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 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 2
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Isn't that sweet? I ran and got my kleenex out too, Good Lord..... while I get what you are trying to say lad, the truth is every one has obstacles some more than others, single parents , obese people, nice guys, too tall, too short, too many kids, no kids, multiple divorces, virgins, bi polar, disables, capitalist, socialists etc etc etc.

Its not being judgmental lad, most has preferences, So would you date a 5 ft 4 300 lb woman that has a fantastic personality and great voice?
 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 4
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Posted: 10/30/2011 10:17:14 AM
No dude, the simple fact is some single moms dates and has no problems in finding dates, and some single moms has problems, the bottom line is some guys will date them and some wont, I mentioned looks because you mentioned guys shouldn't be judgmental and I gave you a example of judgmental
 Cdn_Iceman
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 6
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Posted: 10/30/2011 10:30:38 AM
You can post your opinion all you want by the way there are about a million threads like these the ones you posted about, as I said the bottom line is some will and some wont, the ones that wont date single moms shouldn't be nasty about it but at the same time the ones that will date single mom shouldn't criticize the ones that don't , that's all I'm saying.

Some people like pickled pig feet and some don't.

See what I'm saying?
 dad2stay
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 10/30/2011 4:46:16 PM
There is no big deal, some guys don't mind a lady with kids some do, I assume that most who don't choose so for financial and availability reasons.

I do because I feel a single mom is more compatible and understanding for my needs as a single dad

But I agree that just because she is a single mom does not mean it was her fault so judging on that alone is silly
 goodfarmgirl
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 8
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Posted: 10/30/2011 5:23:07 PM
well all I can say is that I"m thoroughly impressed with the first post...good stuff! I would love to see more men around like you! Now that is what you call a REAL MAN!
 sassy0013
Joined: 10/18/2011
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/30/2011 7:30:07 PM
From SOME of the stories I've heard, a lot of guys are gunshy because of experiences they've had with SOME women who move way to fast and are wanting to introduce the guy to their kids within a few dates, having the guy stay the night or just flat move in with them.

That would scare the crap out of me if I was a guy and after several encounters like that, I'd probably just make it a personal rule to not date women with children.

There's a big difference in a woman who wants to date a man and a woman who NEEDS to date a man. Unfortunately, the ones who NEED it make the rest of us just wanting to date go into that same group.

- two cents from a 5'4" - 250lb woman. keep the change. :-)
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/31/2011 5:25:39 AM
Ok. You're a saint, thank God for men like you.
 dad2stay
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/31/2011 8:42:15 AM
Why is it any time anyone stands up for someone else it is them who gets attacked even if they have not said anything incorrect or inappropriate?

Single parents can get a bad rap. This is fact right? So whats the point of debating and insulting?
 MuscleMermaid
Joined: 10/26/2011
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/31/2011 3:39:17 PM
It is not so much people being put off by the Children as much as the overall situation is. Like for me, I have met some men who have kids. Let me tell you, the kids were spoiled. Ill mannered. No discipline. The Ex was always in the picture; it just was NOT a fun, normal, way to get to know someone situation. And I am sure some women are this way as well.

Single moms & dads have their hands full. However, it is best they be * ready* to date. A lot of very young kids who really need some raising out there, not mom or dad being on dating sites looking for the next shack up !

Kids do not so much need to come first, as they do need to be taken care of. If there is a kids comes first rule, raise the kids then date when people can be an equal. I have seen nothing but train wrecks with all this kids come first crap.

Each situation is different. Not every single mom or dad has it together !!!!
 LatinoJorge
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 14
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Posted: 11/3/2011 4:24:51 AM
Hey mate Im a single parent and have no problem with single mums.
 NatureGirl83
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 15
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Posted: 11/5/2011 1:33:18 PM
Hey, single mom here.
My experience is that if you're good looking, it doesn't matter if you have kids or not lol... It's true and you know it ;) I also think that single moms in general, threaten most men. Generally, we've got our lives together - if we didn't, the dads would have the kids - and we're a lot more responsible. That puts pressure on the guys out there who haven't grown up. Personally, if a guy doesn't want to date a single mother, I see him as someone who's immature, ignorant, or self-centered, and probably would't care to be with him anyway.
So there you go... Bring on the heat ;)
 UniquelyPassionateCandy
Joined: 8/6/2011
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/5/2011 6:28:48 PM
I think, that most men are not so much put off by the kids ...I think it comes down to a possible bad experience with a single mom...Cause there are a lot of single moms out there who do manage to make us good ones look bad. The ones that are just looking for another daddy for the kids...the ones that are just looking for a wallet...or the ones that shove their kids in a guys face pretty much after you meet him. OR it's the idea that a new man will at some point have to deal with the ex if he is anywhere involved in the kids lives...I personally don't see my kids as baggage-they are the loves of my life, but what I see and what somebody else sees are 2 very different things (which is where the word BAGGAGE comes into play) ...But at the end of the day if you have no room for what you call my baggage and what I call my world...Then there is no room for you on this ride :)
 QueenBeeSweetness
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 17
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Posted: 11/5/2011 11:59:16 PM

From SOME of the stories I've heard, a lot of guys are gunshy because of experiences they've had with SOME women who move way to fast and are wanting to introduce the guy to their kids within a few dates, having the guy stay the night or just flat move in with them.


LOL, just the opposite here, 1 man i briefly dated want to move into my home after a few dates, ewwww & hell to the no. I changed my number.I must be atypical, i shudder @ the thought of sharing my personal space with ANYONE besides my children, unless i am REALLY in love with a person & positive we are compatible, which takes a hell of a lot more than a few dates. Even when my children have sleepovers at my home, i return the other children to their parents early in the morning.
 call2010
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 18
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Posted: 11/6/2011 7:20:05 AM
im a single mum lol, and i have found that alot of guys arent looking for that commitment. it could be that i am still quite young but guys my age are looking for someone who can just have fun, and do last minute things. but when you have a child you have to set plans. and ur schedual is now around that baby. but im glad you understand all this. and i bet you will make someone very happy one day
 Just_Me_Aaron
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 11/6/2011 9:49:06 PM
Me personally I just like Virgins lol since I am a Virgin :/
(Never drank alcohol or smoked either)

Jessica Simpson and Tim Tebow are/were virgins till they married, it's not that hard to do...

I am just an abstinence person. I like to save it for one person (not religious). That's why I don't like women with children.

If I was like 40 years old and a single mom was married when she had the kid my opinion would change.

Everyone's definition of a slut is different. Some people who had sex with 10 people is a slut, some 5 some 1. I put the number at 1. That's why I get put off by single moms.
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/6/2011 10:02:54 PM

I put the number at 1. [\quote]

And on your profile you say your shy and ask for a girl to message you. Why in the world should anyone message you. In your world every female on the planet is 1/2 slut already.

That’s just awful.
 Te_Mangoroa
Joined: 4/16/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/6/2011 10:09:34 PM
so does that mean at one partner they are a slut, so therefore if you actually find a virgin to marry, she then becomes a slut? Wow.

You need to look up the definition of that word, and oh by the way once you have sex once, is that going to make you a slut too?
 Just_Me_Aaron
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/6/2011 10:19:08 PM
I said before marriage.

Like I said everybody has a number, some 10, some 5, to me 1. It's a slippery slope.
 Te_Mangoroa
Joined: 4/16/2011
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/6/2011 10:27:39 PM
to me a slut is someone male or female who has sex with random people outside a relationship.
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Posted: 11/6/2011 10:32:01 PM
someone did a number on you...

This is not a belief that is reached on observation and evaulation of the world based on insight and experience. This type of belief is mandated and not from a good little book.

Do you like book/movies? There is an old one that maybe you can relate to. Great author. One of the best of modern fiction. Book is called, Carrie.
 Just_Me_Aaron
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/6/2011 10:57:10 PM
Lol, you think I am sheltered telepathic loony like Carrie for saying what I said.

I was raised anything but sheltered. Both of my parents are extremely nonreligious and liberal like pretty much I am. I have never discussed god with my dad even once or have gone to church with them ( I did go once when I was 5 with my grandma).

All I did was go into why I wouldn't date someone who had children, at least at my age. Just answering the OP.
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 26
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Posted: 11/6/2011 10:59:49 PM
you said anyone that had sex one time was a slut. your definition of slut...

so, my definition of a sociopath is someone that thinks all women are sluts.

you do the math.
 Just_Me_Aaron
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 27
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Posted: 11/6/2011 11:05:39 PM
If that's really what you believe I can't do anything but respect it.
 dad2stay
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/7/2011 9:40:58 AM
just my 2 cents, nothing wrong with single moms as a group but there are individuals that leave allot to be desired, as to the guy who says anyone who has sex once before marriage is considered a slut I have a couple observations

Would you buy a car before test driving it? Buy pants or shoes you haven't tried on first?
Buy a home you haven't walked through and had inspected first?

Most people wouldn't and look at relationships the same way. I am in no hurry to sleep with who I date but I will not get too serious until we do and I will not ask them to marry me unless we have first lived together

Sexual comparability is important and I think every engaged couple should live as husband and wife for a few years before actually being husband and wife after all gotta get through that honeymoon period before you see who you both really are
 Just_Me_Aaron
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 11/7/2011 9:58:41 AM
The people that marry for sex and looks is the reason why the divorce rate in this country is so high.
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