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 Puppydog54
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 2
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I agree with the others... pretty much a waste of time. But if you do find a woman that catches your eye, check out her profile and email her. Don't just click "yes" you want to meet her
 stableckingsame
Joined: 1/28/2010
Msg: 3
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/20/2013 11:22:53 AM
Its always worked fine for me you must be doing something wrong..
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 4
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/20/2013 1:14:58 PM

" I got an email saying you'd like to meet me - and after reading about you , the feeling's mutual - what do you think , still interested ?"

Yep, that's what I'd do.
 GJBrown
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 5
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/20/2013 7:13:39 PM
Meet Me is crap. 1 of the women who claimed they wanted to "meet me" had I don't date black men on her profile
The rest are a bunch of single mothers ha!
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 6
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/20/2013 7:19:18 PM
The meet me feature is annoying, I get so many email alerts to every moron who wants to meet me...ugh. If someone can't take a few minutes to write a few sentences that aren't "hi sexy" or "hello how are you" or just "hi", then I can't be bothered. This feature appeals to the lazy and shopper mentality who are only making the effort of a click.

I don't use it, never have, never will and I won't respond to anyone who does.
 Jerilyn
Joined: 1/13/2012
Msg: 10
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/21/2013 10:10:33 PM
I was on match.com once and liked the "wink" feature... it was actually useful. If they winked and I winked back or vise versa, then you knew right away they were interested in conversation and it ALWAYS led to one.... the "meet me" feature, on the other hand, is useless.... people just randomly click on it and it doesn't seem to mean anything or lead to anything... I think POF should get rid of it and replace it with the "wink."
 NewYorkFan1
Joined: 6/30/2013
Msg: 11
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/22/2013 12:47:30 AM
Just got reading thru this topic and I was in agreement with what everyone was saying about "meet me" and found it pretty much a waste.
Did have a conversation and a meet with one person that added me to her meet me, but that was only once.

Was having no luck falling asleep tonite so I decided to go thru some of the meet me profiles, I hit yes on one, tried putting my head back on the pillow for some much needed sleep, and within 15 mins I got an email notification that someone messaged me... And yes, it was someone that I had hit yes to..
I am thinking now that the "meet me" feature is not 100% scam, there is a small amount of validity to it...
Again, it is just part of a numbers game when it comes to online dating...
 jessebunnies
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 12
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Posted: 7/22/2013 7:11:17 AM
I rarely use the meet me feature. In fact it says so in my profile so pretty much you have to send a message if you want to meet. I did use it once and clicked meet me and he wrote back which resulted in a date so I guess it's not a total failure. But generally if they don't send me a message I don't bother with it.

My advise is to email them on here and see where it goes. I wouldn't jump to private emails, phone ect or social media till a ways down the road. After talking you might find out you don't want to meet any of them.
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 13
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/22/2013 7:38:40 AM
I used the "Meet Me" function incorrectly when I first joined POF. I thought it was a way for POF to create an algorithm to improve their matching system. I didn't realize it would actually flag me as wanting to meet that person. Oops. :)

Thankfully, one of the guys I clicked sent me a message and mentioned the "Meet Me" feature. I explained I had misunderstood its function and apologized for the confusion. Irritating function since you can already alert someone that you're interested. :\
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 14
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 7/22/2013 9:00:33 AM

I replied with messages to the first few women who clicked "meet me" and they never replied. So I no longer respond, since it's pretty much useless. I still haven't figured out the purpose of such a thing on a free dating website.

Well, here's one way it could be useful, while also getting rid of the "wink". Years ago Hot or Not did this, and I actually think Especially on a Free site, this would be good (with all women complaining about getting msgs from guys they don't like & guys complaining about spending too much time writing to girls who don't reply):

- In order to write someone, there should be a mutual "Yes" of something like the "Meet Me" feature
- They could re-name it "Interested" feature
- With a mutual match, THEN you can write each other
- It could at least be an Option for women (and men) to have
- Women won't get suppressed by crazy emails from crazy dudes
- Guys won't waste their time writing poetry to gals out of their league, realizing it's a waste of time

It'd make better use of everyone's time, IMO. There would be less message traffic, but I also think more attractive women wouldn't be as put off about keeping an account on here either -- so it'd preserve people's active memberships.
 j_leve
Joined: 5/12/2015
Msg: 15
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 5/22/2015 4:47:18 PM
You are so full of it! LOL
 GattoMonstrosis
Joined: 4/4/2013
Msg: 16
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Posted: 5/22/2015 11:39:20 PM
Approach them the same way you would approach anyone, the meet me match up doesn't have to mean anything, you have to click yes, no or maybe to move on to the next pic, they liked the look of you so they clicked on yes instead of no, but that doesn't mean they'd actually be interested, just that the liked the pic.
 grover14
Joined: 2/14/2014
Msg: 17
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Posted: 5/23/2015 9:16:55 AM
When they click on the meet you button, usually they do it based on your photo. So that means that like how you look. In my case, not everyone likes shaved heads, so it tells me they don't mind it. So I check out their profile and send a message if I find them interesting.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/23/2015 8:17:33 PM
You need to man up, email them, get a phone number and ask a woman out as soon as. You don't have a car, which can be a real drawback and if they are too far away then don't bother. Arrange a meet within two weeks after you have been on Skype ideally, and if she dilly dallies, move on.
 LuvFishes
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 5/24/2015 8:00:17 PM
The Meet Me function is comparable to Match.com Wink... the difference is two fold.
Are you a PAID UPGRADED member of POF or just a regular FREE MEMBER. Free Regular members can't see those Meet Me winks.

There mailbox show xx number of people interested but DOES NOT TELL THEM ABOUT YOU. They cannot see your name, profile nothing. Only if their settings are to get notification in their personal mail on the internet can they do a name search and reply at POF. Most people don't know how to do this.

I try to reply to every Meetme if I can. The problem is the computer thinks I want to meet the person and I don't. Then for the next months I am getting all the wrong guys profiles just because I reply a kind, " No Thanks". Now with that said, I was raised to be polite and thus the replies go out.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 20
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Posted: 5/25/2015 3:15:49 PM

How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?


I don't approach, the end.

"meet me" can lead to someone viewing you, then your profile, then message you. The problem is that most just stop at clicking "yes", instead of really following up with such "intent", so those who make no effort, get nothing. I don't have time to go on "meet me" and click away, I'm not that bored nor interested. When I did make my way there, I'd look, then click on profile, like saw "just ask" and clicked "no". I rarely if ever clicked "yes", but again, I wasn't interested enough to send a message and that says it all.

If the idea is that people want to take you off the website, they are not putting much effort if they are not messaging after clicking "meet me". I'm not sold on the idea of getting off (of the webiste) just yet, let me have my fun till I meet that speacial one.
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 3/5/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/27/2015 11:36:58 AM

How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?


I simply ignore those "meet me" emails. It is a useless feature.
 Luz1147
Joined: 5/13/2015
Msg: 22
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 5/31/2015 12:39:04 PM
I stopped bothering with meet me's long ago. I think it's an impulse 2 second glance "yes" or "no." It was a 50/50 shot when I use to contact the mutual meet me's. Now I just ignore them altogether :-/
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 23
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 6/2/2015 11:45:51 AM
24,023/29 tells the whole story.

Over 24 THOUSAND Views and only 29 responses as I type this. Few questions have more lopsided ratios. Obviously many folks are interested in/"confused by" that feature. Given only 29 replies, it doesn't appear to be of value to most folks?

Like most, I find it useless/silly...

BUT, I do know at least one very bright person who has used the feature to talk with/physically meet other Fish. And if it works for her, it obviously works for others.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 6/2/2015 11:56:48 AM
While I could see who wanted to "meet me" (before it became a paid feature), there was not a single woman in my small list that I would ever want to meet. Sorry, not going to pay for that now. Now if we could only filter the viewed me section like with the ultra match.
 Nj2ut
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 6/3/2015 8:47:32 AM
If she really wants to meet me she would've sent me a message.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 26
How do you approach someone on POF that wants to meet you?
Posted: 6/3/2015 1:20:10 PM
I thought the Meet me feature was just people checking out
photos and answering yes maybe or no to liking the picture..
which translates to "would you meet this person?"
Then fishes sends you an email saying "flipsthroughpictures
wants to meet you!"

So it really doesn't mean anything.

My experience here has been if you want to meet someone,
you send them a message.

I don't do the pictures thing because I found other people
take it seriously and you're not allowed to comment on the
pictures. :-/
 Running_Mom_70
Joined: 5/24/2015
Msg: 27
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Posted: 6/5/2015 3:52:45 AM
I have learned to pay 'meet me' no attention.
Instead, I have provided information in my profile that I don't use the feature, and the user can either message me directly, or place me on favorites and I'll make contact.

Low contacts, but that's the way I like it.
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