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 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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I think scurvy has a good thought.

I have also dealt with people who lied, and would NEVER admit it, even when all the evidence was there. I don't think in the cases I dealt with, that they were craftily trying to accomplish something by maintaining the lie. It was more that they had a psychological defect going on, wherein once they started to lie, they genuinely believed in the lie, or they were so committed to it that they could not back away from it. Almost like an actor that gets so caught up in a role, that they can't let go of it.

They seemed to be psychologically dependent on the lie version of their lives.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Can somebody please explain something
Posted: 11/13/2011 2:27:34 PM
Some people are liars, It makes no sense to you but trying get a liar to make sense is a waste of time, it only annoys you, she's not going to suddenly become an honest person. Too bad you have a child with her, take care to see if he learns to lie like she does but don't bother working on getting her to be honest, it's not going to happen.
 wooliepack
Joined: 5/10/2009
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Posted: 11/13/2011 6:49:22 PM
I don't see anyone else bringing up the possibility she's a genuine psychotic. That doesn't mean she's Hannibal Lecter's sister, it just means she's not an emotion-feeling human being. She uses your genuine emotions against you, because they keep you predictable and controllable, while she is anything but those. It's like the idiot in the BMW who uses traffic rules against you, knowing exactly what you'll do, so he can do everything else. Tara Palmatier's Shrink4men.com is all about this. The stories she posts will curl your hair, you can't make this stuff up. Beware of the ex-spouse who poisons your son's mind, in order to alienate you from him. In some states, it's illegal.
I saw one article that mentioned how Eskimoes used to handle a compulsive liar: "Someone will push him off the ice while nobody is looking."
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
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Can somebody please explain something
Posted: 11/13/2011 7:42:52 PM

why she is still lying


Because if she admits it to herself, her world may come crashing down on her.
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