I know he uses the names Blades, ShawBlades, Jackfrost and Toothpaste but I want to know what other names he uses so I’m kinda wondering if there is a way I could look into the IP and trace all the different forums he goes to. We live together and we share the same computer and I’ve been looking through his history but I think he deleted it ‘cause there’s nothing there.

I am not trying to control him. I mean I got called a crazy obsessed psycho girlfriend by some ***hole on a social anxiety forum yesterday when I asked for our accounts to be removed and that’s totally untrue. I'm just trying to protect him and I think he's safer away from forums.

I found out I am pregnant a few days ago. We are getting married in December and he should be focusing on me and our baby and getting better instead of going on forums.

The guy is going through a lot of problems now and he can get all the support he needs from me, his doctor and therapist. He doesn't need people he doesn't know telling him what to do. I am making him stay off the internet for a week but I don’t want him going back to forums when he goes back on.

He talks to this girl on emails and he shares his poetry and writing with her and I'm ok with that 'cause I know there only friends and I think he can trust her but I don’t want him going on anymore forums and writing about our private life.

He wrote some posts on forums that were very personal and I was ok with him writing about me but he really crossed the line and I had a talk to him about it. I want the posts I have a problem and we did it and I need some advice removed from this forum and I kinda think all of his posts should be removed ‘cause I won’t be letting him use his account again.

I found some really upsetting posts he made on one forum where he was putting himself down and there were members picking on him. The guy has adhd, aspergers syndrome and ocd and he thinks everybody apart from me hates him and that's untrue.

I'm not having my fiance cyber bullied!
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
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How do I delete all my fiance’s accounts and posts?
Posted: 9/18/2011 2:39:15 AM
Hmmm....Let's see....

I am not trying to control him.

Uh Huh! VVV

I am making him stay off the internet for a week but I don’t want him going back to forums when he goes back on.



I'm just trying to protect him and I think he's safer away from forums.

Uh Huh! VVV

I am not trying to control him.



he should be focusing on me and our baby and getting better instead of going on forums.

Uh Huh! VVV

I am not trying to control him.



I won’t be letting him use his account again.

Uh Huh! VVV

I am not trying to control him.


YOU have no right to do anything with HIS accounts...if he wants them closed...HE can close them....I would suggest to HIM that he run as far from you as he can....you're a control freak to the ninth power!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:09:12 AM
OP - this is weird...

why exactly are you 2 engaged ???


why don't you change your entire profile/account ???
 ~~starlight~~
Joined: 11/28/2008
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:16:52 AM
Umm, WOW! This is seriously fvcked up. Are you not aware that once something is on the internet it is usually there forever? Throwing in some of his user names could result in people googling and re posting them so there would be a never ending trail?


I'm not having my fiance cyber bullied!


Of course not. A real life bully is better than a cyber bully.
 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:24:28 AM
Simple answer: You can't delete his account, only he can. And I don't know if even he can delete all his forum posts.

I agree with Ico, you are acting like a control freak -- and a distrusting fiancee' as well.

Either he will choose to delete his accounts of his own volition, or he won't. If I were him, I would consider your attempts to delete them a very serious violation of my privacy and a huge red flag in our relationship.
 Pete2205
Joined: 3/18/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:28:52 AM
They are not your accounts, you have no right to be interfering in anything he has done online...IF and when I meet someone special then I wont need the social interaction I have on here and THEN I will delete my account I will not do anything on line that I am not prepared to show my girlfriend/fiances or whatever.

Ask yourself why you feel you need to do all your doing ....Is it REALLY to protect him or to protect YOU and to alleviate your own insecurities......

This relationship is bad in so many ways and yes if it was me you were with I would run so fast my shoes would catch fire.

Focus on what you and him are doing OFFLINE , switch off the pc and get living!!!!!!
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:35:33 AM
Are you freakin' kidding?! What right do you have to controll how and where he expresses himself? What you are doing/attempting to do is so wrong on so many levels. He needs to kick you to the curb like yesterdays trash!

Oh folks, let's not let this thread get deleted. She needs to hear what's coming her way!
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:40:44 AM
"i need some kinda help"...

so does your fiancee!...
 tiggher
Joined: 5/3/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:41:08 AM
I hope to God he doesn't have a Rabbit!!!!!!

What a Frickin' control freak!!!!!

Scary!!!!
 Pete2205
Joined: 3/18/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:50:32 AM
Oh folks, let's not let this thread get deleted. She needs to hear what's coming her way!

Totally agree
 tiggher
Joined: 5/3/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 3:58:03 AM
Aspergers....OCD....& ADHD.......

Hmmmm...now try adding....Depression....Fear....Lack of confidence.... Due to having a warped & twisted, Bunny-Boiling control freak as a girlfriend....God help the innocent little babe being brought into the equation!!!!
 Mandyrw
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 4:25:33 AM
OMG. I am not a control freak! I'm trying to do what is best for my fiance and right now that is keeping him away from forums.

The guy has been through enough and I am going to protect him any way I can. I talked to his therapist about this and even HE thinks he should be staying away from forums too while he is like this or they will make him depressed.

If you were living with us now you would understand what I am doing now is for him and he will thank me for it. I am kinda overprotective but I have a right to be.
 Knightoftheroad91
Joined: 8/13/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 4:36:13 AM
There is a line between being over-protective of someone and doing what you are doing, you are trying to lock him away from the world except for the 3 people you mentioned. His Therapist said he advices against them... fine, but let him do his job and explain that to your fiance... What your doing and attempting to do is wrong... maybe you should seek a Therapist as well?
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
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Posted: 9/18/2011 4:40:30 AM
Honey, listen to what people are telling you. You have crossed the line.
I'm 260lbs. Not matter how I might try to convince myself I'm not fat, the fact is I am fat. No matter how many times you say you are not a controll freak, the fact is you are a controll freak.
 meowsaidthetigress
Joined: 7/9/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 4:54:12 AM
I give you less than a year and you will be a divorced control freak.
Being part of someones life does not mean they dont have activities they do privately.
Privacy is an important quality in any type of a relationship.
I suppose you want him to create your art work for you too~
You are ridiculous. Good luck without major counseling.

edit: if you did that to me I'd drop you faster than a hot potato.
 Mandyrw
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:02:12 AM
I love my fiance and all I want to do is look after him. The poor guy has had a really rough life and now that he has me I am not going to let him go through anymore on his own.

He knows I am getting his profiles deleted from forums and he is ok with it. I mean he even told me where some of the forums were he posted on that weren't in his bookmarks but he said he can't remember them all and I think he is just saying that 'cause he doesn't want me to upset me with his writing again.

I am NOT a control freak.

I'm just a gal who wants to protect her guy.
 Knightoftheroad91
Joined: 8/13/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:12:19 AM
1. If he doesn't remember where they are or the urls the he cant go back on them anyway.

2. If he was ok with it then why doesnt he just do it himself instead of you having to go through admins/ringing people, ALL forums/sites will have an option for the user to delete their profile, if they know the right information, again, if he doesnt know the relevant information to get onto them... what is the problem?

You can delete all the profiles you want, these days it takes 2 minutes to create a profile on near enough any forum/site on the internet, unless you destroy the internet/access to the internet it impossible to stop him the way you want to... LOL
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:16:09 AM
You cant, only the account holder can delete accounts.

Im sure the therapist thinks your fiance should focus on better things, but there is no therapist in the world that would encourage you to cross such a boundary and act so controlling.

You have crossed the line here and it is wrong and indicitive of a bigger problem. He is likely focussing on forums because you are so controlling.
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:16:25 AM
Let it go....

It is people like this that have helped me to remain single.

I feel sorry for your unborn child, the environment in which this child will be raised, so sad.
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:17:44 AM

If he was ok with it then why doesnt he just do it himself

excellent question!

OP...I will tell you the same thing I told my boss when he asked me to delete his dating account on another site (long story). This is something the person who signed up needs to do on their own.

Off topic...have you considered what your life is going to be with someone you feel like you need to treat like a child? Does he want to be married to someone who acts like his mother? Good luck to you both.
 Mandyrw
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:20:32 AM
I am trying to do it for him so he doesn't have to go on the computer. I'm making him have the week off 'cause he needs a break from it. The guy spends too many hours on it when he is not with me and he uses the internet for work too but he is having a week of that too.

He kinda got angry this morning and threw a chair into a mirror and he kicked his foot on the wall and now he is having trouble walking on it. It's not broken but I am taking him to see the doctor tomorrow 'cause I think it is fractured.

He won't go until after 1 'cause we're watching Night of champions lol
 Pauly1969
Joined: 9/17/2010
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:21:46 AM
I'm sorry but you are a control freak. if he wants your help he will do it with you and not cower away while you do it for him. besides, do you honestly think it will work between you two? there is no trust and its obvious. try getting someone new who is a man and willing to do things himself. as for you, i'm sorry but you remind me of my ex wife. for 20 years she controlled me and i was stupid to not realise it. now i know how foolish i was and very happy with my new girlfriend. long time waited but worth waiting for.

all i have to do is work out how i delete my account here lol
 Mandyrw
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:28:24 AM

Does he want to be married to someone who acts like his mother?


I'm not trying to mother him. He's my Baby but I don't treat him like one. I am four years older than him so that kinda means I am in charge of a lot of the decisions and I know more about things than him.
 Broadway_Bella
Joined: 2/18/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:30:34 AM
Geez....
you've thrown everything but the kitchen sink into this trolling saga of online woe OP.

Was it a slow Saturday night? No date? Not even a nibble for a hook-up?
Does your mommy know you're using her computer?

Walk away people...this trolling post wasn't even well-thought out, or original...he/she could at least have thrown in some humour to make it fun.

BB
 Mandyrw
Joined: 9/12/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:35:15 AM

there is no trust and its obvious. try getting someone new who is a man and willing to do things himself


There IS trust. I trust him more than my own parents and he trust me more than anybody in the world. He just tries to protect me from things sometimes and he doesn't have to.

And the guy is a man and can do things by himself. If you knew some of the things he went through as a teenager you change what you wrote. The guy is strong and he has been through more than a lot of other people have and he shouldn't have had to go through any of it alone!
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